u/Legal-Ring-7613

I'm a trans man, and lately I've been feeling pulled to explore my sexuality more, like my sense of who I'm attracted to is shifting as I get more settled in who I am. I identify as pan and have been with cis men before, but lately I've found myself drawn toward masculinity in general, whether that's other trans men or cis men, more than I have in a while. The hard part is I'm in a committed relationship right now, and I've noticed I'm just not feeling that pull toward my partner anymore. We used to be really sexually active, so this shift has been jarring for me, too. It's confusing and, honestly, a little scary to admit.

I want to be clear, I still deeply care about this person. We've built so much together: a home, a life in a new city, and history that actually means something to me. That's part of what makes this so hard. I'm not unhappy with them as a person or as a partner. I just genuinely don't know where I stand anymore when it comes to attraction, and I hate that.

I've tried open relationships in the past, but I don't think that's the answer here; this particular relationship doesn't feel like it would work that way. It feels more like something in me is changing, and I don't know what to do with that.

Please don't recommend therapy; I'll be trying that route as well.

What I'm looking for: advice on how to approach this with my partner, and perspective from anyone who's navigated a shift in attraction or sexual identity while already committed to someone. Did you find a way to work through it together, or did it end up meaning the relationship needed to change?

Hey everyone. Long post, sorry in advance.
I recently moved to a new city and lost my previous health insurance in the process. I’m now on state coverage and it’s been a journey. I’m a trans man on testosterone, mid-30s, part of the LGBTQ+ community, and have been dealing with ADHD, OCD, anxiety, and depression for most of my life.

I’ve just been feeling extremely stuck lately. Things I used to love don’t really interest me anymore and motivation has basically left the building. I also have pretty much no appetite and I smoke a good amount of weed which I know probably plays into all of this in ways I can’t always untangle. I don’t know how much of what I’m feeling is the depression, the ADHD, the T, the weed, or all of the above. Probably all of the above honestly.
I’m currently on Lexapro 10mg and have been thinking about switching to Wellbutrin. I’ve heard it can help with both depression and ADHD which feels like it could be a better fit for where I am right now. Worth mentioning that Wellbutrin is also known to suppress appetite even more, which I’m a little aware of going in since that’s already a struggle for me. I haven’t been medicated for ADHD since I was 17, even though I was on meds for it from age 5. Tried a ton of things as a kid, some worked, some made me sick, but I was so young I barely remember what any of it was.

Has anyone made the switch from Lexapro to Wellbutrin, especially if you smoke? Is it worth pushing to talk to someone before making that change, or is it pretty straightforward to bring up with whoever is managing my meds? I know Wellbutrin affects people differently and I just want to go in informed.
And honestly more than anything, is anyone else in a similar spot?

TIA ♥️

Hey everyone. Long post, sorry in advance.
I recently moved to a new city and lost my previous health insurance in the process. I’m now on state coverage and it’s been a journey. I’m a trans man on testosterone, mid-30s, part of the LGBTQ+ community, and have been dealing with ADHD, OCD, anxiety, and depression for most of my life.

I’ve just been feeling extremely stuck lately. Things I used to love don’t really interest me anymore and motivation has basically left the building. I also have pretty much no appetite and I smoke a good amount of weed which I know probably plays into all of this in ways I can’t always untangle. I don’t know how much of what I’m feeling is the depression, the ADHD, the T, the weed, or all of the above. Probably all of the above honestly.
I’m currently on Lexapro 10mg and have been thinking about switching to Wellbutrin. I’ve heard it can help with both depression and ADHD which feels like it could be a better fit for where I am right now. Worth mentioning that Wellbutrin is also known to suppress appetite even more, which I’m a little aware of going in since that’s already a struggle for me. I haven’t been medicated for ADHD since I was 17, even though I was on meds for it from age 5. Tried a ton of things as a kid, some worked, some made me sick, but I was so young I barely remember what any of it was.

Has anyone made the switch from Lexapro to Wellbutrin, especially if you smoke? Is it worth pushing to talk to someone before making that change, or is it pretty straightforward to bring up with whoever is managing my meds? I know Wellbutrin affects people differently and I just want to go in informed.
And honestly more than anything, is anyone else in a similar spot?

TIA ♥️

Hey everyone. Long post, sorry in advance.
I recently moved to a new city and lost my previous health insurance in the process. I’m now on state coverage and it’s been a journey. I’m a trans man on testosterone, mid-30s, part of the LGBTQ+ community, and have been dealing with ADHD, OCD, anxiety, and depression for most of my life.

I’ve just been feeling extremely stuck lately. Things I used to love don’t really interest me anymore and motivation has basically left the building. I also have pretty much no appetite and I smoke a good amount of weed which I know probably plays into all of this in ways I can’t always untangle. I don’t know how much of what I’m feeling is the depression, the ADHD, the T, the weed, or all of the above. Probably all of the above honestly.
I’m currently on Lexapro 10mg and have been thinking about switching to Wellbutrin. I’ve heard it can help with both depression and ADHD which feels like it could be a better fit for where I am right now. Worth mentioning that Wellbutrin is also known to suppress appetite even more, which I’m a little aware of going in since that’s already a struggle for me. I haven’t been medicated for ADHD since I was 17, even though I was on meds for it from age 5. Tried a ton of things as a kid, some worked, some made me sick, but I was so young I barely remember what any of it was.

Has anyone made the switch from Lexapro to Wellbutrin, especially if you smoke? Is it worth pushing to talk to someone before making that change, or is it pretty straightforward to bring up with whoever is managing my meds? I know Wellbutrin affects people differently and I just want to go in informed.
And honestly more than anything, is anyone else in a similar spot?

TIA ♥️

I walk my dog on the same route every day and occasionally pass this guy near SW Webster and 24th, by the Home Depot/Police Department, who always has his dog off leash. My dog is reactive around dogs she hasn’t met, so we always give them space when we pass. This dude has always given me the weirdest looks for it like it’s some kind of personal attack.

Today was already a sensitive one because my dog had just been sedated for a minor procedure, so I was avoiding all dogs no matter what. When I walked around them on the other side of the grass, he straight up yelled “fucking racist, that’s why!” I turned around and tried to explain that my dog isn’t friendly, especially today after her procedure, but he immediately cut me off and went off on me. Started screaming that if I just socialized my dog more she wouldn’t be reactive, and kept calling me racist.

Look, I get it. I am white and Lebanese and I carry white privilege but like, bro. What the fuck.

Who’s the guy that drives his insanely loud and annoying sports bike on Delridge/Holden every day around 9am and 8pm? I just want to have a few words.