u/Nasal-Decongestant

She’s gone out of city for a few days and the house feels wrong 😭😭😭 I normally have a pretty laid back routine where I don’t really need to do everything but just managing the househelp and waiting for them to come is messing with my sleep so much 😭 I have trouble sleeping already and ab subha 8 bajey se anxiety hoti hai k 2 bajey maid aur cook sahiba aeingi toh agar soti reh gai toh unka gate kon kholay ga 😭😭

2 din se soi nahi hun bohot yaad aa rhi hai yar itni mujhay apni sagi maa ki yaad nahi aati mereko meri saas wapis chahiye 😭😭

Tldr; I let my friend stay at my house rent-free while she works in my city. My mom keeps complaining that she leaves her room messy, is a picky eater, and only washes her own dishes. My friend is otherwise kind, works long hours, and I feel protective of her.
Should I bring this up with my friend, or let it go?

So about 4 months ago, my friend (21F) came to my city for work and needed a place to stay for a year. She couldn’t find somewhere safe. I offered her my place for free (I don’t live there) and it would just be my mom (66yr old) and her. That way she would be safe and not have to worry about rent

My mom slowly started mentioning some issues. I initially ignored them bec my mom has the keeray nikaalne ki aadat and no one is ever good enough for her but now I can’t help but wonder if I should say something to my friend.

1. My friend leaves her room messy when she goes to work. The bed is unmade and the shelves are never dusted. When she went back home this past week my mom did an indepth cleaning of my room (leaving her stuff untouched) and she sent me pictures of literal dust bunnies on every shelf. It looked really bad. I didn’t think it was an issue because no one goes in that room other than my mom so no one is seeing it anyway. But my mom wants me to talk to my friend about it.
2. Friend is a picky eater. My mom usually eats veggies and almost no meat/chicken. My friend eats mostly chicken/rice/potatoes and only okra. No other veggies. This gives my mom a headache deciding what to cook. I told her it wasn’t her concern and that my friend can order if she doesn’t want to eat what is at home. I was a pretty unbothered kid and ate whatever was made and my mom is used to that. I said not everyone eats everything and even gave examples of my cousins but my mom still brings it up often.

I think it’s also worth mentioning my friend’s routine. She goes to work 7am to 7pm 5 days a week and has weekends off. She’s a good kid and does her own laundry every day and is a good person overall. And honestly, having her around makes me at ease too because now my mom isn’t alone all the time. It’s almost like having a younger sister (I’m an only kid) and this makes me super protective of her.

My mom’s points are somewhat valid to but I have no idea what to say, or even if I should say anything. Can you guys help me with this?

When I started uni, I started talking to these girls who sat next to me on the first day. In the row behind mine, there was a girl who seemed very interested in our convo and kept sneaking glances at me. I gave her space to slide into our convo and that marked the start of my friendship with Alen (fake name).

Alen was dating a guy for 2 years and now that the “honeymoon” period had passed, she would complain about being ignored all the time. He wouldn’t talk to her for weeks and say he was busy. I tried my best to support her. She wasn’t a bad friend, but she wanted to be my ONLY friend. Never let anyone get close. I was comfortable with her.

I started talking to a guy, just friends, no relationship or anything but I had a feeling he was interested. I tried to distance myself from him to call it quits before he felt like I owed him a relationship or something. Alen showed up at his workplace for an “interview” and hung out with him for the whole day.

Next day, she told me about it and I didn’t care. But she kind of wanted me to? She kept bringing it up and I brushed past it and then after 1st semester ended, Alen quit uni to work at a call centre.

You’d think this was the end, right? In second year I ended up in a serious relationship (lets call him S). Alen kept texting me and complaining that I don’t give her attention anymore and I kept telling her I was busy. Mentioned S a couple of times and that was it.

One night me and S were watching a movie when he gets a notification on his phone. At 2 am. On snapchat. I know for a fact this man doesn’t use snapchat and it’s only there because I like to use his phone to take pictures sometimes. I open it, and scroll through his friends list (which I know is empty) and then see the requests. Guess who’s there? Fricking Alen. I blocked her immediately and told S to ignore her if she contacted. He doesn’t talk to strangers anyway so he agrees.

I confronted her after that. But the story’s getting long so I’ll leave it right here. Oh and there’s another story about Alen + her ex (now) and 83k for gold. This girl can have a book written on her.

Edit: I know you can’t wear makeup in front of Non-Mahrams. I cover my face in public regardless of if I’m wearing makeup or not. This is not what this post is about. I don’t know what kind if majalis you all are going to where there are non-mahrams present. I don’t go to juloos etc as well because of men present.

Never thought I would be the one writing this because I don’t wear any makeup during Muharram and Safar.

I got married 6 months ago and while everyone in my immediate inlaws have seen me bare faced multiple times (Alhamdulillah I’m very comfortable with the way Allah made me) my mother in law sat me down today and asked if I could wear a little bit of makeup because she notices people looking at me in a certain way. She told me it was up to me but since I was the new bride, the old aunties might gossip and said it was only for this year.

It’s not like she’s asking me to go full glam. Just a little bit of concealer under my eyes and a tiny bit of lip tint. I do have some dark circles recently because of late nights. I was wondering if it would be appropriate to wear it because I don’t want her to think that I’m not listening to her and that her words don’t mean anything. I usually just wash my face before a majlis.

Med school will resume in 8 days and I need a lot of duas for the next two semesters. I was unable to give exams last semester and have around 8 courses pending.

I have 5 courses for this semester and 4 additional remedial courses these next few months. Please pray that Allah gives me the strength to handle 9 courses at once while also showing up for other responsibilities outside of education. Your prayers are much needed. This is a very trying time for me.

