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Då menar jag äkta "rakad" kebab på snurrande spett. Inte den färdiga frysta skiten 90% av pizzeriorna använder.

Åt en riktigt bra döner kebab i Stockholm idag och den satt så bra att jag vill göra det igen snart utan att behöva åka till Stockholm.

Obs, om du tänker tipsa om en pizzeria som hade god kebab sist du var där för 15 år sedan kan du hålla på det. Många pizzerior hade äkta kebab förr men tyvärr inte längre.

Ni som brukar vara i/åka till Visby under Medeltidsveckan, hur är det egentligen? Vad gör man? Bor man i tält? På hotel? Klär alla ut sig? Ett fåtal? Är man på ett festivalområde eller blir hela stan lite medeltida? Rollspelar man och låtsas att man är handelsman från Lübeck eller pratar man om Instagram och sitt vardagsjobb. Hur får man tiden att gå? Stannar man hela veckan eller bara några dagar?

Ja ni fattar, jag har massa frågor och hoppas ni sitter på många svar.

Hey fellow r/loseit redditors!

I want to start by saying that this post was originally written in my native language and translated with the help of AI.

I hope this post can inspire others who are either just starting or already in the middle of their weight loss journey. Personally, I have so far lost a total of 50 kilos from my highest weight of 130 kg. Even more if you count all the times I went up and down between 90 and 100 kg.

Right now I weigh 80 kg and have about 5–6 kg left to my goal weight, but I’m currently taking a maintenance break after a long and fairly hard cut.

This time is different. I can feel it in every cell of my body. Over the past year I have lost more weight than in previous years when I was only half-heartedly trying. I kind of believe that "this is the one", or whatever you want to call it. This time I’ve lost the weight, and I will stay down here for the rest of my life. I have never been this certain about anything in my entire life.

I have reflected a lot on why, and I have come up with a list of success factors and insights that have helped me get closer to my goal weight than ever before. I want to share these with you in the hope that they might inspire or help someone else who is struggling like I was.

I will keep this general so the advice can apply to everyone. There will be no exact training plans or calorie targets, just broader strokes. I also want to say that I’m not selling anything, I won’t link to any websites, and I will absolutely not DM anyone about joining some weight loss scheme. Just a long read.

Here is some short background information about me so you know my starting point. I am a man between 35 and 40 years old and a father of small children. I have a sedentary full-time office job, I love food, and I have a very easy time overeating. My highest weight was 130 kg, about 15 years ago. My current weight is 80 kg. I have struggled with weight loss for as long as I can remember.

First, the insights.

These are insights I have come to and been forced to accept — and I think you should too.

1. This is for life

Do you need to be on a diet for the rest of your life? Yes and no. You will not need to be in a calorie deficit for the rest of your life, but you will need to think about what you eat for the rest of your life. If you can’t accept that, you might as well not bother.

For me personally, I know what happens when I eat "whatever I want", and it is not aligned with my goal. Because of that, I have to keep myself on a fairly short leash. This IS a change in who you are as a person that has to happen. You need to learn to enjoy healthier food, and you need to learn to enjoy moving your body.

1. Expect that every kilo of body weight you want to lose will take AT LEAST TWO WEEKS

Can it go faster? Yes, but two weeks is a good rule of thumb. So if you want to lose, say, 20 kg and you are not willing to commit to yourself EVERY DAY (with the occasional cheat meal, absolutely), for at least 40 weeks, then you might as well not bother.

It will be tough, but that’s exactly why so few people succeed.

1. It will be worth it

This is SO important. I honestly can’t think of a single negative thing about having lost weight and getting closer to a body I actually like.

When I was overweight, I used to laugh at “nothing tastes as good as skinny feels”, but honestly, it’s true. Food is great. I love food. I love eating. I love being full. I hate being hungry. I suffer a bit every day in a calorie deficit, but I do it gladly because nothing compares to living in a body you actually like.

I would give up all the good food in the world and eat nothing but chicken and rice for the rest of my life if it meant I could live in a body I like and that feels healthy. Period.

1. You don’t need to quit everything, but you do need to quit a lot

I know how I work. One cheat day per week can easily destroy an entire week of progress, so I allowed myself one cheat MEAL per MONTH. Just one meal where I completely let go and ate whatever I wanted.

Not a cheat day — one single meal.

That meant I stuck to my normal routine all the way until dinner (it was usually dinner, but sometimes breakfast or lunch), and the next day I was immediately back to my plan.

Here is a list of things I did to succeed. I understand that not everyone has the same opportunities, time, money, living situation, or job, so I’ve listed them from things I believe almost anyone can do at the top, to things that are more privilege-based at the bottom. Hopefully you can take at least something from it.

Walk 10,000 steps every day

I got a step counter, but you can also estimate how long you need to walk in a certain pace to reach the goal. I stopped taking the elevator and started parking further away from entrances.

I also started using timers so I wouldn’t sit still for too long — I would get up for a minute, grab water, or do something small.

I took every opportunity to walk instead of driving or staying seated. Even small things like cleaning or walking around the house instead of sitting down add up over the day.

Started counting calories

I used a free app, and there are plenty of good ones. I also bought a kitchen scale for about 100 SEK — nothing more is needed.

