A never ending loop
Ok this is gonna be long.
Ivaag ivaag jana are often emotionally unavailable. Within them they are two kinds, the first type are those people who think that the world fucking revolves around them(ngl I hate them). They just are like interrupting people immediately to tell them their thing. They act like people with ADHD(wrt attention pattern) they just can't shut the hell up and wait for their turns.
The second type: These are the ones who accquired Emotional Unavailability. Why?
Because they've spent generous amount of their time with emotionally unavailable people dreaming that one fine day they'd change those troups but reality is otherwise. These are the people who have experienced that emotional concealment till they no longer couldn't take it.
That fuelled their transition from being emotionally available to emotionally unavailable.
Like they'll rant their whole freaking life, from traumas to struggles to hustles to their upi ids. But they'll never ask what you're going through, I repeat NEVER. Even if you voluntarily go up to them and let them know what you feel, like in paragraphs. That'll just earn you a nod, or maybe a "hmm, that's normal", they'll make sure that you'll never feel like you're the star of the show.
If you spend enough time around them, they'll exhaust you mentally and you'll also transition to be an emotionally unavailable person too, this is exactly the never ending loop.
Both the kinds are toxic, selfish and manipulative.
Stay away from them.
Be emotionally selective.
If you find yourself getting attached to friend/patner/person who's emotionally unavailable, BACK OFF. RUN!!!
That ain't ending gud brotha.
Always remember Idhre nemmadiyaag irbek.