u/Murky_Bookkeeper_

Hey queer philly! I just got referred to this group from r/philly. My partner and I are both trans and are thinking about relocating to Philly. I’d love to hear your thoughts on being trans in Philly, from day to day life to legal aspects. And, are there certain areas that are better for trans folks?

We’re both openly and visibly trans. Also, looking for a place with good transit since neither of us own cars anymore.

Thanks!

Hey everyone, my partner and I are considering moving to Philly and I’m wondering if it’s a safe area for trans folks?

Also, how’s the transit? What areas can you get by in without a car?

Thanks!

EDIT: I hear the resounding yes!!! Thanks everyone. I got some mixed reviews on a different post which is why I asked so plainly. Trans folks: if you have any recommendations for specific areas or neighborhoods, they’d be highly appreciated! Also, any fav trans owned businesses I should support? Lmk!

Okay so I have sort of had a bad feeling about this job since I got it. I am staying with my partner for the summer and it is the local summer camp in his town. I was hired as the assistant to the site manager. I have asked for more information about camp, schedule, rules and regulations, etc. multiple times and have not been given anything. I had a meeting with the camp director where she basically said "your site manager will figure it out and tell you!"....waste of time but I digress. I had to get background checked at my own cost (they'll reimburse me, but I had to pay out of pocket, and they didn't tell me about it beforehand. Also, they said that it might take up to three weeks to cut the check....the camp is six weeks total).

I had my first meeting, and finally met my site manager, today. She basically has nothing planned, just a general outline of each day of camp (group game, stations, lunch, etc.---no specific activities or ways the groups are split. She actually told me she had no idea how to split groups and asked what I thought...and I just spent hours of my own, unpaid, time making those groups, as she had no intention of making them).

Then, she tells me that she won't be there the first week of camp. Not a single day. And she doesn't ask if I would be comfortable leading that week. She just says that I will be. No one, not her or the director, told me that I would be leading any weeks, let alone the first, independently. I do not know any of the families or kids attending the camp. I've never even been to the school that the camp takes place in. At our meeting today, I met some of our CITs and one counselor, but the other half of our staff were not there. So, I have not even seen half of the staff that I am meant to lead. Also, the staff are scheduled to get there 15 minutes before camp starts on the first day...how on earth am I supposed to organize and communicate plans with 15 minutes?

For reference, this camp serves over 60 kids. I am feeling wildly uncomfortable and I'm fairly certain that if I voice these concerns, they will not be heard, as all of my prior concerns have not. I think having to lead the first week just being thrown on me like that was my last straw, as I've been trying to convince myself for the past few weeks that I'm just dreading going back to work in general as I've had a few weeks off. But now, I'm really stressed because I do not think I am capable of keeping 60+ kids safe and happy for a week in these circumstances. And financials are not a problem, I have another part-time job. I just know that I would be royally screwing over the camp at large if I quit now. They probably wouldn't be able to run this camp for the first week. But, to word it bluntly, I'm also wondering if that is my problem.

Tell me, do you think I would be the asshole? And, if you have any advice (especially my fellow childcare workers) please let me know! Thanks in advance

Hi! I was wondering if anyone has insight on safe places for trans folks to live right now? I'm a recent college grad and I am looking to move somewhere that I can settle for at least a few years. I have been trying to move abroad, but I've hit a lot of roadblocks with that. It just feels like there aren't any safe places for trans folks in the US right now, but I'm sure there are pockets that are safe, or at least safe enough for every day function, that I don't know about. So, if you're trans and live in a safe area, I'd love to know where you live and what your experience has been like the past few years. Also, if you live outside of the US and feel your city is safe for trans folks, I'd love to hear about it too!

Here are some cities I am considering (though feel free to give your insight on these as well):

NYC (not sure which borough)

Boston/Cambridge

Seattle

Philly (not sure which area)

Thanks in advance!!

EDIT/ADDITION: I am also ranking cities by their public transit/walk-ability and COL. If you can consider those when writing your suggestions, that would be super helpful!! :)