Then I started weighing and logging EVERYTHING I ate and made sure I stayed in a deficit

Meal prep

Just do it, life becomes so much easier! My best tip is to use ChatGPT. Enter all the ingredients you use in total, divide by how many portions it makes, and ask AI to list all the ingredients and the amount of each so you can log it in your app.

Used ChatGPT for support

Also free. I created a chat that I keep returning to where I asked AI to act as my weight loss guide. I gave it my situation and what I wanted it to do — including being a supportive but strict accountability partner and tracking my weight daily while analyzing trends over time. Also...

Weigh yourself every day, but only look at the trend

I bought a scale (fairly expensive, about 1000 SEK), but any scale works. Just make sure you use the same one, every day, at the same time — preferably in the morning before eating.

You feed this data to ChatGPT and learn to ignore daily fluctuations and only focus on the long-term trend.

My weight could fluctuate by up to 2.5 kg in a single day, which felt completely useless, but AI helped me zoom out and focus on the bigger picture.

Strength train a few times per week

I chose 4 times per week because it works for me. Later in the list you can see why that was easy in my situation, but the important thing is: strength training can look many different ways, and there is a ton of information online.

The key is:

1. Actually do it
2. Get very close to failure

If you have access to a gym it’s easier, but even without one, I promise you that doing push-ups and squats to failure 3 sets, 2–4 times per week will absolutely make a difference over a year.

Train during work hours

Now we are into things not everyone can do. I am lucky enough to work from home a lot, which has allowed me to move during work hours.

Sometimes I had lighter workdays, or meetings where I only needed to listen. I used those moments to move or train.

Try to find small moments during your workday where you prioritize movement or exercise.

Get a home gym

This is something very few people can do. I bought a home gym setup. I understand not everyone has the space or money, but this made a big difference for me because it made it easier to train even when I didn’t feel like it.

But this can be adapted — maybe you can afford a kettlebell, a bench with dumbbells, or resistance bands.

Hope you got something out of reading this far, and good luck on your weight loss journey.

Såg just en video där någon "influencer" eller whatever stoppade en man på stan i Helsingfors och sa ungefär som i rubriken. Jag började då tänka på var jag hade tagit med någon som frågade mig det och kom inte på något bra alls.

Var hade du tagit med personen om du hade fått frågan?

Behöver ju självklart inte vara OMÖJLIGT för en turist att hitta, men kanske något som typ behöver en "äkta ortsbo" för att hitta eller våga prova.

Hej! Jag är en man närmare 40 än 30 som har ett på pappret bra jobb. Jobbar "på kontor" och tjänar ganska bra med pengar och har flexibla arbetstider. Jag tycker dock att jobba generellt känns helt meningslöst och jag hade personligen gärna gått i pension igår om det hade funkat rent ekonomiskt. På möten och föreläsningar när folk säger "Ja vad spännande berätta mer!" så sitter jag och tänker "Nej, snälla sluta prata så jag kan gå härifrån" osv.

Problemet är att jag kommer flytta inom en snar framtid och kommer då behöva leta efter ett nytt jobb och här kommer mitt ärliga problem, absolut inte ett enda jobb, eller en enda utbildning känns lockande, intressant eller kul.

Jag skulle gärna höra från någon som har varit i en liknande sits som mig. Vad gjorde du då?

Avtackar mig vänligt men bestämt kommentarer i still med "Äh ett jobb ska inte vara kul. Bit ihop!" Det är inte riktigt vad jag behöver höra för det är jag väl medveten om.

Det jag undrar över är vad i helvete man ska ta sig till när man har 25+ år kvar att jobba med redan nu känns precis alla karriärval som ren tortyr. Bara tanken på att sitta på någon jobbintervju och försöka känna lite pepp över ett jobb ger mig ont i magen. Jag kan inte riktigt beskriva det men det är som att min "jobbsjäl" totalt är död.

Jag scrollar ofta LinkedIn efter nya jobb att söka men får alltid samma känsla. Antingen A. "Nej fy vad själadödande att jobba med det där" eller B. "Wow, det där jobbet skulle jag aldrig klara av, det är till för såna kompetenta människor som är passionerade över sitt jobb"

Jag känner mig som i en djup grop som är omöjlig att klättra ur och jag vet helt ärligt inte vad jag ska ta mig till.

I’m a busy dad with a small child but still manage to train 4 times a week.

However, I don’t have much time, so I only do one exercise per muscle group. One warm-up set, then 2 heavy sets (8–12 reps) to one rep from failure. I’ve gotten great results from this, but now I’m starting to feel the calorie deficit and I’m getting tired of lifting heavy. So I was thinking maybe you could combine low and high reps in the same exercise — has anyone tried it?

I’m thinking something like this:
Exercise 1: 1 warm-up set, 1 heavy set to 1 rep from failure (6–12 reps), then rest 3 minutes and do one final set at maybe 60% of the weight from set 2 to failure, around 20 reps. Then move on to the next exercise and do the same thing.

What do you think? Could this be the best of both worlds for a tired dad with limited time who only has time for one exercise per muscle group per session? Has anyone tried this and knows it works?

*The text is written by me but translated with AI*