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I’m struggling to understand if my friends are bad friends or I’m just over dramatic so I’ve come on here to see if anyone can help and give me some advice.

Here are some of the things they say or do:

\- I find I’m always having to explain myself to my friends for having a life outside of our friend group. If they’ve suggested a hangout and I’m unable to attend they become very annoyed and start pestering me for what I’m doing that’s more important than them. Whatever I tell them my plans they always say “just cancel them” and it really frustrates me as I have a life outside of this friend group. Also I have another friend who has so many friends she’s barely able to hangout with us which fine but they never pester her about hanging out with other people only me.

\- My friends also judge me for not going to uni, my whole friend group except me is going to uni and since uni has started all of them make comment about me not attending uni and keeping asking when I’m honing to go which I have continually told them I’m not.

\- My friends also ask me a lot what I do with my life if I don’t go to uni and if I don’t have a job (I have a job now tho) and try to diminish the things I do with my day as it’s not what I “should be doing”.

\- My friends are also obsessed with drama like ofc drama can be fun but their talking about the same situation from like a year ago and they always tell everyone about this drama even people who have no involvement in the situation.

\- I also don’t share many of the same interests as my friends as we met in high school and they tend to judge me for spending a lot of time listening to music and watching films and tell me I’m wasting my life and it’s not like they have more hobbies than me or anything they just like to pick on me.

\- I also feel like I’m drifting apart from my friends as we have almost nothing in common and I always feel miserable when I hangout with them.

FYI:
Since finishing high school my friends and I rarely hangout nor did we hangout often outside of school so I’ve always found it odd that they’ve judged me for my social life

Any advice on how to deal with friends like this would be great and I understand these people aren’t good friends but still feel guilty for letting them go.

I’m struggling to understand if my friends are bad friends or I’m just over dramatic so I’ve come on here to see if anyone can help and give me some advice.

Here are some of the things they say or do:

- I find I’m always having to explain myself to my friends for having a life outside of our friend group. If they’ve suggested a hangout and I’m unable to attend they become very annoyed and start pestering me for what I’m doing that’s more important than them. Whatever I tell them my plans they always say “just cancel them” and it really frustrates me as I have a life outside of this friend group. Also I have another friend who has so many friends she’s barely able to hangout with us which fine but they never pester her about hanging out with other people only me.

- My friends also judge me for not going to uni, my whole friend group except me is going to uni and since uni has started all of them make comment about me not attending uni and keeping asking when I’m honing to go which I have continually told them I’m not.

- My friends also ask me a lot what I do with my life if I don’t go to uni and if I don’t have a job (I have a job now tho) and try to diminish the things I do with my day as it’s not what I “should be doing”.

- My friends are also obsessed with drama like ofc drama can be fun but their talking about the same situation from like a year ago and they always tell everyone about this drama even people who have no involvement in the situation.

- I also don’t share many of the same interests as my friends as we met in high school and they tend to judge me for spending a lot of time listening to music and watching films and tell me I’m wasting my life and it’s not like they have more hobbies than me or anything they just like to pick on me.

- I also feel like I’m drifting apart from my friends as we have almost nothing in common and I always feel miserable when I hangout with them.

FYI:
Since finishing high school my friends and I rarely hangout nor did we hangout often outside of school so I’ve always found it odd that they’ve judged me for my social life

Any advice on how to deal with friends like this would be great and I understand these people aren’t good friends but still feel guilty for letting them go.

Hi I recently graduated high school and I have decided that I don’t want to pursue higher education at the moment, my main reason for not going to uni is mainly the cost and not really knowing what I would want to study at uni.

My friends are about to finish their first semester of uni which great for them but every time we all hangout someone has to bring up the fact I’m not in uni and always asks if I’ll go in the future. I’ve started to resent hanging out with my friends because of this as no can understand that I dont want to waste my money or time on a degree that I dont want to do. I’m starting to wonder if they keep making comments because my parents didn’t pressure me into attending uni and I think a couple of my friends may be a bit jealous of that as their parents made them go to uni.

During my last year of high school I felt a lot of pressure from these friends and other people like teachers into going to uni as that’s what’s expected from me and now I’m struggling with the judgement from people around me. My friend recently said to me “so how’s your gap year going”, I’ve never stated I was taking a gap year I’m just not going and it’s been really hard to deal with this judgement from them. If anyone has any advice on how to navigate through this point if my life it would be appreciated

Hi I recently graduated high school and I have decided that I don’t want to pursue higher education at the moment, my main reason for not going to uni is mainly the cost and not really knowing what I would want to study at uni.

My friends are about to finish their first semester of uni which great for them but every time we all hangout someone has to bring up the fact I’m not in uni and always asks if I’ll go in the future. I’ve started to resent hanging out with my friends because of this as no can understand that I dont want to waste my money or time on a degree that I dont want to do. I’m starting to wonder if they keep making comments because my parents didn’t pressure me into attending uni and I think a couple of my friends may be a bit jealous of that as their parents made them go to uni.

During my last year of high school I felt a lot of pressure from these friends and other people like teachers into going to uni as that’s what’s expected from me and now I’m struggling with the judgement from people around me. My friend recently said to me “so how’s your gap year going”, I’ve never stated I was taking a gap year I’m just not going and it’s been really hard to deal with this judgement from them. If anyone has any advice on how to navigate through this point if my life it would be appreciated