u/MarionberryInner6368

I’m 23. I had been in a relationship for around 3 years with someone I genuinely cared about, but we already had serious unresolved problems.

I had a long history of weed use, and after being away from meth for around 3.5 years, I relapsed recently. Within a month of restarting, I noticed drastic changes in my behavior. I became paranoid, suspicious, emotionally volatile, and started unloading anger and contempt onto my girlfriend during a period when our relationship was already unstable.

Eventually she ended things completely, and she has made it clear she wants no future with me.

I’m not posting this to blame drugs entirely or act like I’m some innocent victim. I know my behavior hurt someone I cared about, and I take responsibility for that.

What I’m struggling with now is understanding how much substance use can rapidly distort behavior and judgment, especially when deeper emotional issues are already present underneath.

I’ve been forced to look at parts of myself I had ignored for years, and honestly I’m trying to figure out whether this relationship ending was just the consequence of addiction, or whether it exposed bigger problems in me that I’ve been avoiding for a long tim

I’m trying to understand what happens when someone realizes they may have become the thing that destroyed something important in their own life.

I just need someone to talk to for a bit. I can't really open up to the people I know about what's going on, so I'm hoping to find someone to talk

I’m 23. I had been in a relationship for around 3 years with someone I genuinely cared about, but we already had serious unresolved problems.

I had a long history of weed use, and after being away from meth for around 3.5 years, I relapsed recently. Within a month of restarting, I noticed drastic changes in my behavior. I became paranoid, suspicious, emotionally volatile, and started unloading anger and contempt onto my girlfriend during a period when our relationship was already unstable.

Eventually she ended things completely, and she has made it clear she wants no future with me.

I’m not posting this to blame drugs entirely or act like I’m some innocent victim. I know my behavior hurt someone I cared about, and I take responsibility for that.

What I’m struggling with now is understanding how much substance use can rapidly distort behavior and judgment, especially when deeper emotional issues are already present underneath.

I’ve been forced to look at parts of myself I had ignored for years, and honestly I’m trying to figure out whether this relationship ending was just the consequence of addiction, or whether it exposed bigger problems in me that I’ve been avoiding for a long time.

I’m not looking for sympathy.

I’m trying to understand what happens when someone realizes they may have become the thing that destroyed something important in their own life.

So I’ve been texting a girl from my college for around a month. We graduated already, and interestingly, we never really spoke when we were actually in college, but somehow started texting recently.

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A couple of days ago, we unexpectedly ran into each other in person for the first time in a long while. She recognized me, and we started talking normally.

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Now here’s where I’m overthinking.

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Recently, my ex had been planning to move to a new city, and at one point we had considered whether she could stay with this girl temporarily, because I knew this girl was living there.

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During our conversation, she mentioned that she had actually moved somewhere else, and naturally that reminded me of that earlier situation. So I brought up that instance and then immediately followed it by saying that my ex and I had broken up.

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The weird part is this girl didn’t even know I was in a relationship in the first place.

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So from her perspective, I’ve been texting her casually for a month, and then suddenly during an in-person conversation I randomly bring up my ex and then casually mention that we broke up.

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Afterward I started feeling like I unnecessarily dumped personal information on someone I’m not even that close to.

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The reason I’ve been overthinking this so much is because in the past, my ex used to tell me that random guys would sometimes suddenly start sharing personal relationship problems or emotional stuff with her, and she would complain about how weird or unnecessary it felt.

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So now I’m wondering if I unintentionally came across the same way here.

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From my perspective, what I said made sense in the flow of the conversation, but afterward I started thinking maybe from her perspective it felt like I randomly dumped personal information on someone I’m not even close with.

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Am I overthinking this, or did I actually make the interaction weird?