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So I planned a family vacation (simple) with my in laws to extend an olive branch since relationship hasn’t been smooth sailing and the whole long weekend just felt so awkward. Looking for honest reactions here….

Context: my MIL has no respect for boundaries and there is overall trauma with her taking away/holding my babies (ie cooking while holding, drinking coffee over my first born). I just don’t feel comfortable with her and she knows it. She has 3 daughters and 1 son (my husband) and 2 of the daughters basically take her side and act really cold against me guessing because they think I’m a bitch to their mom. (On this trip she walked away with my second child out of sight during a breakfast buffet at a restaurant and I had such a visceral fight or flight response I told my husband to bring my son back to the table.) Also, my MIL and FIL don’t speak and are separated but not divorced, the 2 SIL’s that are cold towards me don’t really have a relationship with their dad.

Anyway, it was very contrasting because last week we went on vacation with my family and there were 3 kids: my 2 (3yo, 6mo) and my nephew (2yo) and basically the kids were “accessories” for lack of a better word. They just existed and the grown ups talk and chat and interact vs my in-laws don’t speak at meals and when they do it’s all about my kids (they are the only grandkids). So it’s exhausting to feel like all the attention is on me and my kids in addition to being iced out by 3 people and my FIL is always on his phone. I just feel like a caregiver because no one except my husband really talks to me. I don’t want to also play the victim because it’s not like I also make too much effort to talk to them but I also just don’t have the emotional bandwidth to do so after the above mentioned context. It also feels like everyone is parenting over me while I’m standing right there (ie getting on the elevator and my son pushing buttons and my FIL scolding vs letting me do it). Or me pouring my son his morning milk and my SIL (with the best intentions) taking the carton from my hand and doing it herself vs asking me if I need help. I organized all the lunch/dinner for everyone at the apartment I was staying at but inevitably my MIL would walk in and start making stuff in addition to what I already had made.

Sorry for this being so long but I’m just really frustrated at the situation and the interaction leaves me feeling so “overlooked” and uncomfortable. I love my husband and it’s his family so I want to be supportive but I don’t know how to balance feeling what I’m feeling.

So I planned a family vacation (simple) with my in laws to extend an olive branch and the whole long weekend just felt so awkward. Looking for honest reactions here….

Context: my MIL has no respect for boundaries and there is overall trauma with her taking away/holding my babies (ie cooking while holding, drinking coffee over my first born). I just don’t feel comfortable with her and she knows it. She has 3 daughters and 1 son (my husband) and 2 of the daughters basically take her side and act really cold against me guessing because they think I’m a bitch to their mom. (On this trip she walked away with my second child out of sight during a breakfast buffet at a restaurant and I had such a visceral fight or flight response I told my husband to bring my son back to the table.) Also, my MIL and FIL don’t speak and are separated but not divorced, the 2 SIL’s that are cold towards me don’t really have a relationship with their dad.

Anyway, it was very contrasting because last week we went on vacation with my family and there were 3 kids: my 2 (3yo, 6mo) and my nephew (2yo) and basically the kids were “accessories” for lack of a better word. They just existed and the grown ups talk and chat and interact vs my in-laws don’t speak at meals and when they do it’s all about my kids (they are the only grandkids). So it’s exhausting to feel like all the attention is on me and my kids in addition to being iced out by 3 people and my FIL is always on his phone. I just feel like a caregiver because no one except my husband really talks to me. I don’t want to also play the victim because it’s not like I also make too much effort to talk to them but I also just don’t have the emotional bandwidth to do so after the above mentioned context. It also feels like everyone is parenting over me while I’m standing right there (ie getting on the elevator and my son pushing buttons and my FIL scolding vs letting me do it). Or me pouring my son his morning milk and my SIL (with the best intentions) taking the carton from my hand and doing it herself vs asking me if I need help. I organized all the lunch/dinner for everyone at the apartment I was staying at but inevitably my MIL would walk in and start making stuff in addition to what I already had made.

Sorry for this being so long but I’m just really frustrated at the situation and the interaction leaves me feeling so “overlooked” and uncomfortable. I love my husband and it’s his family so I want to be supportive but I don’t know how to balance feeling what I’m feeling.

Hi all—doing a 3 day race (30k per day) in Dec and looking for some shorts recs. I’m athletic build with a little extra PP weight so have been chafing a little more than usual lately. I’ve found 5inch compression shorts to be my sweet spot to avoid chafe but wanted to get some looser 2 in 1s. TYIA!

Sorry if this is dumb—I bought stretcher bars that are a little too small (the canvas goes over them and is getting bent when I stitch/take it in and out of my project bag. Is this ok? I already messed up and bought a size too big and now a size too small and don’t want to buy another 🙃

Sorry if this is dumb—I bought stretcher bars that are a little too small (the canvas goes over them and is getting bent when I stitch/take it in and out of my project bag. Is this ok? I already messed up and bought a size too big and now a size too small and don’t want to buy another 🙃

Sorry if this is dumb—I bought stretcher bars that are a little too small (the canvas goes over them and is getting bent when I stitch/take it in and out of my project bag. Is this ok? I already messed up and bought a size too big and now a size too small and don’t want to buy another 🙃

Sorry if this is dumb—I bought stretcher bars that are a little too small (the canvas goes over them and is getting bent when I stitch/take it in and out of my project bag. Is this ok? I already messed up and bought a size too big and now a size too small and don’t want to buy another 🙃

Sorry if this is dumb—I bought stretcher bars that are a little too small (the canvas goes over them and is getting bent when I stitch/take it in and out of my project bag. Is this ok? I already messed up and bought a size too big and now a size too small and don’t want to buy another 🙃

Sorry if this is dumb—I bought stretcher bars that are a little too small (the canvas goes over them and is getting bent when I stitch/take it in and out of my project bag. Is this ok? I already messed up and bought a size too big and now a size too small and don’t want to buy another 🙃

Sorry if this is dumb—I bought stretcher bars that are a little too small (the canvas goes over them and is getting bent when I stitch/take it in and out of my project bag. Is this ok? I already messed up and bought a size too big and now a size too small and don’t want to buy another 🙃

Second time mom here, baby is exclusively BF with the exception of a few bottles here and there. Lately I haven’t been able to pump and leave a bottle to run errands because I can barely make enough to leave for the sitter (I struggle pumping 1oz). My LO nurses fine and is happy after feeding so I’m clearly making enough milk for him just not any extra to pump and have in the freezer. Which I’m honestly totally fine with I’m just wondering if there’s some pump settings I need to adjust/play with or if my pump is just at the end of its useful life? It was a hand me down from a friend who only used it for a few months and I have used it probably 10 times—it’s the blue spectra.