I never wanted to study medicine. I hated the idea of it. All through my early teens I fought my mom whenever she said “doctor banjao”.

Then O levels happened, I was an average student but somehow got exceptionally good grades. Didn’t know how. But that fuelled my mom to push me towards medicine. And because she was the one funding my A levels (dad died when I was 14), it was either doing medicine or quitting studies overall.

A levels broke me. I gave everything I had because I was exhausted of fighting. I became the good girl who never fought back. And then ended up getting admission in the worst med school known to man.

It’s been two and a half years. I’m halfway through, fees paid, I can’t go back now. And I’m not doing well. Life happened last December and I got severely sick in March. Missed classes. Ended up being unable to give my 3rd year 1st semester exams because of short attendance. Didn’t give a single exam the last 6 months but pretended like I was doing okay. No one knows still.

6th semester is about to start. I have 5 subjects along with 4 courses that I need to make up for. I can’t help but dread the next semester wondering if I’m built for this kind of pressure. I have diagnosed ADHD. How am I supposed to handle 9 courses for two semesters?

I brought it upon myself, I guess. But it’s not as if I was slacking. I didn’t rest when it was needed and ended up missing more classes because of rebound illness. I don’t know what to do now. I hate medicine. I hate the position I’ve put myself into.

Final edit: found the book. It was Blood Cruise by Mats Strandberg. It was vampires, not zombies and it was a washed up pop singer rather than an actor. Thank you reddit ❤️

There was a book I read quite a while ago that I really enjoyed and forgot the name. Basically it was a failed actor on a cruise ship. The other protagonist was (maybe) an old lady. The actor was still struggling with accepting his failure and now was getting older and depressed. I don’t remember what exactly the horror element was but the old woman and the actor team up? (I can’t remember specific details). In the end i think they got those small boats and people escaped. I think there was a virus or something that made people turn into zombies or something.

Edit: i think i remember the failed actor dy*ng in the end by the virus
Edit 2: i think im vaguely remembering there being 2 friends as well. The book was im 3rd person POV and the story followed multiple people, not just the failed actor and the old woman. There were two girls as well who were friends and maybe a mother and son.

Not sure if this is the right sub for this. I want to get lash extensions but I’m not sure if I should DIY them or go to a professional. I’m really good at doing everything myself. I do my own brows, cut my own hair, wax myself at home (even down there), do my own mani pedi… I don’t know if I should give DIY lash extensions a shot… I don’t even know places where you can get them done tbh.

Can you guys advise me on what to do?

I switched from Nescafe to Davidoff 2 months ago and I finished my 2nd bottle yesterday. I tried Rich Aroma at first and then Espresso 57. Both times I had a weird experience.

It started out fine both times but towards the end, like when there was around 20% left in the bottle, the coffee tasted unusually sour. It happened both times. I thought it was a Rich Aroma thing so I switched flavours but it happened again. Like it hit the back of my tongue so hard that I physically recoiled at the taste and ended up dumping the cup.

I keep my coffee in a cool dry cabinet away from moisture and heat. I drink coffee about 2x a day on bad days and once every morning and have been drinking for the last 6 years without issue. I never had this problem with Nescafe or even Klassno (EW Ew). I brought back the big bottle of Nescafe yesterday because I can’t forget that taste and it’s weird that it happened twice.

(I’ve seen some people say that only the pink one goes with milk and the rest of Davidoff coffees are better black. I drink mine with milk and they tasted fine so I’m not switching. Also I drink my coffee iced or at the very least cold because I vomit when I drink anything mildly warm)

I was asked to deliver a majlis and the only context given was the host was sunni and converted last year and wanted to do a majlis at her house. I agreed and went today. The host told me of her love for the ahl ul bayt a.s since childhood and the story of her and her husband’s conversion. Her husband was a Deoband Sunni, extremist even, but she said that his heart melted at the masyib and resulted in him doing more and more research until they both converted along with their two kids.

The majlis itself was beautiful. There were about 3 people when I started the Hadith e Kisa. By the time it was my turn to deliver the lecture, there were around 10 women. My topic was Mukhtar e Thaqafi’s efforts and then mentioned the Imam e Zamana (ajtf) and his army, and then the traits of His companions. They listened intently.

The host’s mother, although still sunni, had tears in her eyes and after the majlis, she took me to another room, hugged me and cried for some time. Then she asked me to tell her more masaib, and right there in that room I told her about every martyr of Karbala and she couldn’t stop crying.

Honestly, this experience makes me think of those who were born into the Shia faith and how we take our faith for granted sometimes. We truly are lucky. Some people go from door to door, and finally land on the door of Syeda (sa) for hidayah. I appreciate my parents so much to have instilled in me the love of ahl e bayt from the moment I came into this world. May Allah swt ease this journey for everyone and give us more maarifat and love for the Prophet pbuh and His family.

22F need recommendations. I use alma/ritha/shikakai oil (sometimes jasmine oil) once a week. shampoo + conditioner around 2 times a week or as needed.

my hair is dry and frizzy from the nape of my neck. it’s overall healthy and the curls sit pretty well but I’ve never used any other products other than what I’ve mentioned above. I also need advice on how to get my thickness back. I used to have really thick hair when I was young and I shaved my head a few times when I was a teen. it never grew back the same.

my hair growth was pretty stagnant in 2020/2021 but now it grows pretty fast and I need to cut it every 2 months else it gets difficult to manage.

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wanted to find a good condition nintendo gameboy. I had one in my childhood. would like to use that instead of gaming on phone