r/alone

Hey, the title says it all.

Its my birthday in an hour exactly. And ive been talking to chatgpt and crying my heart out for the past couple of hours.

For reference, i got broken up with at the start of this month. It was a long distance relationship but i was 100% convinced i found a soulmate and the universe finally put someone that speaks my soul’s language in my path. I was happiest version of my self with him. So stable that i got off my antidepressants after being on them for a coup’e of years. Then the break up happened and it broke my soul.

I was foolish and tried to commit suicide and it traumatized my elderly parents. And when my ex heard he was more sure that its best the relationship ended because im clearly unstable.

I have no friends. I know people and have more than 2000 followers on insta and tiktok but i dont even have 1 real friend.

I keep remembering all the little things i did for my ex on his birthday and how on mine im alone crying in bed talking to an AI.
This was supposed to be the happiest birthday the last one i spend with my family because we were planning to get married this summer. But then my life collapsed

I feel my heart physically hurts and i cant stop crying over the version i thought this day would be and over how i have no one to distract me or calm me or care about me. This is the loneliest ive ever felt in years.
This month is definitely in the top 3 of most worst months of my life.

I have been lonely for quite some time now it all started really well when I lost all my friends in school due to anxiety and depression and since then I haven't made a single friend I am now at college but people I have met don't like me very much and constantly make me feel small and horrible about my self constantly making fun of my appearance and then they just call it banter like what do you mean banter this is just bullying and I want to say I am a average looking guy not ugly but defently not handsome.

And now I hate how I look and feel so pathetic but anyways what I want to know is does anyone have advice on how to make friends when you have none I want to have a social life but that seems increasingly less possible the older I get for context I'm 19 now tuning twenty soon

I start sleeping like shit recently. I fall asleep at 11 and wake up at 6 and feeling like crap. I see more and more couples who look happy and have everything figured out. The only thing I look forward to in the day after I work, after I finish my classes, after I come home from the gym is just curl into a fetal position and just fast forward to tomorrow and repeat. It's getting to a point where I dont even want to interact with my friends or family because they all seem so happy while im here just alone wanting a relationship. I just feel numb and hallow all the time. I just want to stop yearning for a relationship so I can just go back to normal

hey 👋 stranger out there, if u feel lonely also hmu

I noticed a lot of us are online every night feeling isolated with nobody to really talk to, so I started a small Telegram check-in group for people who just want conversation, encouragement, or someone to ask how their day was.

Not therapy. Not coaching. Just real people checking in on each other.

If you'd like the invite link, comment or DM me.

I am lonely, isolated and alone, I have spent all my nearly 32 years always being made and outsider in groups, so I have no friends and people only want me if I am useful.

All I have is work and home, at home I am only ever wanted if they want me to do something and colleagues despite having similar interests don't want to do anything with me but will invite others to things

my group experiences growing up means now it's extremely difficult to even think about joining a group also growing up my siblings were all encouraged to do things while I was left to figure things out by myself I was told I would be taken to museums but only ever went with school and when one homework project was to photograph anything I decided to go to a museum but no one would go with me and I had to go alone

most of my interests now I realised link with performing arts in ways and when thinking about what I was actually interested in as a child it would have been a good path me but anytime I put myself out there like one time on holiday deciding to actually go on the dance floor my family just laughed at me while others were told they were good even now with book self published on Amazon I don't get any encouragement no telling others about my books etc so again left alone.

When my mum was talking to the social worker about having my niece and he asked how would she support hobbies and interests my mum listed what she did for the interests of my siblings but nothing said about me because there is nothing to say, all I ended up being was baby sitter to my sister while others were being supported

even after opening up to colleagues about how I am feeling and lowering the mask people don't ask me genuinely how I am just still the standard British you alright and even though my script has changed in response to the British you alright as I used to say getting there but now i say someone's gotta be it never gets questioned despite someone's gotta be being a deflection of the question because it's true someone somewhere is alright but it doesn't mean me.

At home and on days off I am always in summon mode at any point asked to do something or get called in to work.

