u/MainDebt541

Any bachelor who stays away from family anywhere in palava plzz connect. We are a group of 2-3 friends and need a place to drink casually. Tired of paying double prices at bars and our families stay at home so cannot find a proper place to chill. We offer our friendship in return.

People from phase 1, 2 and 3 who are staying alone or away from family or have just shifted here, let’s connect. I have been staying in phase 1 for many years but with all my friends shifting elsewhere, I have got very few people to socialise with. Also because of my work-life I don’t get time to actually go and meet new people except my gym. Hence, I am trying to create a community for us. You can discuss in comments or dm me and let’s see what we can do.

It’s surprising to see that no one in this sub is talking about tonight’s semi final clash between France and Spain. I was wondering whether there are any places in kalyan or Dombivli hosting tonight’s match (plzz don’t say pvr Xperia mall). I know the vibe won’t be crazy as compared to those pubs in mumbai but I am a corporate guy so I need some place nearby for atleast semi finals. If anyone of you guys know any place then lmk and if you are interested to join then dm me or comment.

I am 24m and I graduated 2 years ago. Since my graduation I have had very less in-person social interaction. I stay in outskirts of Mumbai and the neighbourhood I live in mostly consists of aged populous and there are very less people around my age, though I have a few friends and I hangout with them on weekends. There has been very less natural female interactions I have had since my graduation because I meet most of them during trips or social gathering and it does not work out after that. My workplace is not big and there is just one old lady working at my office. Not even males around my age in my office. I am not a shy person at all, I am extremely extrovert still I am struggling to make friends let alone relationships. On weekends I do go to concerts or day drinking sometimes with 2 or 3 of my friends but that’s about it for my social life.

So about a year ago, I installed hinge and I am regretting my decision so much. I have faced situationships during my college time and I am not a big fan of that so I kept my intention very clear that I need either a long-term or friendships. I just wanted a few female connections in my life and I didn’t know I had to pay such a huge price for that. I kid you not, I am decent looking almost 6 foot guy. I am really fun at conversations but yes I am very middle class. I had some good pics and prompts and made my hinge account. In the past year, I got more than 300 matches, went to around 35 in-person dates and trust me it never worked out. As I said, my intention was pretty clear so I never hooked up or ghosted the person until I got clear signs. Here are a few events that happened to me (it’s all true) -

- got almost catfished by my first hinge date; she used fake name and identity and went out with one of friends as well
- a few girls didn’t like when I held their hand on first date so for next date I decided to maintain some distance; the girl on next date asked me whether I was even interested to meet her becoz I didn’t hold her or hugged her
- went on a very good Christmas date (prolly my best) and next day the girl says that she isn’t interested
- got promised a long term by a girl then she got busy with work so asked me to be friends and then she came into relationship with the very next guy she talks to
- used to talk to this girl over call daily until she told me that her ex is back
- picked and dropped a girl who stayed 30 km away in scorching heat and also went to airport to say her goodbye still she expected more efforts from my side without committing

& many such stories………

I know this is the worst place to find long term but I couldn’t even find friends or even a single genuine connection till now. I thought of staying alone and minding my own business but honestly it’s very hard to stay that way being an extrovert. The only positive I got from datings apps is that my communication skills have improved a lot but other than that I regret each day I decide to use it.