u/MissTeriousGal

My ex and I had what I genuinely felt was a very loving relationship. He was incredibly thoughtful, caring, emotionally supportive, funny, and made me feel deeply loved. He’d make me playlists, give me little meaningful gifts, remember small details about me, and overall just made me feel very safe and cared for. We were best friends and I’ve honestly never connected with someone like that before.

The relationship had some issues, but nothing major, but many of I blame myself for. I struggled with insecurity (especially around one of his female friends), and when I drank I sometimes became reactive and said hurtful things during arguments that I deeply regret. He eventually told me he felt emotionally exhausted, isolated from friends, and overwhelmed by the relationship.

There were also some incompatibilities around lifestyle/future stuff, but emotionally it still felt like we were each other’s person. He even said I was his person. He wanted me to move to be with him (we were long distance for part of our relationship) but I had hesitations and fears. I was worried about giving up my entire life for him, and closing off the possibility of having kids because he was childfree and I was still on the fence. Eventually he cancelled a planned trip and ended the relationship. I reached out once after and he never responded.

And what hurts the most is there was a female friend of his who said some really rude things about me and us, crossed boundaries, and I really didn’t like her. We had many arguments about her and how I wanted her out of his life. He was resistant because he didn’t think she did anything wrong and she was in his friend group so he asked her to have a conversation with us 3 to repair things and she refused. He ended up removing her on social media and blocking her. I noticed after we broke up he refollowed her on social media which felt like a punch in the gut. I felt he chose her over me and it feels like he realized I was the problem. I feel betrayed and know if I reach out it would be a problem again, but it’s probably all my fault.

It’s been about a year and I still feel stuck. I feel like I’ve lost my spark. I have worked a lot on myself, but I can’t stop feeling like I ruined the best relationship I’ll ever have. Now I don’t even know if I want kids and I would 100% move for him. I just wish this feeling happened sooner. I still think about him constantly and desperately want to text him, but I’m terrified of rejection or finding out he’s moved on.

I just have no idea how to get over this or what to do, I feel like I ruined my shot and I’ll be alone forever now. Dating has gone horribly, I feel like I either get rejected or I’m not interested in them. My ex and I clicked SO quickly. Especially since it’s been a year and I still feel this way, I feel it must mean something. I desperately want him back but signs point to him not wanting me.

Why did he break up with me if I was his person? How do I accept this or process this grief? Should I reach out?

Having a very painful experience trying TMS. I did one session of TMS where we positioned the helmet and lowered the intensity so I didn’t feel pain, but I every other time I’ve tried at higher intensity I’ve felt a sharp pain whenever the machine is tapping. The tech said I cannot stay at the lower intensity as I wouldn’t get any benefit that low. I feel it in my temple region, it sends a shooting pain through my eye socket to my nose. Feels like a bad headache, so bad that I’ve had to stop after the first few seconds. I have a painful herniated disc and pinched nerve in my C5/C6 region. Could this be contributing? Has anyone else felt this pain?

Hey everyone, I’m feeling pretty frustrated and overwhelmed with my current pain levels due to my cervical herniated disc so I’d really appreciate any insight.

This all started back in December after I slept weird, I woke up with neck pain. Over time it progressed into numbness and tingling down my arm. I did 6 weeks of PT with little to no improvement so I was referred to a specialist and got an MRI, which showed a C5/6 disc extrusion.

Treatment so far includes:

- PT (discontinued, but do some at-home exercises)

- OTC meds (PRN), gabapentin

- epidural steroid injection about 6 weeks ago, which actually helped a lot at first and reduced numbness, tingling, and pain. Have a 2nd translaminar injection scheduled.

- scheduled for acupuncture

I’m 31 years old and very active (climbing, lifting, running, cycling) and I have started exercising again (especially climbing + bike rides), and my symptoms came back and are now pretty severe again. My doctor is suggesting I back off which is a huge bummer for me.

I currently have a constant deep, dull neck pain that spreads into my shoulder and upper back. My neck muscles from neck, shoulder and near my scapula are all super sore and tight. In certain movements I feel sharp nerve pain down my arm, into the top of my forearm.

Pain is triggered by turning my head (especially left), looking up, and bending forward.

I’ve also noticed huge weakness / decreased strength in that arm, which is very concerning. I used to be able to do 4 pull ups without training, and now I can’t even do one. My arms get “stuck” when I hit 90 degrees, I feel like I have no strength.

At this point it’s honestly pretty debilitating and I can’t do most of the activities I love.

My questions:

- Did I just trigger a flare, or did I actually make the disc issue/nerve pinching worse?

- Is it normal for symptoms to come back like this after an injection helped?

- At what point do you consider surgery with something like this?

- Has anyone had this pattern (improvement after injection and flare with activity) and come out of it without surgery?

I feel like I did everything “right” (PT, injection, easing back into activity), and now I’m back to square one or worse. Any advice would really mean a lot right now.

Hey everyone, I’m feeling pretty frustrated and overwhelmed with my current pain levels due to my cervical herniated disc so I’d really appreciate any insight.

This all started back in December after I slept weird, I woke up with neck pain. Over time it progressed into numbness and tingling down my arm. I did 6 weeks of PT with little to no improvement so I was referred to a specialist and got an MRI, which showed a C5/6 disc extrusion.

Treatment so far includes:

- PT (discontinued, but do some at-home exercises)

- OTC meds (PRN), gabapentin

- epidural steroid injection about 6 weeks ago, which actually helped a lot at first and reduced numbness, tingling, and pain. Have a 2nd translaminar injection scheduled.

I’m very active (climbing, lifting, running, cycling) and I have started exercising again (especially climbing + bike rides), and my symptoms came back and are now pretty severe again. My doctor is suggesting I back off which is a huge bummer for me.

I currently have a constant deep, dull neck pain that spreads into my shoulder and upper back. My neck muscles from neck, shoulder and near my scapula are all super sore and tight. In certain movements I feel sharp nerve pain down my arm, into the top of my forearm.

Pain is triggered by turning my head (especially left), looking up, and bending forward.

I’ve also noticed huge weakness / decreased strength in that arm, which is very concerning. I used to be able to do 4 pull ups without training, and now I can’t even do one. My arms get “stuck” when I hit 90 degrees, I feel like I have no strength.

At this point it’s honestly pretty debilitating and I can’t do most of the activities I love.

My questions:

- Did I just trigger a flare, or did I actually make the disc issue worse again?

- Is it normal for symptoms to come back like this after an injection helped?

- At what point do you consider surgery with something like this?

- Has anyone had this pattern (improvement after injection and flare with activity) and come out of it without surgery?

I feel like I did everything “right” (PT, injection, easing back into activity), and now I’m back to square one or worse. Any advice would really mean a lot right now.