u/N3XT191

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Just got back from our honeymoon and did a quick breakdown of all the expenses.

Context is ofc very relevant, so here it goes:

• Civil Ceremony (20 people) => Apero Riche on a boat (2h, 38 people) => Cake, Desserts, Drinks at a privately rented café (5h, ~55-60 people)
• No church ceremony
• Only includes cash gifts and costs directly paid by us
• Received a few non-cash gifts, but not too many
• A family member organised (and paid for) flowers/decoration and other family organised and paid for transport/hotel for 2 guests who came from abroad
• Other than the few guests from abroad, no hotels were required for anyone. Civil ceremony was in a castle outside Zurich, most people including us were semi-local to it.
• Honeymoon was a 3 week camper van road trip through Italy. Mostly stayed at campsites / agritourismi but had a total 3 hotel nights in between.
• I can't think of any other even tangentially related expense, this should really include everything (even the new passport due to name change).

We originally planned/budgeted to pay for it all ourselves but got (positively) surprised by everyone's generosity, especially close family. We specifically asked on our invites for (small) cash contributions for our honeymoon but all larger gifts by family were offered without asking.

We are both 27, total gross household income is ~175k and if we had to pay the whole 20k ourselves, that would have amounted to around 10% of our non-3a savings. (Both been working full-time for 3-4y).

If anyone has any questions / inputs / remarks, I'm happy to share details (or not, if it's too personal...)