u/MotoLeoG

I (33M) have found myself in a situation recently that’s left my head in a bit of a spin..

Over the last few months I’ve been growing very close to a friend (25F) who, and I know it’s not right, has a boyfriend. It’s clear to see by me and others that she deserves so much better, and from what I’ve seen and heard myself he doesn’t treat her right. She could be so much happier, I think she knows it, but it’s all she’s known relationship wise.

We’ve been talking daily for the last few months, get on really well, have talked about a potential of something more in future and have kissed a couple of times.

A few days ago she found out she was pregnant, which has flipped this whole situation on its head and I don’t know what to think or do. Despite clearly being unhappy, and him not being the right guy, it sounds like she wants to keep the baby…

Regardless of our situation, as a friend first and foremost, I want to say to really be careful and think about how it’s probably not the best idea. But I feel like whatever I say will just sound like I’m saying it as I have a motive. Truly, it’s just because I care and I’m worried about her.

Do I try and say something, or do I just step away, let people make their own mistakes and accept it wasn’t meant to be?