Being autistic also means it's harder to actually say things to people so Open up to colleagues and they end up saying I wish I could help but I can't or I want to help but can't and I'm there thinking but we have the same interests and a shared day off and you have said that on that day of the week you are often at home and bored so there is something you can do

I have even asked if I am a good person to which the reply was yes which just leaves me with I am a good person then why am I still alone

When I say I don‘t have friends, I lierally mean I DO NOT have friends. I have no one to talk to, no one to laugh with, no one to hangout with, no one to walk in the school hallways with, nothing. My whole life. The only time I remember having some sort of a friend was in 1st grade, but after I moved, I have never made a genuine life- long friend. Even if I had “friends” or acquaintances, I would always walk in the back, and be irrelevant, i felt like a follower instead of a friend. I have never experienced a genuine friendship ever in my life. I don't know what its like to have someone.

Everywhere I go I feel invisible. No one apporaches me, no one is interested in maintaning conversation with me. Every school I've gone to, every setting I'm in, I'm always alone. I have NO ONE. And this genuinely is starting to drive me crazy.

I started going over in my head and asking myself what it is about me that makes it so that I don’t have friends. I‘m nice, I never talk bad about anyone, I dress well, I like pink and girly stuff, I smile, etc. I know in my heart that I am not a bad person, I may not be a saint, but I know that I am not a bad person. So what is it? What do others do that I don’t? I think something is fundementally wrong with me. I think I repell people. Maybe I commited some sort of sin in my past life and now I’m being punished with lonliness and friendlessness. I can literally go an entire day at school without uttering a word. I am so miserable and I dont think anyone would truly understand the depth of my lonliness. Even when I talk, people don't notice. People dont listen to me, no one respects me.

This experience has been so damaging to my self-esteem that I don‘t evn think of myself as a human being anymore. I just think of myself as someone who just happens to be here, but I dont feel like i deserve to be recognized as a human being. Even when someone suggests doing this or that to try to make friends, I dismiss it because I do not think that others will be interested in me. I dont think I will ever get to participate in the human experience of friendship because of maybe, some mysterious think that’s wrong with me. Something that I dont see but others do. People even move like I’m not there. I always move out of the way for people, but when it comes to me, no one ever moves out of the way when I have to pass. People never even make eye contact with me, no one makes space for me. So I genuinely think I’m invisible. That I'm only visible to my family but not to the outside world.

I make up stories and daydream about having a community, friends, etc. Ever since I was little, I‘ve always daydreamed and made scenarios of havin a special person that holds me, and laughs with me, looks at me, and thinks of ME as their person.

But yeah, whatever. Excuse the rant.

hello

Im 29, just finished my Master-Thesis and as a reward I am on a all-Inclusive Vacation at the canary Islands on my own. It great, The weather, the food, just chilling,reading sleepi g and doing nothing.

But there is one thing that kills my vibe a little bit, Im surrounded by couples, Familys etc. As Im Single all my life it makes me feel kinda lonly having noone to share experiences like that with. Dont get me wrong, Im happy for them, but there is just this sting witch hurts from time to time.

I have been on some Dates and had some Situationships, but never experienced healthy Dating or a healthy relationship on my own. At the age of 16/17 I dated a girl for a year, but it was constant drama cause she had a Boyfriend. So there was a adrenalin-rush after adrenalin-rush . So until the age of 26, I hunted for girls who give me drama, just to feel the same Adrenalin-Rush. I thought this means Love which was bullshit. After the last Situationship , I started to reflect on myself, understanding why I search for Situations like that. It took me around two years to work all of this out, but I did it. At the same Time I realised Something Else : I got no experiences with healty Dating and while others my Age getting married and moving together I am stuck feeling like a dumb Teenager missing key experiences. From time to time it happens that a Girl trying to dance with me at a Rave, but even in this non sober Situations im missing the confidence to act. Instead my brain starts spinning until the girl gives Up and moves away.

