Is my 17f relationship with my 18m boyfriend healthy?
We have been together for 10 months, and I am having doubts. He has already told me he loves me and wants to be with me long term. He mentions us owning pets together, a home, and even staying together till we are old. We never had a honeymoon phase once we were official. He could be cold, petty, passive-aggressive, and sort of snap at me if he was in a bad mood. He's since apologized for taking out family issues he was dealing with on me. One of the problems is he continues to do this and apologizes and admits it comes from a place of insecurity. We'll have periods where we're great then a slight argument will come up and kind of ruin a day we have together. There was a situation where he did not think I would stand up for him because a few male coworkers asked me to hang out and all I did was make an excuse to not go instead of telling them I had a boyfriend, (they all already knew since he works there too). He confronted them about asking me to hang out, telling them it was not cool and was very upset in the moment. He did not like those guys because one of them (who came off as gay) had made comments to him saying he was bi and described his type as black girls, (I'm black). Another guy had also made comments that he goes after girls in relationships, and has bragged about knowing my music taste, (he does not know it, he got it wrong) and me talking to him when we're scheduled together. He was not secure for a while because I said if the situation was reversed I would not confront anyone. Our most recent argument stemmed from him apologizing over acting insecure about something small and I did not reassure him that I was not upset. In all honesty, I was fed up and felt like we were stuck in a cycle so instead of having patience and being the bigger person like I usually am I shut down and started bringing up stuff that I did not even care about. I threw out accusatory stuff like he thinks my hobbies and goals are stupid, (which I know is not true). I also did not reach out to him and let him reach out to me. He is also insecure because ill be going to college while he will be in the military. He thinks ill find someone else and leave him. He also does not have really in good or close friends in his life and is lonely and also suffers from depression. I worry that since he doesn't have friends, he depends on me a lot and causes a strain on our relationship. This is both our first relationship, and I also do love and care about him. We align in all our views, and I know he's dependable and wants the best for me, but I'm just wondering if its possible for us to be stronger or will we just deteriorate in the future. We can both be petty; there is already a restaurant I don't want to go to and a book series he does not want us to read because they were both centered around an argument. I'm just looking for some clarity.