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Damn i know it's not relevant to the sub

But this looks fire so thought of sharing it

There is quote “kolaiyaliya nambu malayali ya nambathae”

How did this quote come. , what's the history

i thought this is just for joke but today i came to know this malayali so betray us we are considered pandis always

( Overheard a conversation referring me to a pandi by a group whom I considerd close)

Share your experiences and stories pleaseee

I mean if we don't support our own Kannada movies how can we expect others to

For example i went to watch bku with my malayali friends and they told us to invite all of my other friends we all will go together , we went as a gang of 50 ppl something imagine and that's how we got to know about it, went to watch it and see that's what I'm talking

Even we got to know about their movies , also we also get interested about their movies

Similarly we should do this

Even now I couldn't get my friends to go for Heggana Muddu

And instead what are we doing being jealous and obsessed with how others ppl are not watching our movies

How can we expect others non Kannadigas to even watch our movies when we don't even watch or support or so enthusiastism

I noticed even in group also no one shares or talks about any of our movies it's always tamil or telugu others will share and sometimes malayalam movie

And disliking on others watching malayalam movies or anything won't get us anywhere

I read in their subs that back then they had being relying on tamil movies and it's remakes in kerala from that they came here , be honest have we even heard about malayalam movies back then until these past few years

Heggana Muddu and Premada Oorali.

Both look no less or different from the kind of “Malayalam cinema” we often hold up as a benchmark to criticise our own content.

Hi everyone, I wanted to learn more about Tamil Brahmin traditions, customs , way of living , rituals , and everything especially among Palakkad Iyers.

I had my Upanayanam done long back, but over the years I stopped practicing because of the insults at school and also being forced fed non veg and jokes and for my safety and eventually removed wearing the poonul. Been years since school So I’m not very familiar with the traditions anymore and been living netural, as fearing

reference post

If I am to get back practicing as a beginner what would u suggest

I’d like to understand things more broadly, Upanayanam, Sandhyavandanam, background, Agraharam, house name , daily practices, marriage rituals, death rituals, and everything to do with our culture and how it different like for palakkad iyers and others what is traditionally done if someone had Upanayanam but stopped practicing and later wants to start again.

Also, how much do these practices vary between Tamil Brahmins, Palakkad Iyers, and different family traditions?

Would love to hear people’s experiences and understand the traditions and their variations better.

Apparently this is a controversial statement

Recently I was sitting with a group of friends (guys were there and their gfs were also there njngl oru 10 peru kazhikan vannathayirnu and somehow the during all the talks topic of relationships and virginity came up and I'm the only virgin in that group

They were like why not in a relationship why ? Angane pine arelum set cheythu tharam and all ...pine then if i ever get in a relationship what do I look for

I was hesitant pine kore kazhinj evaru oron choichapol njnparanj

I've never been in a relationship ninku ariyalo or been sexually intimate with anyone, so I'd prefer to marry someone who hasn't either.

Immediately came the cross-examination and all the girls bashing me , yelling and also criticising me even avanmar also

What if she has had a relationship before? Athinu entha , if relationship be it long or short or multiple, athoke aa paraythinte aa , if she's loyal apozho? Why are u thinking like this , korach oke open mind avam What if she was physically intimate with someone? What's the issue, what if it just happened and y r u being critical of a girls choice be it mistake also learn to accept rather than being stuck in olden reethi and so much like ooku and bashing me without stopping

What if it was just casual? , What if it was in the past?" And the girl was saying evane ne kandu padi i had relationships before and avan illa enitum he's open minded and accepting of it , nee home bhayankara backward thinking ann enoke and others were backing up saying different things like bodycount karyamilla enoke past is past nalla alu ayal accept cheyanam and whoever it's angane kanam

My answer was still no, as aa baggage she brings in from that i don't want and the bodycount also matters and u can say it's my insecurity or my preference also as I've never like had time to check out girls or try for a relationship as school preparation for entrance, Collegeil angane clearing back papars and joli pine and hectic work , pine other personal problems financially angane

in between all this just friends ayit mathram I spend time and these are my school friends so i was genuinely confused when they said all this
And then somehow I became the villain , ene parayatha onum illa

I was told I'm judging women based on virginity, slut-shaming, being insecure, being conservative, etc.

But I'm genuinely confused and ithrem ketu kazhinj like lectur for 2-4 hours i was thinking and confused thoughts of asking here , mandi kadayil remaining njngl mathram ayirn ondayirne 😭

I need ur opinion and thoughts people because all this made me uncomfortable

I mean, ever since childhood, watching Tamil movies, I always had this feeling that they genuinely hated us a lot. Eppadi solradhu nu therla, but it felt like there was so much mocking, outright saying things just to offend, ragebait pannradhu, etc.

And unfortunately, it wasn't just movies. I experienced it in real life too.

It started with things like calling us “nool”, mocking the way we speak with “vango pango”, dropping non-veg into my lunch box, making me eat non-veg, and somehow making everything about Tambrahms — like “you people are responsible for everything” and all that.

As a child, honestly, idhellam romba hurt aayiduchu. At that age you don't really understand why someone hates you for something you were simply born into.

But in Palakkad/Kerala, I never felt like I was treated that badly because of my community or the way I am. There would obviously be small teasing — “pattare”, “swamy”, “apacharam apacharam” and all that — but adhellam mostly light-hearted ah dhaan irukkum. I never felt that underlying hostility.

Whereas in Tamil Nadu, especially Chennai, sometimes I genuinely felt like there was this very passionate hatred towards our community. Even elders and other people would make comments or behave rudely in school or in society or outside home be it anywhere from tamils I faced this

Because of that, whenever I was in Tamil Nadu, I would deliberately try to speak in a very neutral Tamil slang. I wouldn't mention my background or openly disclose my identity unless necessary.

Maybe it's because of my childhood experiences, I don't know. But that feeling has stayed with me.

I know obviously not everyone in Tamil Nadu is like this, and I'm not saying that. I'm just talking about what I personally experienced growing up, and how different it felt compared to Palakkad.