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Ashamed and in need of help

I would be so grateful for any advice on how to handle my monstera. I've had a really hard past year or so life and mental health wise and she has been neglected on an old computer chair in the spare bedroom. As the plant has grown its been propped up against the back of the computer chair so has ended up facing different directions when the chair swings around and when I remove the chair it's really floppy and pointing to the floor, and the growth direction is all over the show. I have also noticed that a whole large stem has broken off. This must be a while ago as it has callused off and must be being supported by its ariel root which has gone into the soil. It is giving me bits of new growth though. I really would love to know how to deal with this and stake or provide some other support to get her looking good again. Thank you.

u/MotherEastern3051 — 4 days ago
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Will these be ok with a temp plank?

I've recently repotted my pink princess and thai constellation but am undecided on how to support them. I am hesitant of a moss pole due to the maintenance and because I have heard they can encourage pests. I hate dealing with pests and have not had much success getting rid of them in the past so I'm erring towards a plant or trellis. I found these cut offs in the shed and am wondering if I keep them there for a few weeks/months would that be adequate support? I'd like both plants to grow but am not seeking them to get absolutely huge as I don't have the space.

u/MotherEastern3051 — 5 days ago

Does anyone have experience wording from Roots plants online?

**ordering not wording!

Pic of my fave astrantia so the post doesn't get lost!

u/MotherEastern3051 — 18 days ago

Potentially huge leaseholder charges for maisonette I am selling in England.

Short version: Selling late mums flat, council as freeholder (council) have given a speculative figure of 15k for 'potential' works needed but have no fim surveys, quotes etc to back this up. I now have to disclose this to potential buyers despite having no firm info or timeliness from council. I am also concerned about the councils lack of transparency. No idea what to do or how I am going to be able to sell now.

Long version:

I am currently trying to sell my late mums leasehold maisonette flat and have found myself in a really stressful and worrying situation with potentially massive charges from the freeholder. England based.

A prospective buyer contacted the freeholder (the council) to ask if there is any upcoming planned maintenance work in the next few years. The council has responded to this person to say that yes there potentially is a body of works, and that if all elements are deemed to be required, the total estimated cost would be just shy of £15k. The flat is only worth £75k. The council only made me aware of this via email shortly after they gave this information to the prospective buyer. The flat is a maisonette in a block of 4, with 2 of the other being council flats and the other one a housing association. The figure they have given is 25% of estimated costs for potential works including a new roof, repointing, chimney removal, any asbestos removal, and prelims. £60k total for the block for this seems absolutely insane to me.

The predicament I am now in is as follows:

- The freeholder has reached a specific figure of the cost of potential works that the might need to be done/started in the next 2 years.

- Upon me asking the freeholder for more information on how this has been reached, they just say its am estimated figure from the internal assets team that has come about from rolling stock maintenance review.

- The freeholder is also being extremely vague and non committal about why they think those works might need to be done, how they have reached those costs and when any work might start. They have also not gotten any assessments or surveys regarding the necessity of the work or any independent quotes.

- The freeholder/council has said that their repair and maintenance service is now 'in house'. When I have queried whether this means they will be following an open procurement process and getting independent quotes they keep not responding.

The position this leaves me in is that I am trying to sell the flat, and have to now make any prospective buyers aware of the possibility of works that may cost up to £15k. However, I am unable to tell them any firm or reliable information on how this figure has been reached and the likelihood of everything they have put as 'potential' needing to be done.

This is making me so stressed as I am desperately trying to sell the flat, have already turned down an offer (although I would have needed to tell them anyway now) and have no idea how I am meant to sell it now with so much uncertainty and such a big scary price hanging over it. The council are being absolutely useless.

It would be great to know what questions I should be asking of the council. In particular what obligations they have to now carry surveys etc in a timely way so that I can progress selling with more certainty and firm information to give, especially given they have given essentially a member this £15k figure with no firm info to back it up. Secondly, what obligations they have to follow an open procurement process and appoint someone independent to do any needed works. The fact that they have said their maintenance and repair service is 'in house' makes me thing its basically a way of paying themselves obscene costs. Thank you for any advice at all anyone can offer.

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u/MotherEastern3051 — 24 days ago

Extortionate and uncertain freeholder charges to leaseholder

I am currently trying to sell my late mums leasehold maisonette flat and have found myself in a really stressful and worrying situation with potentially massive charges from the freeholder. England based.

A prospective buyer contacted the freeholder (the council) to ask if there is any upcoming planned maintenance work in the next few years. The council has responded to this person to say that yes there potentially is a body of works, and that if all elements are deemed to be required, the total estimated cost would be just shy of £15k. The flat is only worth £75k. The council only made me aware of this via email shortly after they gave this information to the prospective buyer. The flat is a maisonette in a block of 4, with 2 of the other being council flats and the other one a housing association. The figure they have given is 25% of estimated costs for potential works including a new roof, repointing, chimney removal, any asbestos removal, and prelims. £60k total for the block for this seems absolutely insane to me.

The predicament I am now in is as follows:

- The freeholder has reached a specific figure of the cost of potential works that the might need to be done/started in the next 2 years.

- Upon me asking the freeholder for more information on how this has been reached, they just say its am estimated figure from the internal assets team that has come about from rolling stock maintenance review.

- The freeholder is also being extremely vague and non committal about why they think those works might need to be done, how they have reached those costs and when any work might start. They have also not gotten any assessments or surveys regarding the necessity of the work or any independent quotes.

- The freeholder/council has said that their repair and maintenance service is now 'in house'. When I have queried whether this means they will be following an open procurement process and getting independent quotes they keep not responding.

