u/LunaPandaBun482

I find definitions so complicated these days that I am unsure of my label. And I like labels for myself. I feel like it helps me understand myself better.

I knew from a young age I had an attraction to women. I always thought I was bi or at least a little bit bi. Having never had the opportunity to explore that in full sexually, for the longest time I considered myself 75% straight, 25% gay. I always questioned whether I would enjoy certain things with a female. Coming to realize as an adult, I don’t enjoy certain things with males. 😆

Finding someone attractive such as Tim Curry (Dr Franknfurter) in the Rocky Horror Picture Show confused me greatly. Until I became aware of the pansexual community. Which made me have a light bulb moment. 💡

Am I correct in saying pansexual is being attracted or interested in someone, despite what they identify as? But I am not attracted to everyone. I still have physical preferences. Do you think I fall into the pan category?

I love the David Rose comment from Schitts creek… “I like the wine, not the label.”

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Without going into too much detail, I have multiple things going on with my back and spine making walking and standing difficult. I may try to push for surgery, but I haven’t decided yet.

I try to avoid going into stores as much as I can by doing online pickup for groceries, but with certain stores it’s unavoidable. Usually after being on my feet or in a store for a few minutes the pain starts, by the time I get out of the store I’m suffering.

However, I am not in a wheelchair, missing a limb, etc. I don’t know if it’s something I should request from my doctor? Thoughts?

Is it just me or is anyone else really sensitive to a little funk when it comes to oral sex?

I haven’t given my husband oral in a really long time. In fact, I can’t even remember when the last time was. Not because I don’t want to, but because most days he is not showered. And he knows how I feel about that.

However, this morning he showered. Then later in the day when we went to have sex, I could still smell a “smell”. He’s going to think I’m absolutely ridiculous if I ask him to shower immediately before.

Thoughts? Suggestions? 🫤