u/Minimum_Crow9095

Hi i have this weird question that ive been thinking about.

A friend of my wife works as a gynecologist in a Western European country. This includes a lot of prenatal care, including determining the gender of the baby.

According to her, quite a few times when she told patients that the baby is a girl, they subsequently ask for a termination in their following checkup. Because of this, she will sometimes pretend that she cant determine the gender until after the legal limit for termination has passed. She says she does this especially often with couples from conservative religious backgrounds, particularly migrants from the Middle East or Asia.

Is this ethical or is she overstepping her boundaries? I honestly dont know what to think about it.

I have friend who is asexual, and she told me she thinks women taking the pill should not be normalised because of how harmful the side effects can be after you stop taking them. She assumes we don't need the pill because condoms already exist. I told her it is about preference and different types of birth control work for different people and the side effects (and their severity) may vary, but ultimately women should be allowed to take it if they so choose. She told me she believes taking it is more controlling of women than not taking it.

This debate stressed me out quite a lot because I am used to people of this view being the religious types that reinforce patriarchal ideals, but she is quite the opposite. I started questioning myself a lot because I've always believed birth control, specifically for women, has been something empowering that allows us have more control of our bodies, and I never thought someone with similar feminist views to me could see it in such a negative way.

I went on the pill for a short while for reasons unrelated to sex, but am absolutely no expert on the subject so I felt like I couldn't confidently argue on lots of the things she was saying. Her frustrations felt so valid but I still couldn't bring myself to agree. I know there's a lot to be said about birth control in relation to misogyny so I would love some outside perspective on the topic.

I feel so horrible!!

I promised I would stand by him. I wouldn't judge. I wouldn't treat him differently. I get people. I always thought so!

He kept telling me not to push it, to leave it be, and that it was better this way. I didn't listen. I wanted to see his sensitive side!

After 3 years, he finally did it. He opened up to me.

And now? I genuinely feel like I am no longer attracted to him! :(

I am such a horrible person. How do I fix it? I hoped to see him cry and really be open with me. Now I wish I had never asked.

Has anyone else experienced this? How did you fix it? I NEED to fix it. He has been so been so supportive and kind and I don't want to lose him! But I can't get over seeing him so... defeated?

I am such an awful person.

EDIT: I ALREADY KNOW I AM A HORRIBLE WOMAN, I DON'T NEED TO BE TOLD AGAIN AND AGAIN. PLEASE HELP ME FIX IT SOMEHOW!~