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Hi, I am a rising sophomore in EE, attending the Tempe campus. I was thinking of switching to poly, because I feel like its more quieter, and may not be as much of hassle to attedent classes (finding parking, walking etc). But I was wondering if anyone has done this before, and if its worth it?

I am only really worried about clubs and internship opportunities, or if nothing will change if i change campuses, has this been the case for anyone or should it be something I should be worried about?

Also is the campus 'nice'? Like is it a good place to study, I do like Tempe's Noble and Hayden library, and was wondering if poly has something similar, I don't know why but when I imagine poly all i can think of is a desert with a box building.

This happened about a year ago, but I've been watching Smosh read AITAH stories, and it keeps reminding me of this situation. I wanted to know if I was actually the asshole.

Last year, as a freshman, I took a humanities class just to fulfill a degree requirement. I joined the class about a week late because I had switched classes. By then, everyone had already formed their little friend groups. I moved around to a few different tables before eventually sitting with a random group. I guess I technically took someone's usual seat, but I don't think there were assigned seats that early in the semester. The group seemed pretty chill, although they were all pretty quiet and didn't talk much.

Fast forward to the end of the semester. We had a big group project that our professor had been reminding us about all semester. We had a few weeks to complete it, even though it realistically only took a few days.

There were five people in our group, including me. I ended up taking on the leader role. I created the slideshow, divided it into five sections, and even wrote guiding questions for each person's part so they basically just had to answer the questions and add a few pictures. I even told everyone that if they were really busy, they could literally copy the questions into ChatGPT, clean up the response a little, and paste it into the presentation. My goal was just to make sure everyone contributed because I'd been in too many groups where people never did their part.

I also made it clear that if anyone wanted to change anything or add ideas, we could absolutely discuss it. Everyone was happy with the plan and chose a section- except one guy.

The only section left for him was the conclusion, which I would honestly say was the easiest slide in the entire presentation.

He never did it.

As the presentation got closer, we kept messaging him in the group chat asking if he was going to do his part. He almost never responded. I know we had the right phone number because everyone introduced themselves in the group chat at the beginning of the project.

Eventually, I sent a message saying something like, "If you don't finish your section, someone else and I will just do it." I don't remember the exact wording, but we had asked him multiple times to contribute.

Even in class, whenever we discussed the project, he would just sit there, smile, and look at everyone without saying anything. He didn't seem shy either- he was actually pretty close friends with another guy in our group.

The day before our presentation, the entire project was finished, and everyone knew what they were presenting.

Then he suddenly walked up and asked, "So... what part am I doing?"

I was honestly confused.

I told him, "What do you mean? The presentation is already finished. Did you not get any of our messages? There's nothing left to do."

He kept insisting that he should still get a part to present. Then he started making excuses, saying he'd been sick, had other projects, and somehow mixed up our group chat with another class.

Personally, I didn't buy it. It was finals week- everyone was busy, everyone had multiple projects, and a lot of people were getting sick. Plus, if you open a group chat and actually read the messages, it's pretty obvious which class it's for.

He kept complaining in the group chat that he deserved a presentation section, so we eventually talked to our professor.

That's when we found out he was a senior, and this class was required for him to graduate on time.

I was honestly frustrated because this was just a fun elective for me, yet I had put a lot of effort into organizing everything and making the project as easy as possible for everyone. This was supposedly a graduation requirement for him, but he couldn't be bothered to do even the easiest section.

The professor ended up emailing us after the guy sent him what felt like a sob story. I think the professor just wanted the conflict to end, so they basically told us we needed to work together because the assignment was about teamwork and learning how to handle situations like this in our future careers.

I honestly thought that was a weak argument. I felt like I had done my part as a teammate. I organized the project, communicated multiple times, gave everyone plenty of time, made the work as easy as possible, and repeatedly tried to include him. In a real workplace, I don't think someone could disappear for weeks and then show up the day before asking for credit.

But but guy also sent me a few private messages being very passive aggressive. Also I respected and like our prof, so to get this sort of response felt pretty unfair, and I almost felt a little betrayed that they couldn't understand my POV, so I was confused by their "work together" comment, even after explaining the situation.

