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I’m trying to decide what to wear to a firm organized event. My firm is hosting a Fourth of July event (we are in DC and can see the fireworks at the monument). That being said we’re also in a heat wave and it is 100° out and the event will be mostly outdoors.

Unless I really wanna go inside and sit at my work space. So for a usual workday the dress is business casual. With the attorneys mainly dressing more business, and all of the paralegals dressing more in jeans, T-shirts, crocs, etc.

It’s so hot. I’m trying to decide what I should get to wear whether it would maybe be acceptable for me to go in a tennis dress. Or if I could maybe even do linen shorts and then I could wear a shirt that I actually made it another firm event that I had meant to wear for Fourth of July, which was a red white and blue tie-dye shirt.

Does anyone have any suggestions on what they would do if you’re in the middle of a heat wave it’s gonna be 100° out. What would you potentially wear to not sweat as bad?

ETA: thank you to those who commented. I’m feeling much more comfortable going now in maybe linens or something that won’t be too hot versus what I wouldn’t normally wear my during my day-to-day. :)

I’m still fairly new to hosting/helping manage a vacation rental, and we’ve been doing it for about a year. A potential guest sent an inquiry with the usual questions at first, but then followed up with:

“And how often are the cameras monitored? That seems like the house is in a very, very nice neighborhood.”

I’ve never had anyone ask that before, so it made me pause. On one hand, it’s entirely possible they’re just asking from a safety standpoint. On the other, it struck me as an unusual question, especially paired with the comment about it being a very nice neighborhood.

For context, it’s a lake house in a quiet, upscale area, and the cameras are disclosed in the listing.

Would this question raise any red flags for you, or am I overthinking it? Curious how other hosts would interpret this and whether you’d be any more cautious before accepting the booking.

I’m still fairly new to hosting/helping manage a vacation rental, and we’ve been doing it for about a year. A potential guest sent an inquiry with the usual questions at first, but then followed up with:

“And how often are the cameras monitored? That seems like the house is in a very, very nice neighborhood.”

I’ve never had anyone ask that before, so it made me pause. On one hand, it’s entirely possible they’re just asking from a safety standpoint. On the other, it struck me as an unusual question, especially paired with the comment about it being a very nice neighborhood.

For context, it’s a lake house in a quiet, upscale area, and the cameras are disclosed in the listing.

Would this question raise any red flags for you, or am I overthinking it? Curious how other hosts would interpret this and whether you’d be any more cautious before accepting the booking.

just finished Season 3 and started Season 4, and honestly, there are so many names and characters at this point that I’m having a hard time keeping track of everyone. I keep finding myself Googling characters just so I can see a picture and go, “Ohhh, right, that person.”

There are so many storylines going on that I sometimes forget about entire characters for an episode or two. Khaleesi and Brienne come to mind, but I’m sure there are others. It’s such a good show, and I’m doing my best to keep up, but it can definitely be a lot.

That got me wondering for the book readers: was it easy for you to follow everything in the books? Did you have trouble remembering all the characters and storylines? Did you ever have to flip back and remind yourself who people were?

I’ve thought about reading the books, but I don’t think I want to start until after I finish the show. Honestly, I feel like the show might make the books easier to follow. I’m just impressed by the people who read the books first and actually knew what was going on!

ETA: I’m 28F and do not have dementia :(

Repost because I had to remove some of what he said:

Not sure if this is the best place to post this, but I’m exhausted and honestly just need to let this out somewhere.

I’m 28F and my boyfriend is 30M. We’ve been together for about two years, and I’m reaching my breaking point with his drinking.

When he’s sober, he can genuinely be such a good boyfriend. But when he drinks, he becomes incredibly mean, angry, and hateful. Tonight he said some of the nastiest things anyone has ever said to me, including:

• “Lazy a** b**** girlfriend”
• “Get your fat a** over here, b****”
• “God, you’re ugly even when you try”
• “R*tard girl”
• “clean like the sp**ck you are” (

I’m overweight and already insecure about it, so hearing those things cuts deeply. What makes it even more upsetting is that once he started sobering up, he completely denied saying any of it — even though while he was saying these things, I was actively texting them to him with timestamps because I knew he’d later claim it never happened.

He also constantly accuses me of cheating whenever he’s drunk, despite the fact that he has my phone password, my location on Life360, and access to all of our apartment cameras. There’s zero basis for it.

The screaming has gotten so bad that I now have around six noise complaints in my apartment because of him. I’ve lived here for four years and never had a single complaint before this relationship.

The worst part is the hateful stuff he screams slurs, and vulgar insults. Our neighbors are POC so this is a major issue.

Tonight I finally snapped and yelled back that he’s “a fucking loser” and a 30-year-old whose parents constantly bail him out of consequences. Immediately after, he told me my parents don’t care about me.

For context: he already crashed my car while drunk once, got a DUI, lost his license, and now has weekends in jail coming up. His dad paid to fix my car. A few months later he crashed his own car drunk again, and his parents paid for that too.

Apparently before I met him, they were constantly moving him between houses because he couldn’t maintain stable living situations. I didn’t fully realize the extent of all this until months into dating him.

And that’s what makes this so hard. When he isn’t drinking, I see the version of him I love. But when he drinks, it feels like dealing with a completely different person.

I’m 28 and he’s 30, and lately I can’t even picture having kids with him in the next five years because I honestly don’t trust him.

I feel guilty for yelling back tonight, but I also feel like I’m drowning trying to manage someone else’s addiction and rage.

TL;DR: My boyfriend becomes verbally abusive, and hateful when he drinks, then denies it afterward. He has a DUI, crashes cars drunk, and his parents constantly bail him out. When sober he can be loving, but the drinking and emotional abuse are pushing me to my breaking point and making me question our future together.