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So my ex and I broke up over a year and a half ago by this point. Classic avoidant story, I loved them more than they loved me, they grew distant, cold, then they dumped me, I had a really hard time and reached out a lot initially. They grew to resent me, blah blah blah.

Anyways, the last month or so I’ve met someone new and she’s absolutely fantastic. She’s kind, considerate, and knows what she wants. On paper she’s everything I could want in someone, and I couldn’t be happier with her.

Problem is, while we aren’t officially a “couple” yet, I’ve been thinking more and more about my ex. Not by choice, but just random moments I’ll start thinking about them. It’s usually in a dream or feelings of anger or resentment. I know they have a new boyfriend now (couldn’t love anyone eh?) and they are firmly in the past. The odds of us ever even talking much less rekindling is near 0%.

I don’t want to be with them, they treated me poorly, but they still have this emotional hold. I’ve never connected with someone so closely, given so much of myself, or truly dreamed of a future so strongly.

But no matter what, I keep thinking about them. I’m ready to move on, I’m ready to invite someone new into my life and this girl seems like the right person for me, but I feel like such an asshole for having someone from my past still feel so impactful on me.

Sorry for the word salad, but I wanted to know if anyone else relates.

Idk where else to post this, but my ex and I broke up in October of 2024, so over a year and a half ago by this point. Textbook anxious avoidant relationship, every step repeated bar for bar. By the end of the relationship I was genuinely treated in such a cold and disrespectful manner it makes me cringe to think about.

Anyways, they dumped me, slandered me to anyone who would listen, and I was a mess for almost a year. I’ve gotten a lot better. I’ve moved on and recognized that they couldn’t give me what i needed.

But my ex now has a new boyfriend they seem very happy with. Parading him around on social media, saying they love him (something they never did with me), and just seeming sure of this person after dragging me along for 8 months in what I thought was a deep and loving relationship.

I’ve even met a very nice girl about a month ago who seems to want a relationship with me, but for some reason I just keep finding reasons to not want to be with her? I don’t want to hurt this girl as I do care about her, but I just don’t feel that spark I felt with my ex. She understands and wants to give me time, but I don’t want to drag her along.

With my ex, I knew from day one I REALLY liked them, and they felt the same towards me. I’ve never connected so deeply with someone so perfectly and quickly, and I had zero doubts about starting a relationship (lotta good that did me)

What is wrong with me? Why can’t I accept my ex may have met someone better suited for them, and why can’t I accept the steady and consistent girl who has her arms open?

So I'm a graduating senior at my state university, and have unfortunately received news that I wasn't allowed to walk at my commencement ceremony due to a specific policy.

Essentially, I was both a 31 credit transfer student, and I withdrew from a language class over a year ago. I was going to fail, and didn't want to tank my solid 3.4 GPA. This caused me to be 14 credits short of 120 going into this summer.

Normally, this would be fine, as my summer internship is 12. I was able to register for a summer class to run concurrently with my upcoming internship. Assuming everything goes well, I will have my degree by August with 121 credits.

Unfortunately, my situation of doing an internship along with a single online summer course apparently disqualifies me from walking in this year's commencement ceremony. The policy would have allowed me if I was doing my internship OR up to three summer courses. But NOT both.

As soon as I learned this information last week, my advisor and I got a written petition to waive the policy to allow me to walk. We gathered the signatures and sent it off.

Sadly, I got the appeal ruling yesterday, and it was upheld. The email stated basically that rules are rules, and while they are sure I'm disappointed, I'm welcome to walk next May.

I'm crushed. There's nothing I can do about it and the ceremony is tomorrow. Everyone I know is graduating, and I have to wait until next year if I even have the motivation by that point. I know it's a stupid ceremony, but this was a major accomplishment that I had family coming into town for.

Sorry if this is word salad. I bear responsibility for not looking at the fine print for the commencement requirements, but this still feels like a bureaucratic kick in the nads after four years of hard work.