I am in tough situations. Need Suggestions ..
Hi we are right now I am 27\[M\] my gf is 22 \[F\]. I am belongs to OC community and she is belongs to BC community. I don't have any problem with her community.
We are Telugu Guys from Andhra Pradesh. I am in Hyderabad searching for IT Job. She was in Ahemdabad. She went to Ahmedabad for studies.
I will tell what was happened and happening on time line basis. Like chronological order..
**18.12.2022** \- We met first time on Instagram. She said I am MBBS student Right now I am In Ahmedabad my age is 21. We share some information on conversations. It's kind of long distance relationship.
We made calls and chatted for around 6 months.
**March 2023** - i moved from my home town to Hyderabad for software Coaching.
**31.5.2023** \- she had summer holidays. Thats why she is going to her Home town. On the way, she came to Hyderabad. I booked flight ticket from Ahmedabad to Hyderabad with my money. We spend around 2 days in Hyderabad. Then she went to Her home town.
**17. 6.2023** \- she is return back to her college. On the way she came to Hyderabad. She bought **UPSC** books to prepare for UPSC exams. Together We stayed around 1 week in Hyderabad. Then she went to college.
**15.10. 2023** \- she again came to Hyderabad by flight. We stayed and spend some time in Hyderabad. Then she went to Ahemdabad.
Her parents didn't know about her Hyderabad trips.
**18.12.2023** \- on this date, she was in Ahemdabad and she said to me a fact she was engaged to another man **Ravi** that Engagment was happened in **March 2022**. I don't know about her engagement till December 2023.She said like my parents were forced me that's why I said ok to Engagment but I **never liked** **Ravi**. I **don't have interest** on him. Even He didn't have Job or income source at that Engagment time. By the time **Ravi** age around 28\[M\]. She is 18\[F\]. Now he is 32\[M\], she is 22\[F\]. They Both are belongs to same village.
She said some other things to me.
I am not a MBBS student. I am B.SC degree student.
Her parents doesn't know about her education clearly.
**In June 2022** \- I(she) said to my parents like i got a MBBS admission in Ahmedabad. Thats why I am going to pursue my studies in Ahemdabad. She convinced her parents. So then her parents joined her in Ahemdabad college. At the time of admission She said her problem to that addmissioner and managed there. Her parents believes like our daughter pursuing MBBS but actually she is studying B.SC Degree.
I asked her about all these things on 18.12.2023... She said like If I stay in my home Town, definitely my parents are going to marry me off to him. To came out from home & to avoid marriage I said i got MBBS seat in Ahmedabad. She said Ravi got a private job His salary would be like 15k or 16k in 2022.
**2023** - I (me) attended to multiple interviews but I didn't get a job in IT sector. Then I changed my mind .
**February - August 2024** - she made and earns around 2 laks by doing network marketing
From **April - September 2024** - I got a job in sales department. 5 months i did the job. After i resigned to it.
**June 2024**- she came to Hyderabad..then we went to tirupati trip.
**October 2024**- in October 2024, she got a Credit card from a bank. We used it for our personal expenses.
**December 2024** - she said to her parents like i am going to do internship in Hyderabad for 3 months. They said ok.
**2024 -** she came to Hyderabad multiple times by flight. We traveled and satyed together. She helped me if I don't have money.she helped me lot of times. But her parents didn't know about her travellings or college Leaves.
Ravi often talks to my GF. May be once or twice in a month he had conversation with my GF.
This year, too, has passed away. Meanwhile College holidays time, she went to her home town.. there her relatives and village neighbours asked her or her parents about marriage. They( her parents ) said like after completion of Her education they gonne Marry to her with Ravi.
**January 2025 -** she came to Hyderabad for internship. stayed in pg. After 1 month she went back to her college.
**April 2025** - Her grand mother was died.
**May 2025** \- Her final year exams were completed. But she stayed in college till June ending.
**June 2025 -** we had discussion related what is next. She said I stay here (ahemdabad ) only.then i asked her what would you do over there after completion of education. Then I said another thing. Come to Hyderabad learn a skill ( in coaching institute), then we will search for a Job in IT sector.
