u/Leo_617

Notice. Please don't be aggressive if something I ask or say seems silly or unpleasant. If so, it's genuine ignorance, and I'd appreciate any corrections. I'm somewhat unfamiliar with these topics.

When I first read The Dispossessed, in the episode with Shevek and Vea, I didn't think about abuse. I admit that was partly because I was somewhat absorbed in other parts of the novel (and I admit I was more focused on Shevek's drunken and confused experience than on his actions).

Then I came across this forum and saw that it was described as attempted sexual abuse. I looked it up again and I think I understand why they say that; I think they're right, although it still bothers me. I'm not sure why (maybe I'm justifying Shevek because he was drunk?). I wanted to talk about it, listen, and understand. Perhaps expand on it to other works.

I recently read A Man of the People (Four Paths to Forgiveness) and I was disgusted by a certain scene near the end. Reading Ursula's comments about Tehanu, I seem to recall her mentioning that the men who tried to enter Ogion's old house were trying to abuse Tenar and/or Tehanu, something that didn't occur to me when I read the novel.

I'm not trying to trivialize anything; I simply want to hear other opinions, both regarding The Dispossessed and Ursula's work in general. Thank you for your understanding.

I've loved Estarriol since the first time I read it. I mean, I identify more with Ged (a foolish boy who grows into a good man, albeit still a fool), but Estarriol is my aspiration, the friend I want to be.

Since Roke School, he looked after and helped Ged, even though he was somewhat foolish. And although accompanying Ged on his crusade was probably a bit irresponsible toward his people, as a friend he's unbeatable—that loyalty, courage, and prudence. I love him. The fact that Ged (and Ursula herself) thought of him in his final days is both beautiful and a little sad, because I would have loved to see him one more time, perhaps accompanying Ged to the dead world in The Farthest Shore, or visiting him during Tehanu or The Other Wind.

I just wanted to express my affection for Ursula's characters, one in particular. Any other expositions of beloved characters (preferably non-protagonists) are welcome.

So, I was straight, although I'd had some curious thoughts.

Then, I started watching porn at 13, and the usual story: increasingly varied content. I even saw the trans category (which I now know is disgusting in its fetishization) and then gay porn, and I started fantasizing about it.

Now I consider myself bisexual and I have doubts about my sexual identity.

I've had a boyfriend and I really liked him. I'm attracted to both men and women. These feelings are genuine, I mean, they go beyond addiction, but it bothers me to feel that part of it is related to my addiction, and it sometimes makes them feel fake or inappropriate, and that bothers me.

I don't know, I don't know if I should seek advice. I guess I'm just curious if other people have felt something like this.

I suppose this might be a common question, but I'd be interested to know what's been said about the sensation of drowning. What does it feel like to drown? Is there a difference between fresh and salt water? What does it feel like after surviving a drowning?