u/Known-Program4511

32F. Live at home in a HCOL. My 20s were spent depressed, failing out of college and getting trapped in an abusive relationship. I escaped and moved back home.

I somehow managed to land a compliance gig, but it's a job. Not a career. And I don't have any upward trajectory.

I went back to college at 29. I applied to nursing degree and am now in my last semester of BSN. I'll be done in 2-3 months. The problem? I hate nursing. I only picked it because I was jobless and homeless at the time and didn't want to gamble on a college degree that would not equal immediate job. I have spent contless hours in hospitals etc. and the work would probably legit kill me. I'd take it if my compliance gig crashes, but I'd prefer a career with more upwards mobility.

I was initially interested in economy/finance. Maybe I could apply to masters in finance (possible at my local uni, spoke with advisor and it would be free for me). But who would hire a 35yo fresh finance grad?

Oh, and I just got dumped after my first healthy relationship :( my self esteem is in the toilet, I feel like utter failure. I think I look ugly. I have very thin savings. I'm aging. Hate the path I'm on. And with how it's going, I may not ever be able to have kids.

What do I do?

Got ghosted and I think I relapsed completely

CPTSD has ruined so much of my life. Things finally took a turn for the better and I met a man around november last year. Daily contact, minimum weekly dates, intimacy, weekend trips...

I thought I finally found my person. I know it's cliche, but feeling loved and accepted for the first time in 30+ years did heal something in me. I felt chosen.

Then around mid april he started asking distant. I asked him what's up. He told me everything is ok, he's just tired etc... I asked him to call me, because I wanted to talk about what's going on and our relationship. He avoided, and said he needs a bit of "time".

And he just never contacted me again. I really tough he just needed a bit of time. I just realized I've been ghosted about two weeks ago.

And the pain is inhumane. It's like all of my old symptoms came back; the worthlessnes. Feeling like trash. Not being even worthy of a conversation and honesty. I feel so extremely used. I keep waking up, can't sleep, can't eat. My doctor prescribed me heavy dose of prazosin, and even that helps for a few hours max.

I wonder whats wrong with me for him to do that. I never was chosen. Ever. Same shit all the time and it keeps accumulating.

Every breakup is worse. And I don't know how long can I go on.

Ok, my parents never loved me...why would a man?

Slow faded / ghosted after six months

Six months of talking daily, seeing eacother at least once per week, went on few trips together... We are both in our mid 30s.

He started actung distant about a month ago. I was constantly asking him what's wrong, I adked him to call bc I wanted to talk etc... He just told me everything is ok, he's just tired etc... Total vibe switch from before. He told me he's feeling "off" and needs a bit of time. Realized he hasn't texted in two fucking weeks.

He didn't even sent a break up text. Nothing. Just left me in total fucking limbo. I can't process this. I'm tempted to reach out and ask for explanation, but it almost feels hummiliating.

I wish he just broke up with me. He had so many chances. He could have just sent a fucking text, not pretend everything is okay.

I've been in emotional limbo for weeks.

Slow faded / ghosted after six months

Six months of talking daily, seeing eacother at least once per week, went on few trips together... We are both in our mid 30s.

He started actung distant about a month ago. I was constantly asking him what's wrong, I adked him to call bc I wanted to talk etc... He just told me everything is ok, he's just tired etc... Total vibe switch from before. He told me he's feeling "off" and needs a bit of time. Realized he hasn't texted in two fucking weeks.

He didn't even sent a break up text. Nothing. Just left me in total fucking limbo. I can't process this. I'm tempted to reach out and ask for explanation, but it almost feels hummiliating.

I wish he just broke up with me. He had so many chances. He could have just sent a fucking text, not pretend everything is okay.

I've been in emotional limbo for weeks.

I am seriously curious, especially when it's a very young, single woman going into this dynamic (up to mid 20s). Possibly with a much older men. Especially when they have the looks to pull literally any random single dude. What makes this go on.

Can someone provide a psychological insight?

I just realized I got slow faded/ghosted by my (ex) bf of half a year

Just realized that my (ex) bf slow faded me over two week

We have been together for half a year +. Daily contact, very frequently seeing each other irl (minimum one date night per week). Things shifted about two weeks ago, very sudden change from him, he became short and distant. I tried to confront him, asked him what was happening, even asked for a phone call to talk once.

And what he did? Nothing. He just said he feels bad mentally and is off from everything.

Haven't head from him for a week +.

I realized I have been slow faded/ghisted by a 36yo man. I seriously tought he was just struggling. I guess this is it now.

How cruel. Two weeks of limbo, he could have just ended it... It hurts so much, I want to puke. He put me through this shir for two weeks just because he was too much of a coward to end it.

