u/MsOliviaTwist

Greetings everyone. I am a 38 year old black woman who is looking for one or two smail mail pen pal. I am into Buddhist, Indigenous and African earth based spirituality. I am NOT into Christianity. I am someone who has gone through and studied trauma.

I have studied and have a deep connection to plant medicine. I am a avid reader of fiction and non-fiction.

Recent reads are:

Children of Blood and Bone

Wild Reverence

Ryan Kennedy Skyland Trilogy.

Autobiographies, Audre Lorde

I am a person with depth and lots of wisdom to share.

I have a strong preference for Black, Indigenous, Afro Latina female writers. I live in a predominantly white area and I am looking for connection and sisterhood with other Biwoc women.

Of course if you dont fit that bill, reach out anymore and perhaps we can chat and see if we could be a good fit for a penpal.

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I have lost trust in my partner - dx and unmedicated due to failure to initiate and follow through. We have deep love with each other- I just realized I dont trust them to follow through or initiate things anymore. I am at the point where I dont even bother bringing up things anymore and have checked out.

How do you deal? I am not ready or going to part from them so that advice is ineffective.

Thanks.

Greetings everyone I am severe CPTSD from foster care, abandonment, abuse, racism and poverty and repeated relational violations and harm. I am generally always in a generally unbearable amount of mental and emotional anguish and I dont know how much longer I can go on like this. Do you or have you experience this and what tools help you if you do. I take psychiatric medication which reduces it for a time but then the anguish comes back and I get very little reprieve. Is it simply a part of being someone who has been severely wounded/ traumatized.

Dx partner struggles with magical thinking. Can you relate?

Greetings everyone. I am looking for Austism Adhd Adult Resources and support in the valley. I am looking for both clinical, social and peer support.

The individual needing resources is Level 1 austism and is located in Amherst. They do have insurance and has access to a vehicle and internet for virtual support.

Person is in their late 40s. Late diagnosis.

Thank you!

When I was in my early 20s, I dated a Black male musician while I was very emotionally unprotected and vulnerable.

At one point, I was trying to talk to him about ways he had hurt me, and his response was basically that I could “take it” because I was a strong Black woman.

I remember going completely quiet after he said that. I felt deeply dehumanized and honestly shocked. At that age, I think part of me believed another Black person would never project that kind of hardness onto me because they also understood racism and pain. He had even opened up to me before about how racism had hurt him personally.

Now that I’m older, I understand more about toxic masculinity, emotional projection, and internalized racism/misogynoir. But that moment still stayed with me because it made me feel like my vulnerability was invisible.

One thing I still struggle with is healing from the specific pain of being denied softness, care, or protection under the label of being a “strong Black woman.” from a black man.

I’d really appreciate hearing from other Black women about what healthy beliefs, perspectives, or practices helped you heal from that particular wound.

I’m a 38 year old survivor of foster care, and after years of unstable attachments, almost forever families that didn’t work out, a failed adoption, therapists leaving, and friendships that painfully crashed and burned… I think something in me just gave up on deep attachment.

I love my spouse dearly, but I keep a small emotional distance for my own sense of safety. At this point, I feel exhausted by loss, abandonment, and trying to build connection only to have it disappear again.

My life is pretty small now. I read, watch TV shows, and try to create some sense of peace and stability for myself.

I think part of my CPTSD has led me to stop searching for family or deep belonging because it no longer feels emotionally safe for me.

What are healthy expectations and standards should I have for a masculine partner?

I grew up in foster care and did not have a father figure to show me what to expect and accept. Thank you.