So... AITA for refusing to give him part of the presentation after he ignored the project for weeks and only wanted to participate at the last minute?

P.S. I know this is only my perspective, and there may be details I'm remembering incorrectly or interpreting differently than others involved. I'm doing my best to describe what happened as I experienced it. If anything needs clarification or if you have questions, feel free to ask.

Edit: I forgot to mention that he did end up presenting with us. After we spoke with the professor, we were told to give him a section of the presentation. Since the presentation was already full, I removed some of the conclusion slides I had made to make room for him. He ended up adding several slides of his own so he could present something.

Hi, I'm just going to get to the point, i took pre-cal when I first got into colledge, becuase i was 2 points away from getting the score needed to just go straight into calc 1 my first semster of freshmen year. I took next semster i took calc 1 online. I procrasinated and got an E. I felt the coursework was pretty simple and to the pint if i had put the efforet in. I have a bad habit of procsinating and caramming everything from my hs days, and ontop of that I have adhd, and can't relly control what i need to focus on. I have been having issues with my meds so i havent been taking them for a few months, which isnt really helping me. Fast forward i took calc 1 again for the summer months online gain, low and behold I procrasniated again, and made Ai do all my work and now I have my final today which could either make me pass or fail this class. I have been trying to cram everyhting today, which to no suprise to me has landed me in the same exact position for m my first faliure. I though I would have woken up by now, and finnaly got my shit together, but it seems i can only wake up once its too late.

I just know I'm gonna bomb this exam, and I won't be able to take any of the classes i signed up for becuase they all require calc 1. I love engineering with all my heart. But everyone of my peers are so much more ahead of me, in classes clubs and friends. But my shit habits and burnout that are lingering from hs keep bringing me down in eveyone of my classes. All i want is just a year to get my shit together, but I don't think I can even do thta. I'm on a scholarship which is the only way i can go to colledge right now, and if i fail that calc class i'm gonna lose it, and its too late to take a gap year. My parents expect so much of me, because my brother let them down, and its like i'm some sort of sheep just following what they say and its not like I have a choice, I have no money, no where else to go, or any time left.

I haven't take the exam yet, and everytime i try to study i get a mini panic attack, and everytime i try to take a test its like my brain just gets zapped clean. I don't know what I'm saying anymore. I wish I could get hit by a bus or have the roof come down on me so I could just giving a fuck about anything. I wish I could be a rock. I just want to be a rock. Just a rock.

I just applied to be a dishwasher at chilies and just "got" and interview on thier website. I know this is like auto-interviews, so should I call them beforehand and like "confirm" it or just show up?

Also I have not been a dishwasher before, I saw some other posts about other people's experiences, and I didn't see anything too bad, besides the volume of the work on busy times. Any tips, or what I should expect for interview questions?

Thank you in advance!

I just had a bad interview.

So i had applied to a job at indeed, and they messaged ms saying they were impressed with my resume and wanted to setup an interview the next day, I said okay cool.

Looking back now they probably sent the same exact thing to every applicant.

I show up, its in a mall whi h I did not expect, I had looked up the place but it didnt seem like a mall (my fault).

I got inside a little late and worried, I come there is 4 other girls filling out a paper, I thought maybe they were trying to work there too, i go up to the worker like "hey, I'm here for an interview" she was like " oh okay give me a minute" she goes to another room and give me a job application and tells me the manager will be here in a couple of minutes.

Now I'm kind of stumped that everyone is here for an interview and has to fill out another "resume" basically, I ask here if we're doing like a " group interview" or somwthing, because it blows my mind that the manager scheduled everyone at the same time, expects us to fill out a job application, and is late herself. The worker said no its indvidual.

I was debating wether to fill this out or not because I'm like this is a very red flag for me, mind you this job doesn't even pay that much. But whatever, I was here. I drove here, so whatever I'll wait and fill it out. Mind ypu this is a very small space and everyone is hearing every interview between the manager and the other person she is interviewing. As I waited more people came, there was atleast 10 people inside this small boba shop waiting for thier turn, I saw the same expression on some other people's face " like wtf is this, should I leave?" And other obviously anxiouse.