Just realized that my (ex) bf slow faded me over two week

We have been together for half a year +. Daily contact, very frequently seeing each other irl (minimum one date night per week). Things shifted about two weeks ago, very sudden change from him, he became short and distant. I tried to confront him, asked him what was happening, even asked for a phone call to talk once.

And what he did? Nothing. He just said he feels bad mentally and is off from everything.

Haven't head from him for a week +.

I realized I have been slow faded/ghisted by a 36yo man. I seriously tought he was just struggling. I guess this is it now.

How cruel. Two weeks of limbo, he could have just ended it... It hurts so much, I want to puke. He put me through this shir for two weeks just because he was too much of a coward to end it.

Boyfriend (32M) when ghost before my (29F) brithday

My bf went quiet about two weeks ago. This is my first seriously healthy relationship and I was very happy we found eacother - the match is really rare bc we connect on extremely niche lifestyle we both live and all other pieces (age, location, finances, future goals etc.) allign too.

So, about two weeks ago, he had therapy session (he started going just recently to deal with some stuff im the past he is not ready to talk about yet)... And after that, something just flipped in him. He was extremely quiet, distant, etc. Then about a week ago, after I checked on him, he was telling me everything is ok, but he's feeling so sad and fucked up he is off from phone and life etc.

I asked if I should just leave him a lone for a bit? He said yeah... That he needs some time.

And I respected that. It was my birthday, so after a week of complete silence he justs texts "happy birthday". Nothing else.

And now I'm also becoming worried with our relationship... :/ idk what to do or say, I feel completely lost.

Boyfriend (32M) when ghost before my (29F) brithday

My bf went quiet about two weeks ago. This is my first seriously healthy relationship and I was very happy we found eacother - the match is really rare bc we connect on extremely niche lifestyle we both live and all other pieces (age, location, finances, future goals etc.) allign too.

So, about two weeks ago, he had therapy session (he started going just recently to deal with some stuff im the past he is not ready to talk about yet)... And after that, something just flipped in him. He was extremely quiet, distant, etc. Then about a week ago, after I checked on him, he was telling me everything is ok, but he's feeling so sad and fucked up he is off from phone and life etc.

I asked if I should just leave him a lone for a bit? He said yeah... That he needs some time.

And I respected that. It was my birthday, so after a week of complete silence he justs texts "happy birthday". Nothing else.

And now I'm also becoming worried with our relationship... :/ idk what to do or say, I feel completely lost.

My bf went quiet about two weeks ago. This is my first seriously healthy relationship and I was very happy we found eacother - the match is really rare bc we connect on extremely niche lifestyle we both live and all other pieces (age, location, finances, future goals etc.) allign too.

So, about two weeks ago, he had therapy session (he started going just recently to deal with some stuff im the past he is not ready to talk about yet)... And after that, something just flipped in him. He was extremely quiet, distant, etc. Then about a week ago, after I checked on him, he was telling me everything is ok, but he's feeling so sad and fucked up he is off from phone and life etc.

I asked if I should just leave him a lone for a bit? He said yeah... That he needs some time.

And I respected that. It was my birthday, so after a week of complete silence he justs texts "happy birthday". Nothing else.

And now I'm also becoming worried with our relationship... :/ idk what to do or say, I feel completely lost.

My bf went quiet about a week ago. This is my first seriously healthy relationship and I was very happy we found eacother - the match is really rare bc we connect on extremely niche lifestyle we both live and all other pieces (age, location, finances, future goals etc.) allign too.

So, about two weeks ago, he had therapy session (he started going just recently to deal with some stuff im the past he is not ready to talk about yet)... And after that, something just flipped in him. He was extremely quiet, distant, etc. Then about a week ago, after I checked on him, he was telling me everything is ok, but he's feeling so sad and fucked up he is off from phone and life etc.

I asked if I should just leave him a lone for a bit? He said yeah... That he needs some time.

And I respected that. But he hasn't texted me in a week now. No words. Nothing. I want to respect his space, that he requested. But I'm seriously worried about him.

And now I'm also becoming worried with our relationship... :/

What do I do?

As per title, my (29F) BF (32M) of over a year went quiet about a week ago. This is my first seriously healthy relationship and I was very happy we found eacother - the match is really rare bc we connect on extremely niche lifestyle we both live and all other pieces (age, location, finances, future goals etc.) allign too.

So, about two weeks ago, he had therapy session (he started going just recently to deal with some stuff im the past he is not ready to talk about yet)... And after that, something just flipped in him. He was extremely quiet, distant, etc. Then about a week ago, after I checked on him, he was telling me everything is ok, but he's feeling so sad and fucked up he is off from phone and life etc.

I asked if I should just leave him a lone for a bit? He said yeah... That he needs some time.

And I respected that. But he hasn't texted me in a week now. No words. Nothing. I want to respect his space, that he requested. But I'm seriously worried about him.

And now I'm also becoming worried with our relationship... :/