u/Margaquark

TL;DR My father wants me to work in family business and I feel bad for disagreeing because my parents already sacrificed so much for us (moving to another country where their degree is invalid, so they have to work a minimum wage job, so they basically went to university for nothing)

My father has had his own business for a few months now, and my parents want me to study social work so that I can eventually work as a social worker for my dad. They said that if I don't do it, then my mom would have to go to university again and study so she can work for him instead. (Which I do think like she would, but they made it seem like that is the only option

My mom studied law when we were living in Ukraine, and she had me while she was studying. She wanted to continue her studies and become a lawyer, but her degree isn't valid in Germany. If she wanted to become a lawyer here, she would basically have to study law all over again for several years, even though she already did all of that before.

So, in a way, she spent all those years studying just to end up working a minimum wage job here. We had to move to Germany because of my sister, but my mom had also always wanted to move here so that we could have a better life.

2. Problem is, that my grandma wants to work as a seamstress, and my dad would be willing to open a business for her, but she wouldn't want to do it alone. So now my dad wants me to work as a seamstress.
   The thing is that I don't know what I want to work as. I'm doing my Abitur rn (idk what it's called in english, translation says "high school diploma") so I can either go to uni in 2 years or do an apprenticeship in 1 or 2 years.
   My dream job would be a fashiondesigner, but that is a little bit unrealistic for me. I also have interest in chemistry and also law. I'm scared that studying to be a lawyer will be to difficult for me/not something I really want to do and that I'll end up wasting years. My plan for rn is to pursue chemistry and do an apprenticeship after I finish school.

I would consider working as a seamstress, because that would be a step closer to fashion design and also give me more experience. I don't really want to work for my family tho, because I feel like that they wouldn't pay me well and expect me to do free work, because "I wouldn't need that much money, because I can just live with them" and also because I am family.

I don't know what to do now, and I know that I am not responsible for my parents choices, but I also don't want them wasting their life. I love my parents and I feel like that they sacrificed so much for us and that I can't give them anything back rn and that's the only option of paying them back.

I thought I was over getting jealous about my friends hanging out with other friends, but I was just thinking that because I wasn't really close with anyone.

I'm in a trio and we usually hang out together, but I just saw my friend at my other friends house (we're neighbors) so I texted in our gc "what are y'all up to?" (It sounds a bit better in my language but that's the translation) and one of them said that they are chilling in their garden and asked me if I wanted to come over.

My friend also said "I find it kind of funny that whenever we're hanging out together you always show up" and she said it jokingly, but that made me feel even worse, because it only happened once, when I was waiting for them in the garden because we wanted to collect fruits, but they went where else without telling me, because they thought that I didn't want to come, even tho we planned to collect fruits together (as in all three) (the fruits were not ripe, that's why they left)

Ik that I'm overthinking and that that means nothing but idk how to stop overthinking about situation like this.

It was working at first but now my Spotify is just blackscreen when I open the App.

I already had this problem once and it worked again after I reinstalled it, which I tried but its still blackscreen.

Does anyone know how I can fix that?

I dress more revealingly than some others do, because I like the clothes and feel pretty and comfortable in them.

I don't like that people sexualise it tho and I don't understand it. Like when I dress revealingly, I see nothing sexual with it. The only thing that I see is my body. For me dressing revealingly is the same as not dressing revealingly, because I see a body as a body and not as something sexual. I don't get why people have to sexualise everything.

I hate how AI destroyed schools. I have good grades and I work for them and I find it so unfair that there are so many students in my class who use AI for their home-/schoolwork and get better grades than me, because the teachers don't realise that half of the class is using AI for everything.

The school system already had so many flaws but now it just feels ridiculous. Atp we can just get rid of any grading system bc it doesn't grade anything anymore anyways.

I realised a bit less than a year ago that I’m acespike and I’ve been feeling a bit guilty about it in my relationship.

My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 years. He’s allo and has told me multiple times that he’s okay with everything, that he doesn’t mind, and that he would never pressure me into anything. And despite me knowing that, I still feel somewhat guilty.
For me, I only really feel the desire for sex maybe every 3 months or so. We end up having sex about once a month (it's also been getting less and less), mostly because I want him to feel good, not bc I genuinely want it and I don’t really enjoy it most of the time.

I’ve talked to him about this, and he says he’s fine with it. He does “tease” me a lot tho in a playful way, and I don’t actually mind that, but I do feel bad that I end up rejecting him afterward.

I don’t completely mind the idea of sex, but it would take a lot more foreplay for me to get into it and I want him to ask me, bc most of the times I'm unsure whether he expects something from the "teasing" or if he's just doing it for the love of the game. Most of the time, sex is kinda just whatever for me. But if he would be doing all that, I feel like I would also kind of be killing the mood.

I don't really know how to feel or tell him, because I want our sex to be a "going with the flow" type and I feel like telling him 500 things he has to pay attention to would make this impossibl.