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I’m going to do my best to explain all this as shortly as possible but beware it’s pretty long so I apologise.

Okay for me M and my partner F ( both in around 30years old ) have had a really difficult time together in the recent year which I can answer more if you ask me about any of the issues that I bring up here.

My partner quite a while back ‘cheated’ on me 3 days after we was apparently broke up which kinda happens everytime we fight she’d dump me and take me back again and again so it just seemed like a normal break up at the time and get back together situation but she slept with someone else that particular time, she was dealing with being an alcoholic at the time and still is. I was at the time coping with depression and bullying from my job and abusing pain medication to deal with it which I stopped right afterwards.

I begged her not to do it and she did, we got back together pretty much right away and she apologised but I never really could put it behind me, she also asked me to ask her parents permission to marry her because she didn’t think they’d agree to it and wanted to make sure I was serious which I did as I did want that with her and would do anything to keep her. She then got extremely ill a day or two later from drinking and had to be hospitalised and now has a very serious health condition due to it. I cared for her and helped out and seen her at every chance I got when she was in hospital but our issues wasn’t really talked about by either of us I guess because of what was going on.

After she was better and out of hospital, I ain’t sure exactly how long I then cheated on her twice online because well idk there no excuse really but I did feel certain ways because of what happened beforehand. I kept it from her, she found out and took me back more or less straightaway, we agreed to me giving my location and being open which I have been but she has got controlling and paranoid of knowing what I’m doing and where I’m at at all times saying I’m doing things behind her back when I’m with family which I proved and making up situations that didn’t happen like sleeping with a co-worker when they gave me a lift to work at 4:30am while it was storming outside, I usually walk ( I got a new job which I start at 5am ) it’s been around half a year since she found I cheated.

She has started drinking again recently and she gets violent when she drinks but never like this and has punched, kicked me, broke stuff, threatened me and my family, made fun of my appearance and called me very ugly things / insults and so on, it got very serious to where I could of been very seriously injured or worse by her. When I went up to hers to help her and make sure she was okay she got aggressive and said she’s going to kill one of our pets while arguing and ran aggressively towards it screaming / shouting and then went down to grab it with her hand shouting and making it pretty clear she’s was actually going to do it basically so I grabbed her arm and moved her away while she was hitting me as best I could without any intention of harming her or being aggressive, forceful and or hurting her and she now is telling her family I’m a abuser as she was left with a bruise. I don’t believe I used any force that would of harmed or or hurt her I was trying to stop her killing our pet to which she said to me right afterwards she wasn’t actually going to do and that I broke her arm. Which I didn’t she just had a bruise like I said before which was admitted by her but maintains that I did try to break it. She has said multiple times now that she’s going to take me to court for domestic violence among other charges.

I really did try my best to get her help and to help her that day on as if she drinks she could end up in icu or dead because of her condition she now has and I don’t want her 13year old hearing all this going on which they did and was terrified as I was in contact with her that night and to find her mum near death or dead in the morning very possibly, I even rung her ex who she has kids with to come up to try calm her and or take the kid to his for the night, it was 10pm and she was clearly acting irrational, violent towards me and was admittedly trying to drink herself to death which she nearly has before like falling asleep in the bath and nearly drowning in the past but he wouldn’t help even know I told him exactly what was happening and knows about her condition and the kid being there but said he’d come in the morning to check on her but never bothered. So I leave that night and just give space.

I was blocked the next day by everyone and a day later afterwards her sister rings me off her phone screaming that she just had tried to kill herself and it’s my fault then hung up. They won’t answer there phones or get in contact with me, I walked to the hospital that night to see if they had checked her in and they did thankfully and left it at that and didn’t try to make contact with anyone at the hospital but left an iMessage to her saying that I hoped she was okay and so on.

She texts me that day after to say that she is going to take me to court, that I’m an abuser and says other nasty things and that we are done but I feel it’s just another break up or something and get back together thing but I really know if that’s the case anymore, so much has happened that I haven’t said about here too this is only the tip of the iceberg of that day and the days surrounding it and I’m far from innocent in our relationship I’ve made wrongs and mistakes in the past but nothing like threats, violence or anything like that just stupid petty things apart from cheating on her.

I just want some advice or someone to talk to about this feel free the message me because I just don’t know what to do and feel so confused, depressed, worried and in limbo. We’re both responsible adults but this whole situation is just so much and I’d like to say she isn’t just this horrible person she is usually quite sweet and caring but since we got back together after she slept with someone else it feels different and her attitude towards me feels different but maybe I’m just thinking that up.

