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M22, looking for a fellow trekker/mountaineer for Friendship Peak Expedition — 23–26 Sept

M22, looking for 1–2 people to join me for a Friendship Peak Expedition (23–26 September).

A little about me:

• Highest altitude: ~16,000 ft (Pin Bhaba Pass)
• Fitness: Gym + running
• Have completed a half marathon
• Comfortable with long, demanding days in the mountains
• Looking to do this independently with a small group rather than through an operator

I'm particularly looking for someone with prior mountaineering/technical climbing experience, since I don't have much technical experience myself and would rather go with someone who knows what they're doing on a peak like Friendship.

If you're planning the same expedition around these dates and are looking for a partner/group, DM me. We can discuss the route, gear, logistics, costs and whether we're a good fit.

Prefer people who are serious about the climb and not just looking for a casual trek.

I'm a CS Engineering graduate, and I feel completely lost.

For the past few years, I've been stuck in the same cycle. I find a new skill, career, business idea, or project that genuinely excites me, and I become fully invested in it. I spend weeks or even a couple of months learning, planning, and working on it, believing that I've finally found what I want to pursue.

Then, almost overnight, I lose all interest. It's never gradual—it feels like a switch flips in my brain. I quit and start searching for the next thing that gives me that same excitement, only for the cycle to repeat.

I've done this so many times that I've lost count.

The worst part is that I no longer trust my own motivation. Whenever I start something new, there's always a voice in my head saying, "You'll quit this too." Because of that, I struggle to even begin, knowing I'll probably abandon it again.

I don't know whether this is a discipline issue, fear of commitment, chasing novelty, burnout, ADHD, or something else.

Has anyone been in this exact situation and actually managed to break out of it? What changed for you, and how did you finally stick with one path?

Hey everyone!

I'm a 22-year-old from Jammu, and for the last couple of years I've been slowly falling in love with the mountains. So far I've done all my hikes and treks solo (Triund and Laka Glacier), and while solo travel has taught me a lot, I think it's time to experience the Himalayas with someone who enjoys them for the same reasons I do.

I'm planning a 6-7 day DIY trek sometime during September or October. I don't have a fixed destination yet, so I'm open to suggestions. I'm looking for something scenic, moderately challenging, and preferably less commercial.

A little about me:

• Good fitness level and comfortable with long hiking days.
• Usually up before sunrise because mountain mornings are worth losing sleep over.
• I enjoy photography, journaling, reading, music, camping, and simply slowing down enough to appreciate where I am.
• My travel style is somewhere in the middle. I don't mind spending more for experiences that actually add value, but I'm not interested in luxury for the sake of it.
• I'd describe myself as curious, spontaneous, and somewhere between introverted and extroverted.

Why specifically a female trekking partner?

Honestly, I've always traveled solo, and this time I'd like a different experience. In my day-to-day life, I generally find conversations with women more thoughtful and emotionally aware, which often makes for a more enjoyable travel experience. This isn't about dating or anything similar. The goal is simply to find someone who genuinely enjoys trekking and would like to share the journey.

What I'm looking for:

• Someone around my age (not a strict requirement).
• Decent fitness. You don't have to be an athlete, but you should be comfortable hiking for several days.
• Non-smoker.
• Fine with an occasional drink, but if alcohol is the main reason you travel, we probably won't be a good match.
• Enjoys nature more than constantly chasing phone signals.
• Interested in things like photography, journaling, wildlife, local culture, sunrise hikes, campfire conversations, river crossings, or just quietly taking in the mountains.

For planning, I'd prefer we first chat on Reddit, exchange social media if we both feel comfortable, and if we're in the same region, we could even meet before finalizing anything.

If you're also planning a Himalayan trek this autumn and think we'd make good trekking partners, feel free to reach out. Even if our plans don't align perfectly, I'm always happy to exchange trek ideas and routes.

This version avoids sounding like a dating post while still clearly explaining why you're looking for a woman as a trekking partner. It also gives enough personality that someone can picture what traveling with you would actually be like.

She cheated early in the relationship. I stayed because I loved her, but I never truly got over it. The relationship became increasingly toxic, with constant fights and emotional ups and downs.
6 months ago, I found out she was talking to another guy. I ended the relationship immediately. Later, I spoke to him myself, and he confirmed he had backed away after learning she already had a boyfriend. That gave me the closure I thought I needed.
The breakup destroyed me for a while, but I slowly started rebuilding my life. I got consistent in the gym, focused on my exams, and genuinely felt like I was moving on.
Then she came back.
She keeps finding ways to contact me. I block her, then end up unblocking her. She calls, sends requests from what I believe are fake accounts, and whenever we do interact, she somehow acts as if I’m the one who wronged her.
The worst part is that every time she reappears, I lose my focus again. I start overthinking, stop concentrating on my goals, and feel like I’m back at square one, now days i am again back to 0, i literally go to omegle, looking for girls(which i neverrrrr did in past), i have started excessive masturbation, it disappoints because, i thought i have been healed.
Logically, I know I should block her everywhere and never look back. But emotionally, I keep hesitating. It feels like blocking her completely means accepting that those five years are truly over, and I don’t know why that’s so hard despite everything she’s done.
Has anyone else experienced this? Why is it so difficult to let go even when you know the relationship wasn’t healthy?
I remain anxious all the time now, i have no skill to pursue my career now, More importantly, what actually helped you break that attachment and stop someone from affecting your peace of mind?

I am a guy who hasdone 2 solos before, this time i feel like having a good company and experience it differently.
We can talk and if the vibe matches, we can go for it..