lately the weather has been so nice that it feels ridiculous to work indoors. i’ve been taking my lightweight camp chair and laptop outside on my onewheel and hotspotting with my phone. it’s magical
ever since i got an XRC i notice that at speed i often get blasted with very loud wind noise. airpods dont really help, sometimes even making it worse. i have a full face helmet but it feels overkill for some of these quick errands i'm running. how are you all cutting that wind noise?
after i finished college life got super lonely. every day felt the same. i would wake up, go to work, watch tv, and go to sleep. i missed having friends so much. i had people in my area that i knew and would see once a month or so, but i wanted friends like i had in college or high school. i wanted to be surrounded by people who were kind and encouraging, people i could go on spontaneous outings and try new things with
for two years i told myself its just really hard to make friends as an adult. i tried to fill the void by spending lots of time in online spaces. i was on discord constantly. i chatted with some people regularly in servers i frequented, sometimes even about life. i told myself that was enough, but it never fully filled the void in my life
at some point i decided i couldn't take it anymore. i reached out to my old therapist and got myself back on the schedule. i told her how lonely i felt and how much i yearned for real friendship, and she gave me some homework. i had to go to a local public social meetup for people my age
it was horrifying. i tried to talk myself out of going as i was five minutes away. my anxiety was through the roof. i showed up, though, and i'm so glad i did. after hiking and talking with complete strangers for an hour and a half i felt invigorated. i began to re-learn that strangers can be nice
from there i was able to psych myself up enough to try d&d, something i'd always wanted to get into. i found a public meetup a town away and forced myself to show up. there i met two very nice players at my table and our dungeon master was fantastic
i decided i needed a faith community again and so i set out to find a church in my area. i found a young adult group in my area and, with sweaty palms, walked through the doors. almost immediately i ran into a friendly face, someone i went to high school with but didn't know well. we hit it off immediately
he invited me to his bible study which i'm still a part of today, a group of my closest friends. they truly love their neighbors, no matter their race, sexual orientation, gender identity etc. its a dynamic i didn't know was possible before meeting them. from there we started a weekly board game group that has naturally grown to 10+ people per week
the players and dungeon master at my table that first day at d&d ended up trying a goofy non-d&d ttrpg a few sessions later and split off from the larger group into our own campaign hosted at my house. after our year-long campaign ended i invited them to the weekly board game group. they're enthusiastic regulars and good friends
in the space where we play board games i met a guy who is super into chess and he invited me to his chess club. through that chess club i met four of my favorite people on earth. together we've explored our city, trying all sorts of activities i'd never even considered. from backyard concerts to stargazing parties to disc golf i have never seen so much of the place i grew up in. i am living my favorite time in my life right now because i didn't let college be the peak
i am so grateful to be known. it means the world that people i respect deeply keep inviting me into their lives and that i get to be better for it. i also feel honored to be able to turn that back around and host others now
if you are lonely and feel as though you will never find community again, i hope this gives you a bit of hope. my life is so radically different now because of two things
everybody needs people who care about them. it is more than worth the vulnerability to find that
anyone have any tips?
i've put 3 long sessions in trying to learn to curb nudge. i've watched good tutorials, drilled with the board off, filmed myself etc. i made it up on the curb once as a fluke and haven't recreated it since
i'm getting frustrated and i feel like the more i try the more i'm teaching my body the wrong thing. for context, i have 1600 miles ridden and am currently on a pint s
the curb i'm using to learn is a standard parking lot height with a nice amount of runway behind. i'm approaching at ~5-7mph, leaning my weight back over the tire to get the nose up, shoving my front foot forward when the tire is about an inch away from the curb and then snapping the board back the other way. sometimes i stall, sometimes i get sent forward, sometimes the board lifts a little bit and then falls back down
i can't wrap my head around what is supposed to happen. you de-weight, but also stomp? 8 things seem to need to happen perfectly at once. it currently feels unbelievable that this can be done with any level of consistency
if you have any helpful tips, i would seriously appreciate it!