**July 2025** \- she came to Hyderabad joined in PG. I am staying with my friends in our flat. We both are not living together. We stayed separately. Her parents didn't know about she was moved to Hyderabad. Her parents thought that she is in Ahmedabad. In July we ( me, my GF) went to Munnar trip. Then we came back from trip.
**August 2025 -** she got a another Credit card from bank. Aftet trip she never join in any institute to learn skill. So then she tried for non IT jobs. After 2 or 3 interview attempts, she said like i don't like this environment. So I don't have interest to do this kind of jobs. Then I asked her what would gonna do. She said like i will prepare for UPSC exams.
in this month **One strange and import thing** was happened this month. My Gf's grandfather made an allegation on Her mother(mf gf mom) & Ravi( my Gf s fiance) like my gf mother has **extramarital affair with Ravi**. I don't know why he (mf GF grandfather) made that allegation on them. No major conflict took place at that time. After this issue happened, still marriage was not cancelled.
**September 2025 -** So then I suggested her.. ok do one thing. My friend's sister is preparing for UPSC exams in Hyderabad. I said to her(my Gf) like i will talk to my friend, so you(my gf) have to meet her(my frnd sister) and have conversation, stay for few weeks or months with her And observe things like about syllabus, prepration, exams etc. what was happened, she(my gf) never met her didn't get anything from her( my frnd sister) about UPSC. I suggested her another thing, go to near study room.. there prepare for UPSC. But She did nothing related to UPSC.
**December 2025** - in this month she went to her college for convocation. But we both don't have money. So she took a loan from an app. I am paying it's emi every month.
**2025 -** From September onwards, I paid her hostel fees. I padi charges for the rotation of credit cards. every month
I paid her EMIs.
This year, too, has passed away. Ravi knows about her ( my Gf) education like she is not studying MBBS, she is pursuing B.SC. but he(Ravi) never tells to her(my gf) parents. He(Ravi) never build a communication or relationship with my GF. Ravi often talks to my GF. May be once in a month he had conversation with my GF in mobile calls.
**April 2026 -** My Gf went to her home town. She stayed around 1 month over there. In this month her parents told to her (my gf), Next March 2027, we will get you and Ravi married. One day, Ravi andy My Gf went to outside for casual talk. There she said **NO to Ravi** , **I(my Gf) am not gonna marry you** . Till now he(Ravi) never responded on the marriage topic.
**May 2026** \- my gf came back to Hyderabad. We had conversation and discussions. Now she wants to move to Delhi for UPSC exams preparation. Till now she never prepared for UPSC EXAMS. Not even single book was completed or revised.
Till now her parents believe she(my Gf) is studying MBBS. After completion of MBBS, she is going to prepare for NEET- PG exam. She is going to take money for NEET-PG coaching from her parents but actually she is going to prepare for UPSC.
**I said to her don't make mistakes one after another. Go and tell to your parents about what was happened. But she never wants to tell to her parents.**
She(my gf) said I will marry you(me) only Not Ravi. But she asks me like i need some time to marry you. I will prepare for UPSC. If I select or got a job in UPSC, then it is easy thing to convince my parents to marry you(me). She said, Right now I don't want marriage.
From September 2025 to till date.. around i spent 4,00,000 to 4,50,000. It includes my expenses as well as her expenses like Hostel feels , EMI, monthly pocket money etc...
Now..
She needs around 4 to 4.5 laks for UPSC coaching in delhi. Her dad is going to give around 2 laks for coaching (her dad knows she is going to preparing for NEET-PG not a UPSC). Now she asking me around 2 to 2.5 laks for UPSC coaching in Delhi.
I am planning to establish a business. Still I am struggling. I don't have Job.
Some what my Gfs financial condition is better than me. She is financially stronger than me.
**So**
**Now what options do I have right now. What would I do now.**
**Give me suggestion.**
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