u/Matteblackwizard

Seeds hand pollinated, harvested, sown, grafted and regrafted, all by me 😇

This graft is outperforming every other graft I’ve done by 5x, super stoked for this freaky citrus brain guy

Like the title says, we’ve been dating for 4 years now. She’s constantly pestering me about why I havnt proposed yet. Everything was good for most of it, I generally carried the weight and financial burden. Recently that’s shifted. (She’s working 40 hours a week for her father, I’m getting 24-30 atm living together in my house) and her whole attitude has changed. There have been lots of signs that somethings going on. She recently reconnected with her best guy friend from high school, and I’ve had a weird vibe about him since she started mentioning him ~3 months ago. Anyways, I had a weak moment and I checked their texts. Now I’m half tempted to wake her up and tell her to gtfo of my house. These are just a few highlights of a verrrrrryyyy long, continual text chain over the past 12 days. Lots more of the same type of behavior not pictured here. (I don’t even get good morning texts from her, most days I don’t even hear from her until she gets home from work all tired and hangry.)

Am I overreacting? I feel cheated on regardless of whether anything physical has happened yet (they were also out “downtown” till 430am a couple nights ago… so… yea…)

(Figured out how to edit, sorry for the delay!)

Update: she is 30, not 12

Update: this hit her feed and now she’s tryna get off of work early to come get her shit 😇

UPDATE:
She showed up with two friends to clear all her shit out. Walked up to me all serious and shit and went “how do you wanna do this?!”
She swears she didn’t physically cheat on me, but fully admitted to emotionally cheating (not sure I believe her but whatever at this point) then she tried to tell me she was planning to pack up and move out on Saturday anyways. She later rescinded and tried to tell me she was just planning to go to her moms so we could work this out in separate beds, and wasn’t planning to leave me. She also later clarified that she didn’t think she was doing anything wrong until she saw the 5000 comments calling her a hoe.

I watched her and her friends turn neon red hauling a metric fuckton of boxes out of my driveway and storage shed, and I gotta say, not having her shit consuming every square inch of my living space feels damn good.

I mostly restrained myself, I cussed her out a couple times and called her a couple names but otherwise stayed out of her way. I definitely got my laughs in (although she was expecting them after reading this thread.) but mostly just kept my mouth shut and let her haul her shit out of my house.

I’m a bit emotionally devastated here, not to mention the almost 10,000 $ in credit card debt I’ve wracked up over the past couple years covering her constant need to live beyond our means and take spur of the moment vacations. (The financial issues between us literally never came up until about 3 months ago, for 4 years I dutifully covered her expenses through numerous periods of unemployment, including one that lasted 7 months. Plus a bunch of stupid last minute vacations that she was sure were going to be the most pivotal moments of our lives. None of them panned out to being anything. I took her out to the fancy restaurants she wanted to go to, paid for 350$ meals when I could barely afford top ramen, also 300$ nails, massages, chiropractor, dental, etc. but with just two months of her being the one carrying slightly more weight (again I’m working 20-32 hours a week) she gave up entirely.)

She also tried to blame her declining feelings for me on me “pushing her to get an abortion” (which happened about a year ago) when the reality is that after her pregnancy was confirmed I looked her in the eyes and told her if she wanted to keep it, I would do anything and everything to make it work. I told her everything would be okay, that I would find a way to make everything work out. After 3 hours without a cigarette she said”FUCK THIS IM GETTING AN ABORTION.” And started chain smoking. I made sure to remind her about that conversation after she tried to shift blame onto me. Long story short, I’m terrified, heartbroken, crushed, crying hysterically and financially wrecked because of this fucking street walker, but I’m already feeling such a huge weight lifting off my shoulders. It feels like I can breathe for the first time in forever

EDIT:
I’d like to thank everyone for their support, I never expected this post to reach such a wide audience, but with almost 10 million views and 8000 comments I’m dumbfounded, and the best part is, I’ve never seen such a large group on the internet basically all agreeing with each other 😂 I’ve gotten 40+ messages checking on me, sharing their stories, and offering support and donations, I’ve gotten my first reddit gold and sooooo much karma 😂 I appreciate you all. I’ve never felt so supported in a breakup, especially not from a bunch of strangers around the globe. This has restored some of my faith in humanity. Thank you all ❤️

The in ground one was planted by my father a few years ago, the others I received in a weird succulent bundle pot from an importer on palm street