u/Massive-Win2264

I am so sick of people turning the blind eye to things like this. Yes, I understand that late term abortions, specifically elective ones are not common by any means, but that does not erase the fact that they still happen. The same way pro choicers constantly bring up the rape argument despite that being 1% or fewer of all pregnancies. Yes, those women deserve to be acknowledged, the same way these babies deserve to be acknowledged. You cannot look on that baby on the second slide and tell me that is a clump of cells. Not that abortion is ever OK, but there is something especially twisted about late term abortions.

My mother is American and her entire family are from the East Coast. I took my Ancestry test semi-recently and was scrolling through my matches when I came across one that was apparently my 1st cousin but I've never once heard of this person in my entire life. Like ever. And what intrigues me even more is that this person is biracial, being half black. I'm not kidding when I say my family are as about as white as they come, so this is very confusing. I told my mother who mentioned that her mother's cousin married a black man so it's probably just my 3rd cousin from that family. But that doesn't really add up because it says my shared DNA is higher than that. I'm tempted to reach out to this person but I'm afraid of being wrong and the DNA percentage is just off. Is the match estimate thing entirely correct?

EDIT : I talked in my family thread about it and everybody was saying the whole "it's just your 3rd cousin from your grandma's side of the family" bs even after I pointed out it was wrong so I decided to reach out and message her. It was really scary, but I feel like she deserves some clarity about her family. The tough part is figuring out how we're related. She's definitely not my half-aunt because she matched with both mny grandfather's sister and my grandmother so that only leaves out my mum's siblings. Trouble is, she's 1 of 8 kids. She has 2 brothers, one of whom is way too young for this to even be plausible, and the other is gay so that leaves my aunts. I personally feel really upset right now that my family has kept something like this from me and my cousins for so long but I just hope I can bring this girl some peace and reconnect with her.

UPDATE : HOLY CRAP YOU GUYS. I finally got an answer to what happened. Buckle up, this one’s crazy. So, according to my mum and her siblings, this is what happened. When my mum and her siblings were younger, they used to always make trips to Philadelphia to visit my grandma’s family. My grandmother’s family are from Kensington and every time my mum and her siblings would visit, their cousins would come as well and they would all be in one house for two weeks. On this particular visit, it was the late 90s and my aunt Anesta and her cousin Laura snuck out. At this point in time, my aunt was 13 and Laura was 15. Somehow, (no one could really get the details of this part straight) they ended up in Mill Creek and met up with some guys. All of them were black, and one of them took an interest in my aunt. They started dating for the short 2 week period before my aunt had to leave. Obviously they slept together because about a month later, she found out at the doctor’s office she was pregnant. My family, especially my grandparents, are some of the most hardcore cradle Catholics I know, so I can only imagine the hell my aunt must’ve experienced at that time. She described it to me as one of the most traumatizing periods of her life. She really wanted to keep the baby and raise it, more than anything in the world, but my grandmother didn’t want her to live that life and told her that the baby deserved a life with parents who could actually take care of her. My aunt is now 41 and has a husband and kids. My mum and her siblings all knew about it but my grandmother made it excruciatingly clear that they were never to tell anyone for my aunt’s privacy. My cousin reached back to me and is very excited to finally come in contact with us after all this time. After talking for a bit, I’ve realized we’re actually so much more alike than I thought. We’re currently trying to figure out a date to meet up and reconnect with her for the first time ever and it feels so crazy, but also good that I could give her some clarity.

Mum's from East Coast and Dad is from Derry. The DNA split up thingy apparently says my dad is 100% Donegal Irish so ig my ancestors really never moved lol. Still cool to see though

For context I’m in high school and I’ve been searching for summer jobs. I had an interview at this one Asian inspired takeout place in my city over the weekend and I heard back yesterday. He made it seem like I had to send pictures of my SSC and ID over text and not in person and my alarm bells are ringing right now. One other thing that I noticed was weird was that he gave me his phone number during the interview which had the same area code as our city but the number texting me has a completely different one. Just felt like that was really weird. AIO? Is this normal to ask of someone? I’ve only had one other part time job in the past and I just showed them my information on the first day of training.

UPDATE : Thank you guys for affirming my suspicions, I’ve reported the job to Indeed and the Federal Trade Commissions. Interestingly the position I applied for that was urgently hiring is no longer available but there are other ones listed🤔. I didn’t send them anything but copied the number in my notes app. I’ve talked to my friends who live in the same city as me about it and they’ve all said they’ve never heard of this place or have never even gone there. And like I said in a comment, this place is literally right next to one of the biggest public universities in the country so you’d think they’d get SOME business. Something weird is definitely going on and I’m just glad my Mom raised me to have critical thinking skills.

Also, guys, I am more than well aware my response wasn’t very professional. I had a very hard week and lost a lot of sleep so I wasn't fully myself. I think if that’s the main thing you’re focusing on out of this, then you’re kind of missing the point. I now know for the future how to respond so thanks for letting me know.

EDIT : I can't believe I have to say this twice but please stop commenting about how I was being unprofessional. Like I said before, I am well aware I didn't respond in a professional manner. However, the vibe I got from this place from when I was previously emailed and contacted was that it was more chill and low-key. And when I sent this response, I was running on maybe 2 hours of sleep because of numerous factors, namely stress and school. I think the fact that a lot of you are focusing on this detail versus someone trying to steal my information is a very telling reflection of your character. And to the people who've dm'd me to make fun of the texts I sent, you're really weird for trying to ragebait a high schooler at your grown age for something that doesn't remotely affect you in the slightest.