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Title: Seeking advice: Finding an affordable (₹1,000/session), neuro-affirming therapist in India.

The Struggle: I’m currently in a government system that’s dismissive of my ASD (Level 1) and invalidates my experiences. I feel like a "practice object" for students.

The Barrier: My family history/parental narrative is often prioritized over my own, leading to past misdiagnoses like "psychosis and being fake medicated."

The Constraints: I have a budget of ₹1,000 per session, max 4 sessions/month. I also struggle with severe trust issues due to past trauma.

What I Need Help With:

Platforms: Are there affordable, neuro-affirming directories or platforms for adults in India?

Vetting: How do I confirm a therapist is truly "neuro-affirming" before I pay for a session?

Safety: How can I set "hard boundaries" on my history to avoid immediate re-traumatization or invalidation?

Red Flags: What are the early warning signs that a therapist is going to ignore my autonomy or pathologize my autistic traits?

Title!!!

Were your parents just incompetent or abusive, I came from a dysfunctional family with no direct talk,gaslighting, emotional, financial neglect, being parentified, plus they argue they have love , Good intentions while doing bad.

Parents don't acknowledge the harm they caused, telling I'm only angry to the psych while I got after them hitting with steel bottle, psych has prescribed me sizodon for bpd, I think it was misdiagnosis by fake attender info, it made me a zombie, stopped it, he didn't taper it, house is shit, moving out soon.

Disclaimer Note: This post was compiled and formatted with the assistance of AI to organize my thoughts, correct typos, I need to vent because I am completely disgusted, heartbroken, and exhausted by the sheer lack of integrity in my own family.

My grandfather is a hardcore, textbook BJP fanatic. For years, his entire personality has been built around this cult. To him, Modi is a literal God who "saved Hinduism." Anyone who dares to criticize the party or look for alternatives is instantly labeled by him as a "Muslim, Pakistani, Bangladeshi, or terrorist."

The double standards are genuinely insane. He will actively defend actual crimes if they are committed by the BJP, dismissing them as "just normal politics." But the second an opposition group or a minority community does the smallest thing, he treats it like an unforgivable catastrophe. Lately, because the BJP can’t win in our home state, he’s been consuming and spreading rampant, toxic hate against Tamils on social media to provoke people from northern India.

Whenever I bring up actual facts, he runs away from the argument. I pointed out the blatant censorship regarding the NEET exam controversies—how the government flat-out blocked dozens of social media accounts that raised legitimate complaints under the guise of "stopping rumors." He had no defense. I showed him a blatantly racist ad campaign the BJP made against VK Pandian. His only response? "In politics, this is all normal."

The absolute peak of his hypocrisy happened recently with the massive political rise of Vijay and his party, TVK. Before this, my grandpa used to aggressively bash Vijay, constantly bringing up his Christian background to discredit him. But after Vijay won big, came out respecting all faiths, and was seen wearing kumkum, my grandpa completely flatlined. Now? He’s suddenly praising him, calling him a "good person." Even my brother and sister noticed it and called him out for being a total hypocrite. He just shifts the goalposts to align with whoever is winning.

But today was the absolute last straw.

We were watching a video by a very famous independent YouTuber. He wasn't just talking about the BJP's wrongs; he was breaking down how India desperately needs a fresh alternative, specifically a new party like the Cockroach Janata Party (CJP) to kill the duopoly of bjp and congress as the real change the country needs. This YouTuber is incredibly knowledgeable, successful, and pulls no punches.

When my grandpa realized he couldn't counter a single fact in the video, his brain completely short-circuited. He couldn't defend the BJP logically, so he attacked the new party and the creator instead. He started screaming that anyone who even talks about or supports the CJP is a "Muslim, Pakistani, Bangladeshi, or terrorist."

Then, he resorted to the lowest, ugliest slurs possible against the YouTuber himself. He literally started attacking the creator's appearance, calling him a "fraud" and making vile, disgusting comments about his "lower caste" and "black skin."

I told him straight to his face that this content creator is infinitely more successful and knowledgeable than he will ever be. He had no comeback.

It is terrifying to see how easily the older generation is manipulated by online hate and personality cults at the cost of actual national development. They have entirely outsourced their morality to WhatsApp algorithms. I’m just glad my siblings and I see right through this madness. India seriously needs to change, because living with people this spineless is becoming impossible.

TL;DR: My BJP-fanatic grandpa thinks Modi is God. When a famous YouTuber exposed BJP's failures and advocated for a new alternative party (CJP), my grandpa completely melted down, labeling all CJP supporters as Pakistanis/terrorists, and attacking the YouTuber with vile casteist and colorist slurs.

If anyone need brainstorming help, dm.

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My father asked me to repay my school fees

Iam a disabled (high functioning autism,asd level 1)4 years dropout due to fights at home, I finished 12th on open schooling, parents took me to a psychiatrist who didn't listen me, told me what did you do for them, do a free diploma, let's see if you are capable, I have 120iq, was a topper, my 2 brothers getting 24 lakhs each for college, father earning a crore a year, but I need to prove to get, mother who parentified (emotional incest) me by telling her abuse and abortions by father from my age 6, fed me sedation tablets without my consent for years, I vomitted many times, told im wasting money, hating both, I hated dad just for her, now she's complaining to me, I never gave up on her, she did, my father also witholds my bank account, documents, the psychiatrist is famous and said serve your parents, I don't care if you write bad review when I was crying and hyperventilating.

What to do,any help please.

Iam a disabled (high functioning autism,asd level 1)4 years dropout due to fights at home, I finished 12th on open schooling, parents took me to a psychiatrist who didn't listen me, told me what did you do for them, do a free diploma, let's see if you are capable, I have 120iq, was a topper, my 2 brothers getting 24 lakhs each for college, father earning a crore a year, but I need to prove to get, mother who parentified (emotional incest) me by telling her abuse and abortions by father from my age 6, fed me sedation tablets without my consent for years, I vomitted many times, told im wasting money, hating both, I hated dad just for her, now she's complaining to me, I never gave up on her, she did, my father also witholds my bank account, documents, the psychiatrist is famous and said serve your parents, I don't care if you write bad review when I was crying and hyperventilating.

What to do,any help please.