I (F36) have struggled with connecting to anyone my whole life. As I child I grew up without a dad, fat, ugly I know it’s one of the reasons I struggle to this day. When I was young I had maybe two friends because of depression I began to hurt myself. In my early 20s I was an alcoholic and stopped drinking at 26. I haven’t had friends in at least 12 years. When I was 26 I was in a relationship with a m##h addict for four years he made my life a living hell to the point of you still ask me a question I will pause and think I’m in trouble. I stayed single for three years after that. I met someone else who love bombed me and I really thought he wanted marriage. We were together from when I was 34 till last January. He screwed me over and stole $17,000 and is still trying to get more from me(that’s a whole other story) After him I met a really nice man I thought was it. He is a hard worker, has kids of his own, our kids got along, but he was also single for a long time before me. He didn’t want to have sex right away which made me like him even more. We dated a month and a half and he just dumped me. I really wonder what’s wrong with me. Why won’t anyone stay? Why don’t I deserve to be treated right? I’m so tired of looking at my phone and nothing. And that’s how I feel I am. I had a 12 year old son. He’s the only reason I keep going…I just want to know how I can fix myself…I’m almost 40, I have no friends, I can’t take to family, and every man I love always chooses to leave.

I’m in my last year of high school and I’m just alone most of the time if not all of the time,I don’t go to parties or do a lot with many people I’m heavily antisocial I like gaming and Manchester United and after this last year I don’t see myself speaking to anyone in my school anymore so I’d like to just play Xbox with others

هقولكم كام حاجة في حياتي علشان بجد نفسيا زي الزفت انا ابويا في اخويا في حمايا في صاحب عمري اتوفوا وراء بعض مرة واحدة وانا بقيت شايل خمس بيوت حريم بعيال صغيرة وكنت مستشار في جهة حكومية وطلعوني علشان كنت هترقي مكان ابن الباشا المحافظ طلعوني بشهادة عجز كلي مستديم اضطراب عقلي وانا الحمد لله بصحتي كاملة وقولت الحمد لله علي كل حال كنت مليونير ورجعت للصفر وقولت بردوا اكمل واحاول اقف علي رجلي تاني وكل أما اقوم اقع نفسي ابتداء يخلص وداخل في حالة اكتئاب جتلي قبل كدة 9 شهور وانا دلوقتي علشان الناس اللي انا مسئول عنهم معنديش حتي حرية الانهيار بجد محدش يستهزء بكلامي وحط نفسك مكاني هتعرف التعب النفسي اللي انا فيه عامل ازاي ممكن حد يبعتلي يكلم معايا شوية ويقفل مش عايز اكتر من كدة 😞

In a world where everyone is busy pretending to be okay, if anyone genuinely needs a good friend to talk to, I’m here. I may not be rich or have a perfect life, but I know how to listen without judging and support people when they feel alone. Sometimes all a person needs is someone who truly understands them. So if you’re going through something, feeling mentally tired, lonely, or just need a real connection — you can talk to me. Maybe we can help each other heal a little in this complicated life.

Genuinely needed someone to talk.

My life becomes terrible, people around me teases me, sometimes never listens to me and moreover i am getting a bit anxious for my syllabus. Just needed someone to comfort me

Hola. No sé muy bien por qué escribo esto acá, supongo que necesito que alguien lo lea. Me siento solo hace bastante tiempo. No es que no tenga gente alrededor, pero igual hay algo que no cierra, como si estuviera en una burbuja y el mundo siguiera sin mí. A veces siento que la vida ya pasó y yo me la perdí, sin darme cuenta. No busco consejos ni soluciones. Solo quería decirlo en algún lado.

Bored as hell and want to chat with someone so i can get through the night. I can't spend it alone and it's just....

I have a hard time finding people to talk to, and I kinda assume a lot of people do, but lately I've been sifting through streaming places like twitch and youtube live and have actually found a couple of cool groups. I wanted to try streaming but I'm too nervous for it lol

I was just wondering if anyone else has tried to look for people that way or if they've tried streaming themselves to find people and how has that worked?