What i noticed from the interviews is if she talked with a person for a long time, she hired them on the spot (which was one girl) and people who she talked to very little she would just say oh thanks I have your number, you will hear back by the end of the week. Which basically meant your not hired.

Now, I don't want to assume, but I felt as though she was asking more question to people based on attractiveness, but that might of been me overthinking idk.

I can admit, my interview was not great, very short, and I did definitely did not make a good impression, but the entire time she kept glancing at this other applicant sitting at the other side, she would not meet my eye contact.

On another note, she was very fake. This doesn't relate to the story much but I just have to vent it out. As soon as she came in she had the most high pitched voice and over complimenting the worker "like hey, I like ypur Dada Dada dada" like I kid you not, it was so fake, she was like an older Asian lady which has nothing to do with it but if you want to invision it.

All in all, a weird experience.

I just had a bad interview.

So i had applied to a job at indeed, and they messaged ms saying they were impressed with my resume and wanted to setup an interview the next day, I said okay cool.

Looking back now they probably sent the same exact thing to every applicant.

I show up, its in a mall whi h I did not expect, I had looked up the place but it didnt seem like a mall (my fault).

I got inside a little late and worried, I come there is 4 other girls filling out a paper, I thought maybe they were trying to work there too, i go up to the worker like "hey, I'm here for an interview" she was like " oh okay give me a minute" she goes to another room and give me a job application and tells me the manager will be here in a couple of minutes.

Now I'm kind of stumped that everyone is here for an interview and has to fill out another "resume" basically, I ask here if we're doing like a " group interview" or somwthing, because it blows my mind that the manager scheduled everyone at the same time, expects us to fill out a job application, and is late herself. The worker said no its indvidual.

I was debating wether to fill this out or not because I'm like this is a very red flag for me, mind you this job doesn't even pay that much. But whatever, I was here. I drove here, so whatever I'll wait and fill it out. Mind ypu this is a very small space and everyone is hearing every interview between the manager and the other person she is interviewing. As I waited more people came, there was atleast 10 people inside this small boba shop waiting for thier turn, I saw the same expression on some other people's face " like wtf is this, should I leave?" And other obviously anxiouse.

What i noticed from the interviews is if she talked with a person for a long time, she hired them on the spot (which was one girl) and people who she talked to very little she would just say oh thanks I have your number, you will hear back by the end of the week. Which basically meant your not hired.

Now, I don't want to assume, but I felt as though she was asking more question to people based on attractiveness, but that might of been me overthinking idk.

I can admit, my interview was not great, very short, and I did definitely did not make a good impression, but the entire time she kept glancing at this other applicant sitting at the other side, she would not meet my eye contact.

On another note, she was very fake. This doesn't relate to the story much but I just have to vent it out. As soon as she came in she had the most high pitched voice and over complimenting the worker "like hey, I like ypur Dada Dada dada" like I kid you not, it was so fake, she was like an older Asian lady which has nothing to do with it but if you want to invision it.

All in all, a weird experience.

I dont know about the group, but has any company won over them? Like did they lose ever or did the companies give up and just paid the ransom?

Will exams be rescheduled because students can't study or take any exams online? I feel like that would be fair, but ASU has yet to send out an update about the situation...

Dear Diary,

Remember from this day on that your words carry weight.

No matter how much somone bothers you,

No matter how somone looks,

No matter how somone speaks,

No matter how somone presents themselves to you,

Remember that although it may be hard to bear to be around that person,

It is much harder to be that person

So rember that although what you say may last a minute in your life,

It will stay with them the rest of thier life,

So if you cannot find kindness around you,

Become the kindness you wish to see

For if life is hard,

Then become the peace to ease it

Dear Diary,

I feel like a teenage boy in a girls body. Not in a trans way, I don't want to be a boy. I feel like the stereotypical teenage boy, but in a girls body, if that makes sense. Like sometimes I just look at myslef and I'm like wow I got frikin fun bags. I can't talk to guys, like they feel like from another planet. Actually I can't talk to girls either. Like if superbad characters were a person I would be that.