It’s been about a week nearly now since then and I haven’t heard from anyone. I’m sorry if my grammar is horrible and like I said if anyone has had similar things happen I’d like to hear from them, honestly never felt lower or more confused about what’s happening with my life right now.

I’m going to do my best to explain all this as shortly as possible but beware it’s pretty long so I apologise.

Okay for me M and my partner F ( both in around 30years old ) have had a really difficult time together in the recent year which I can answer more if you ask me about any of the issues that I bring up here.

My partner quite a while back ‘cheated’ on me 3 days after we was apparently broke up which kinda happens everytime we fight she’d dump me and take me back again and again so it just seemed like a normal break up at the time and get back together situation but she slept with someone else that particular time, she was dealing with being an alcoholic at the time and still is. I was at the time coping with depression and bullying from my job and abusing pain medication to deal with it which I stopped right afterwards.

I begged her not to do it and she did, we got back together pretty much right away and she apologised but I never really could put it behind me, she also asked me to ask her parents permission to marry her because she didn’t think they’d agree to it and wanted to make sure I was serious which I did as I did want that with her and would do anything to keep her. She then got extremely ill a day or two later from drinking and had to be hospitalised and now has a very serious health condition due to it. I cared for her and helped out and seen her at every chance I got when she was in hospital but our issues wasn’t really talked about by either of us I guess because of what was going on.

After she was better and out of hospital, I ain’t sure exactly how long I then cheated on her twice online because well idk there no excuse really but I did feel certain ways because of what happened beforehand. I kept it from her, she found out and took me back more or less straightaway, we agreed to me giving my location and being open which I have been but she has got controlling and paranoid of knowing what I’m doing and where I’m at at all times saying I’m doing things behind her back when I’m with family which I proved and making up situations that didn’t happen like sleeping with a co-worker when they gave me a lift to work at 4:30am while it was storming outside, I usually walk ( I got a new job which I start at 5am ) it’s been around half a year since she found I cheated.

She has started drinking again recently and she gets violent when she drinks but never like this and has punched, kicked me, broke stuff, threatened me and my family, made fun of my appearance and called me very ugly things / insults and so on, it got very serious to where I could of been very seriously injured or worse by her. When I went up to hers to help her and make sure she was okay she got aggressive and said she’s going to kill one of our pets while arguing and ran aggressively towards it screaming / shouting and then went down to grab it with her hand shouting and making it pretty clear she’s was actually going to do it basically so I grabbed her arm and moved her away while she was hitting me as best I could without any intention of harming her or being aggressive, forceful and or hurting her and she now is telling her family I’m a abuser as she was left with a bruise. I don’t believe I used any force that would of harmed or or hurt her I was trying to stop her killing our pet to which she said to me right afterwards she wasn’t actually going to do and that I broke her arm. Which I didn’t she just had a bruise like I said before which was admitted by her but maintains that I did try to break it. She has said multiple times now that she’s going to take me to court for domestic violence among other charges.

I really did try my best to get her help and to help her that day on as if she drinks she could end up in icu or dead because of her condition she now has and I don’t want her 13year old hearing all this going on which they did and was terrified as I was in contact with her that night and to find her mum near death or dead in the morning very possibly, I even rung her ex who she has kids with to come up to try calm her and or take the kid to his for the night, it was 10pm and she was clearly acting irrational, violent towards me and was admittedly trying to drink herself to death which she nearly has before like falling asleep in the bath and nearly drowning in the past but he wouldn’t help even know I told him exactly what was happening and knows about her condition and the kid being there but said he’d come in the morning to check on her but never bothered. So I leave that night and just give space.

I was blocked the next day by everyone and a day later afterwards her sister rings me off her phone screaming that she just had tried to kill herself and it’s my fault then hung up. They won’t answer there phones or get in contact with me, I walked to the hospital that night to see if they had checked her in and they did thankfully and left it at that and didn’t try to make contact with anyone at the hospital but left an iMessage to her saying that I hoped she was okay and so on.

She texts me that day after to say that she is going to take me to court, that I’m an abuser and says other nasty things and that we are done but I feel it’s just another break up or something and get back together thing but I really know if that’s the case anymore, so much has happened that I haven’t said about here too this is only the tip of the iceberg of that day and the days surrounding it and I’m far from innocent in our relationship I’ve made wrongs and mistakes in the past but nothing like threats, violence or anything like that just stupid petty things apart from cheating on her.