The position this leaves me in is that I am trying to sell the flat, and have to now make any prospective buyers aware of the possibility of works that may cost up to £15k. However, I am unable to tell them any firm or reliable information on how this figure has been reached and the likelihood of everything they have put as 'potential' needing to be done.

This is making me so stressed as I am desperately trying to sell the flat, have already turned down an offer (although I would have needed to tell them anyway now) and have no idea how I am meant to sell it now with so much uncertainty and such a big scary price hanging over it. The council are being absolutely useless.

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u/MotherEastern3051 — 24 days ago

PSA UK Lushies: put your massage bars in the fridge today!

I'm feeling very proud that I just remember to do this. I keep my Lush stuff in a drawer in my bedroom which gets insanely hot in weather like this and I learned the hard way last year! I have two Hayl massage bars and two Bitzers that are now safely in the fridge!

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u/MotherEastern3051 — 1 month ago
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Suspecting buyers are lying about their status

TLDR: accepted an offer based on the buyers being residential and not landlords, but pretty sure they have lied and are landlords. Any advice on what to do?

I'm currently selling a flat and have been clear with estate agents that my strong preference is to sell to people who want to live in the property, not to landlords or flippers. It is a very poor area and has an issue with landlords buying up affordable properties and there being lower than average numbers of locals on the property ladder. I had a couple of offers after about a week on the market, one from a small family that is sadly not proceedable yet, and another lower offer from an investor/landlord which I rejected. Last week I accepted an offer for the asking price for a couple the agent said are planning to downsize and live there. However, they also said they are mot selling their current property so it didn't add up. After some extremely light companies house digging, it turns out the couple are joint directors of a property management buy to let company, and they don't even live anywhere near the city the flat is in. So obviously I suspect they are lying and are in fact buying it to let it out. The agent may have told them I was looking to sell to residential buyers, or they might just know that that's what sellers might prefer. Now that I've accepted an offer, would it be stupid to challenge this and how would I approach this with the agent without sounding like a snooping busibody?

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u/MotherEastern3051 — 2 months ago
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I suspect buyers are lying about their position

TLDR: accepted an offer based on the buyers being residential and not landlords, but pretty sure they have lied and are landlords. Any advice on what to do?

I'm currently selling a flat and have been clear with estate agents that my strong preference is to sell to people who want to live in the property, not to landlords or flippers. It is a very poor area and has an issue with landlords buying up affordable properties and there being lower than average numbers of locals on the property ladder. I had a couple of offers after about a week on the market, one from a small family that is sadly not proceedable yet, and another lower offer from an investor/landlord which I rejected. Last week I accepted an offer for the asking price for a couple the agent said are planning to downsize and live there. However, they also said they are mot selling their current property so it didn't add up. After some extremely light companies house digging, it turns out the couple are joint directors of a property management buy to let company, and they don't even live anywhere near the city the flat is in. So obviously I suspect they are lying and are in fact buying it to let it out. Now that I've accepted an offer, would it be stupid to challenge this and how would I approach this with the agent without sounding like a snooping busibody?

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u/MotherEastern3051 — 2 months ago

Worcester Sauce BBE 2017...ok to use?

Half way through making a veggie lasagna and realised the Worcester Sauce we have in has a best before date of March 2017. Definitely an out of date record in this house, and there have been some strong contenders (looking at you Birds Custard powder BBE 2019). It smells fine. Do we think its alright to use. **I am aware its got fish in it so not veggie, but I was not veggie at the time of purchase and I usually preferred to get through stuff with trace amounts rather than throw away.

u/MotherEastern3051 — 2 months ago

This little aloe vera has been pretty neglected , planted in a beer can with no drainage (but infrequent watering) and on a north facing window that gets no direct sun for most of the year. I'm so glad she's happy!

u/MotherEastern3051 — 2 months ago

TLDR: How complicated or not would selling to one half of a divorcing couple (reliant on selling their house so chain) be? Risk it and wait or less to cash buyer landlord?

I'm currently in the process of trying to sell my late mums flat (England). The flat is fully clear, requires a lot of modernisation but is fundamentally a good property in a safe area, with a decent sized private garden, drive and garage. It's also at the lower end if the market (less than 100k) in a very traditionally working class area. It's been on a week and a half now and had a decent amount of interest (for what seems to be a slow market) with 6 viewings and 2 offers, of 6% and 10% below asking price. This leads to my conundrum. One of the offers is from a landlord who wants to add it to his 'property portfolio' and is a cash buyer who has said he can move quickly. The other offer is from a single parent who is currently in the process of divorce and trying to sell their current place, along with finding a new smaller place to live with their young son. The Estate agent has said they don't consider the single parents offer as proceedable and advised us not to accept or negotiate further due to how long it all might take. As well as accepting an offer they are happy with, apparently the other parent has not found an onward purchase yet and both the husband and wife rely on the sale of their current property to have funds for a new place. I have accepted neither offer yet and we may well get other offers in the coming week/s, but my massive preference would be to sell to the single parent rather than a landlord. My reservations are how long it might take for them to be in a position to be proceedable and the potential for added complications of it being a divorcing couple. The flat I'm selling does need a fair bit of updating and what also worries me is the risk of us waiting for then and then them being scared off by survey results anyway as there are likely to be a range of little things that come up that a landlord might be potentially be put off by. Nothing major but things like ventilation needed in the loft, more sockets putting in and potentially some electric works. Does anyone have any advice based on similar experiences or general pearls of wisdom?

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u/MotherEastern3051 — 2 months ago