u/MelBo9

For the past 11 years, I've identified as a trans man, but when I met my partner I slowly felt more comfortable being a woman. But for the past 6 months I've been questioning my gender again. I have never started T as I was never really able to afford it and really just in case of detransitioning socially! I identified as Genderqueer, but it never really felt like that that was me. I remembered agender exists and I began to do research on that.

Of course the term agender isn't new to me, as I've seen it many times on social media, but the way social media portrays agender doesn't really sit right to me. Every person I've seen and met always had "it/its pronouns, some even have they/them. I personally feel comfortable with they/he and maybe neo pronouns; any pronouns is fine too if you don't know me that well or struggle with using my pronouns! But it/its is something i feel uncomfortable with, it feels dehumanising, like i'm an object instead of a person. I know some people feel comfortable with that, but me personally it's not for me

I'm pretty confused on my gender and sexuality. As I did my research, I stumbled upon aroace! The title and flag weren't new to me, but the meaning is very confusing, especially how it's portrayed on social media. I have seen people argue about aroace people not being allowed to date, but also some saying that they can, but they don't want to be lovey dovey with their partner. I've even read someone saying that "aroace people are just undateable" which I think is a bunch of crap..

I do fall under the asexual spectrum, as I do find the thought of having intercourse very queasy unless my partner and I do it to make a baby or if I really want to, to help my partner relief sexual pleasure! Some days I think "No, yuck, not for me" and some days I think "You know, I don't really mind it." It's super confusing..

About dating, I'm currently dating my partner for 2 years. In the time between developing a crush up until now, my attraction goes on and off. Of course I still love and appreciate my partner! But there are days when I wanna keep things casual, and some days, very rarely, I like to be romantic. The thought of going on dates with them sounds lovely, but I wouldn't mind if we just spend time together like we did before we dated (platonically). I see myself marrying them and spend the rest of our days together! Crush wise; when I developed feelings, it was like a year after they started developing feelings for me. I knew they liked me and I had some feelings for them, but I wanted them to come forth and say it directly instead of hinting. Eventually a few months later we confessed and here we are! ^^

Gender wise, I am very confused as well. Either I'm agender, genderqueer or genderfluid.. All these labels really confuse me because some of them sound the same definition wise.

Okay, for the past couple of weeks, I've been experimenting with labels, genders and sexualities. So far none of them have really stuck to me.

In the dating pool I have been with both men and women, no non-binary people. It's not that I don't find them attractive, they're all beautiful! I didn't mind the thought of sex and pleasuring my partner, but there were days where I got purely disgusted by the thought of it. Even when gaining crushes, the spark quickly went away or the crush just went away after some time. I really don't mind being in a romantic relationship, but being in a platonic one doesn't sound so bad either.

I wouldn't mind going on candlelit dinners and holding hands, but I also wouldn't mind growing closer with someone at a very slow pace!

I have done some research on Aroace and the spectrum and I'm still so confused :(
I see people complaining that people who are Aroace aren't allowed to date anyone or are undateble because of their sexuality. The way the media portrays Aroace makes me think that any Aroace character isn't allowed to get shipped with other characters..

I can't figure out my gender or my sexuality and it's genuinely frustrating me!!

For nearly 11 years of my life, I 19F have identified as a boy and actually started to socially come out at 16. Sadly I had to stop testosterone and detransition due to medical issues. When I started detransitioning and out of pure sadness I went back to being a girl.

During that time my boyfriend (18M) and I had been dating for 4 months, but wanted to keep it a secret. He called me his boyfriend/husband and was aware that I was transgender. But when I detransitioned he still remained respectful, switching from boyfriend/husband to girlfriend/wife. But not even weeks after announcing my detransition to friends, my boyfriend wanted to suddenly show me off and tell everyone we're dating, which I found strange.

How do I bring this up and how can I fix this?

I've been having this issue for a bit where Clipchamp doesn't play one audio but has no issue playing another. They're mostly screen recordings of tiktok audio's that I download and export from my phone to my laptop. I don't know what to do and it's really frustrating me.

Can anyone help a brother out?