u/MediumResearch1838

I’m at the point where I’m looking for a serious relationship that could lead to marriage.
I’ve spoken to a lot of people, both married and unmarried, and one thing I keep hearing is that physical attraction is important, but it shouldn’t be the main factor. Many people have told me that what really matters is finding someone you genuinely enjoy spending time with, someone you can sit with for hours and still enjoy their company.
I understand that perspective, but I’m curious how true it has been for people who are actually married.
Looking back, what qualities ended up being the most important in your spouse?
How much did physical attraction matter when you were choosing a partner? Did it become less important over time, or do you think it’s just as important years into the marriage?
If you could go back and give your younger self one piece of advice about choosing a husband or wife, what would it be?
I’m interested in hearing real experiences, especially from people who have been happily married for several years.

So there comes a period of my life where I watched a lot of femdom but I stopped although I relapse sometimes.
I should mention that I am in my 30s and I am still virgin.
My problem is with my boss she is in her 50s.
I did some mistakes in my job so she yells at me from time to time and she keeps saying ask for my approval before doing certain tasks.
I should mention that I have other male colleagues who are in their 50s as well but she doesn’t treat them that way and they never ask for permission.
My question is who do I handle the arousal that is coming from this because it is like having stimulant in my workplace.
Specifically that my job is performing computer task so it is more mental than physical.
I don’t want to change my job because it pays well.

I asked a woman out at her workplace in a supermarket , and she told me she was in a relationship. I respected that and kept my distance, whenever I see her on a certain a cashier I go to another one when and if I see her working in certain area I avoid it and I avoid looking at her to avoid making her feel uncomfortable . Recently, though, she’s been smiling at me, staying near me, and even whispered something I couldn’t hear the first time but I didn’t asked her to repeat I just walked away because I figured maybe she is talking on the phone or something.
I thought maybe It is my stupid male brain misinterpret the signals but today it was so obvious it is like she wanted to me to try again.
Now, I thought to myself what if she was caught of guard when I asked the fist time.
But I am also worried about whether I should be trying a second time since she already said she is in a relationship.
I should point out I am 34 years old I think she is in her twenties but I am not sure.
I don’t know anything about her except that she working there for 2 years and I have been shopping in that mall for two years.
I need to hear women opinions about this because I am trying to understand from her perspective.
TL;DR: She said no initially; now I see possible signals. Should I trust her original ‘no’ or reconsider?