u/Morrighan11

Maybe controversial because I've never seen anyone else get annoyed by this, but it just seems overly personal and childish.

Example of what I'm talking about-- A dad goes to his child's school play. The teacher pulls him aside and says, "Dad, you can go sit over there."

Or a kid gets picked up from their book club and the instructor notifies them by saying, "Mom and dad are outside in their car."

I understand this has some functional purpose (immediately establishes that this person is the parent of someone here and distinguishes them from other people who aren't parents) but it irrationally pisses me off.

I feel like it's always better and more respectful just to ask for a name or refer to them as eg "Amy's mom" or "Lilian's dad". Even if you mess up the name or something, you get your intent across the same and avoid broaching any boundaries.

I get it if it's around a really young kid who only recognizes their parents as "mom and dad" and truly believes that's what they're named, but 90% of the time I see this sort of thing said to parents of middle/high schoolers. Those kids are old enough to know that their parents aren't literally called "mom and dad" and it makes more sense to say, "I was talking to your mom and dad today." than "I was talking to mom and dad today."

Or am I just really petty? I've never downvoted a rude reply or responded back, I just like knowing that other people dislike the mean person.

Like, I'm guessing that "nine-one-one" was always the most prominent pronunciation, but was "nine-eleven" ever used prior to 2001?

If no, would it have been so bizarre that nobody would have understood you if you said, "Call nine-eleven!" (in lieu of nine-one-one) or would people still get the message even if that wasn't the most popular way to say it?

It just seems hard to believe to me that nobody ever referred to it as nine-eleven before-- If I'm at the grocery store, the cashier would refer to my $8.31 total as "eight-thirty-one" instead of "eight-three-one". I feel like at least some people would be inclined to pronounce 911 in a similar fashion.

If yes, are there any examples of popular TV shows/songs that used the "nine-eleven" pronunciation only for it to age horribly?

I try to dismiss or move on from backhanded compliments quickly, but I feel like I'm letting her 'win' when I do this, and I still feel fustrated and irrationally upset afterwards. I experience this behavior most commonly from my guardian.

Here are some examples of what I'm talking about:

>Her: Did you know you a blemish on your face? You need to take care of that because some people wont be very kind about it when they let you know.

>Me: I take a shower everyday, there's not much I can do about it.

>Her: That doesn't mean you wash your face everyday. You do need to wash your face everyday, by the way-- I figured I should tell you because it didn't seem like anybody had said anything about that to you before.

(context: I've never had concerns raised with my hygiene before and look normal, don't have acne, etc. I'm also almost an adult, and I found her acting like I needed to be informed of basic hygiene condescending.)

>Her: I'm suprised you knew that word-- I first heard it when I was your age. Of course, I had a better vocabulary than you at 6 years old.

>Me: Okay.

(context: I don't remember the word I used specifically. I have a relatively good vocabulary, so I don't really get the basis for this.)

>Her: Here, I bought you some new clothes. You should like them because they're old XXL fat woman clothes.

>Me: Okay.

(context: ????? I don't really get the insult here because I am a white boy and dress normally for that demographic. The clothes were also just normal Medium sized men's cotton tees)

What's the correct way to approach this? Is this normal human interaction, and I'm the crazy one? What response is she intending to garner?

I was diagnosed with dyslexia at 13, but didn't want to get an IEP at the time because I didn't want to be ostracized more than I already was and was not struggling with English.

That worked fine for high school, but I can't really read long paragraphs of text with dense syntax. I can only really read based on word-sight memory rather than an actual understanding of the words, and, when reading an unfamiliar word, I jumble up the letters (eg reading probably as "pororbabply").

I'm worried about what this represents for university, where it will be required to read long texts for classes &c.

Should I expect to receive pushback if I pursue an IEP? Because I don't experience the stereotypical "words dancing off the page" symptoms, I'm concerned I wont be taken seriously, or I'll just be seen as "stupid"/"dumb".

Thanks guys.

I love playing these kinds of games but I hate the fact that so many of them require a subscription or are only accessible if you watch a ton of ads.

Preferably they allow you to access hints in the same way the NYT sanctioned ones do, because I'm dyslexic and absolutely suck at these games.

Ideally I just want a version of the NYT dailies that's a one time purchase, but I understand that's hard to come by. Any suggestions welcome, thanks!!