Need to vent
My wife and I have been together for 6 years. I’ve always known I want at least one child in my life, and it’s something that matters a lot to me.
The thing I’m struggling with is clarity around where my wife stands on it. Whenever I bring it up, she’ll say she does want kids, but other times she’ll say she doesn’t. At one point, the timeline was “after I finish RN school and then maybe two years after that.”
She finished school about 2 years ago and has been working as an RN since then, so we’ve kind of passed that original timeline. But the conversation still feels unclear. Sometimes it sounds like it’s still something she wants in the future, and other times it feels like she’s not really interested in it at all.
What’s confusing me most is the difference in energy. I think about it a lot and feel pretty sure about wanting a kid. But when I bring it up, it doesn’t seem like something she’s excited to talk about or plan for in the same way.
I’m not trying to pressure her into anything, I just feel stuck not knowing if we actually want the same future anymore, or if we’ve just been avoiding a more direct conversation