u/Mysterious_Coco0804

I have been thinking of going on a workation since a very long time and now Bir (Himachal Pradesh) looks like a good option
Yet I am looking to be absolutely sure whether I should go now or not

—Looking for suggestions of good hotels/hostels. (Budget friendly)
—Is the wifi and electricity reliable?
—I don’t really know how to ride a scooty so what else i can do when I am there?
—Is it even logical to travel in the next week considering the weather?
—I have heard that paragliding stops for sometime during monsoon, Is that true?
—Are there buses from Delhi that have private cabin? I tried searching but couldn’t find any :(

I met this guy on a trip. We met through an app (not dating app). We planned to meet he came to pick me up with a friend from my resort. We three went to couple of clubs, talked and had a-lot of fun. I too had a lot of beer that night just for the sake of having fun (normal fun) and I didn’t realise how much I was consuming. I usually stop after a point but that day idk what I was thinking and continued to intoxicate myself.
When we came back I was feeling a bit puckish tso I laid my head at the back and even I don’t know when I passed out.
When I was up, I still pretended like I was sleeping and these guys were talking about me:
They said She was nice, lively girl, having fun but now she passed out. Such a turn off she is. She ruined the mood. The money we spent on her drinks is complete waste.
Question 1- Is this really a thing to be turned off?
Did I not do right by them?
Then we came back to our hostel, they woke me up.
We sat down for a while. Had the leftover pizza from one of the place and they had beer, I refused.

In my head(All honesty)-Is something gonna happen between him and me? He looks attractive. I feel like kissing him. Oh god! Please make one kiss happen between him and me! I wasn’t desperate or anything. It was just kinda wish I was making. Hoping for a good out (maybe some good relationship)
While we were going up, me and his friend were on the same floor. His friend got out and I said “My room is also on this floor”
He said “Go then”
I started to open the grills of the lift and he pulled me back and closed the grills.
We went to his room, I was really turned on. I was attracted. I wanted to kiss and make-out with him. Believe it or not I was really not planning or hoping to have sex.
We started with kiss he removed my clothes, things escalated, he stood infront of me, I was not fully aware, I was tipsy, tad bit sleepy but yet I remember my words “Are you gonna fuck me?” I don’t remember his reply. I asked him couple of times “Please order condoms, I can’t do this without protection”
And before I knew it, he went inside me and Idk if it was a heat of the moment or my intoxication or what, I didn’t do anything about it.
Making a guy wear condom and having safe sex has always been a priority for me. And I swear if I was sober I would never have allowed him near me without protection.
I can’t get over this. I feel it is all my fault. I let myself loose that night. I didn’t take care of myself. I was irresponsible towards myself.
I have talked to couple of people about this.
One person says that it sounds like borderline SA because I was passing out during the act at times and he didn’t try to wake me up.

Worst part- I still replay that night as one of the most sexiest nights of my life because the sex was genuinely good and I am not able to get that guy out of my head even though my heart knows how wrong he was.
I feel like if he texts me someday to come over, I would jump on the offer.
Why am I being like this?
I don’t have any self respect. I feel so stupid and worthless about myself.

P.S. I hate to share this over here but i needed to vent it out. The only person i could share anything with and she would provide me instant comfort is not in my life anymore. And I don’t think anyone else in my life is interested in what i am going through.
To everyone who is helping me in comments, I am grateful!

I’m a bit confused and need help figuring out what tests I should actually get done after my gynecologist appointment.

I’ve been having vaginal symptoms for a while, which started after my last sexual encounter. At first it was pretty intense itching, and more recently I’ve had thick, white, curd-like discharge. There’s no strong or foul smell. I was worried it could be an infection and also wanted to rule out STIs.

I went to a gynecologist and paid around ₹1,360 for the consultation/tests. I was told it might be a mixed infection and was given vaginal tablets/pessaries, which I’ve been using.

Where I got confused is the testing part:

\\\\\\\\- I asked about a Pap smear and STI testing.
\\\\\\\\- The doctor first mentioned that vaginal swab and pap smear are same thing.
\\\\\\\\- I was told a Pap smear swab can detect things like yeast infection, bacterial infection, trichomoniasis, and gonorrhea.
\\\\\\\\- I was told a Pap smear does NOT detect STIs.
\\\\\\\\- I was also told chlamydia would need a blood test.
\\\\\\\\- But later I was told the Pap smear and vaginal swab are basically the same thing, which confused me a lot.
\\\\\\\\- I didn’t get a clear report saying exactly what was tested. I only have the result sheet I was given.
\\\\\\\\- I was told it could be a mixed infection after visual examination which doing pap smear, but I’m not sure what was actually checked for.

My last sexual encounter was protected, so I really want to properly rule out STIs instead of just assuming treatment for a vaginal infection covers everything.

My ex-partner told me he got 6 STI tests done and they were all negative, but I know that doesn’t automatically mean I’m clear too.

What I want to understand is:

1. What STI tests should I actually ask for?
2. Which infections are checked through a vaginal/cervical swab (like NAAT/PCR), and which need blood tests?
3. Is a Pap smear useful here at all, or is it mostly unrelated to STI testing?
4. If I already had a vaginal swab, how do I find out exactly what was tested?
5. Should I go to another gynecologist/sexual health doctor for a full STI panel, or can I just go directly to a diagnostic lab?

I just want to stop guessing and get the right tests done so I can be sure about what’s going on.

I’m in India, in case that changes what tests are usually available.

I’m confused and need help figuring out what tests I should actually get done after my gynecologist appointment.

I’ve been having vaginal symptoms for a while, which started after my last sexual encounter. At first it was pretty intense itching, and more recently I’ve had thick, white, curd-like discharge. There’s no strong or foul smell. I was worried it could be an infection and also wanted to rule out STIs.

I went to a gynecologist and paid around ₹1,360 for the consultation/tests. I was told it might be a mixed infection and was given vaginal tablets/pessaries, which I’ve been using.

Where I got confused is the testing part:

\\\\\\\\- I asked about a Pap smear and STI testing.
\\\\\\\\- The doctor first mentioned that vaginal swab and pap smear are same thing.
\\\\\\\\- I was told a Pap smear swab can detect things like yeast infection, bacterial infection, trichomoniasis, and gonorrhea.
\\\\\\\\- I was told a Pap smear does NOT detect STIs.
\\\\\\\\- I was also told chlamydia would need a blood test.
\\\\\\\\- But later I was told the Pap smear and vaginal swab are basically the same thing, which confused me a lot.
\\\\\\\\- I didn’t get a clear report saying exactly what was tested. I only have the result sheet I was given.
\\\\\\\\- I was told it could be a mixed infection after visual examination which doing pap smear, but I’m not sure what was actually checked for.

My last sexual encounter was protected, so I really want to properly rule out STIs instead of just assuming treatment for a vaginal infection covers everything.

My ex-partner told me he got 6 STI tests done and they were all negative, but I know that doesn’t automatically mean I’m clear too.

What I want to understand is:

1. What STI tests should I actually ask for?
2. Which infections are checked through a vaginal/cervical swab (like NAAT/PCR), and which need blood tests?
3. Is a Pap smear useful here at all, or is it mostly unrelated to STI testing?
4. If I already had a vaginal swab, how do I find out exactly what was tested?
5. Should I go to another gynecologist/sexual health doctor for a full STI panel, or can I just go directly to a diagnostic lab?

I just want to stop guessing and get the right tests done so I can be sure about what’s going on.

I’m in India, in case that changes what tests are usually available.