I just want some advice or someone to talk to about this feel free the message me because I just don’t know what to do and feel so confused, depressed, worried and in limbo. We’re both responsible adults but this whole situation is just so much and I’d like to say she isn’t just this horrible person she is usually quite sweet and caring but since we got back together after she slept with someone else it feels different and her attitude towards me feels different but maybe I’m just thinking that up.

It’s been about a week nearly now since then and I haven’t heard from anyone. I’m sorry if my grammar is horrible and like I said if anyone has had similar things happen I’d like to hear from them, honestly never felt lower or more confused about what’s happening with my life right now.

I’m going to do my best to explain all this as shortly as possible but beware it’s pretty long so I apologise.

Okay for me M and my partner F ( both in around 30years old ) have had a really difficult time together in the recent year which I can answer more if you ask me about any of the issues that I bring up here.

My partner quite a while back ‘cheated’ on me 3 days after we was apparently broke up which kinda happens everytime we fight she’d dump me and take me back again and again so it just seemed like a normal break up at the time and get back together situation but she slept with someone else that particular time, she was dealing with being an alcoholic at the time and still is. I was at the time coping with depression and bullying from my job and abusing pain medication to deal with it which I stopped right afterwards.

I begged her not to do it and she did, we got back together pretty much right away and she apologised but I never really could put it behind me, she also asked me to ask her parents permission to marry her because she didn’t think they’d agree to it and wanted to make sure I was serious which I did as I did want that with her and would do anything to keep her. She then got extremely ill a day or two later from drinking and had to be hospitalised and now has a very serious health condition due to it. I cared for her and helped out and seen her at every chance I got when she was in hospital but our issues wasn’t really talked about by either of us I guess because of what was going on.

After she was better and out of hospital, I ain’t sure exactly how long I then cheated on her twice online because well idk there no excuse really but I did feel certain ways because of what happened beforehand. I kept it from her, she found out and took me back more or less straightaway, we agreed to me giving my location and being open which I have been but she has got controlling and paranoid of knowing what I’m doing and where I’m at at all times saying I’m doing things behind her back when I’m with family which I proved and making up situations that didn’t happen like sleeping with a co-worker when they gave me a lift to work at 4:30am while it was storming outside, I usually walk ( I got a new job which I start at 5am ) it’s been around half a year since she found I cheated.

She has started drinking again recently and she gets violent when she drinks but never like this and has punched, kicked me, broke stuff, threatened me and my family, made fun of my appearance and called me very ugly things / insults and so on, it got very serious to where I could of been very seriously injured or worse by her. When I went up to hers to help her and make sure she was okay she got aggressive and said she’s going to kill one of our pets while arguing and ran aggressively towards it screaming / shouting and then went down to grab it with her hand shouting and making it pretty clear she’s was actually going to do it basically so I grabbed her arm and moved her away while she was hitting me as best I could without any intention of harming her or being aggressive, forceful and or hurting her and she now is telling her family I’m a abuser as she was left with a bruise. I don’t believe I used any force that would of harmed or or hurt her I was trying to stop her killing our pet to which she said to me right afterwards she wasn’t actually going to do and that I broke her arm. Which I didn’t she just had a bruise like I said before which was admitted by her but maintains that I did try to break it. She has said multiple times now that she’s going to take me to court for domestic violence among other charges.

I really did try my best to get her help and to help her that day on as if she drinks she could end up in icu or dead because of her condition she now has and I don’t want her 13year old hearing all this going on which they did and was terrified as I was in contact with her that night and to find her mum near death or dead in the morning very possibly, I even rung her ex who she has kids with to come up to try calm her and or take the kid to his for the night, it was 10pm and she was clearly acting irrational, violent towards me and was admittedly trying to drink herself to death which she nearly has before like falling asleep in the bath and nearly drowning in the past but he wouldn’t help even know I told him exactly what was happening and knows about her condition and the kid being there but said he’d come in the morning to check on her but never bothered. So I leave that night and just give space.

I was blocked the next day by everyone and a day later afterwards her sister rings me off her phone screaming that she just had tried to kill herself and it’s my fault then hung up. They won’t answer there phones or get in contact with me, I walked to the hospital that night to see if they had checked her in and they did thankfully and left it at that and didn’t try to make contact with anyone at the hospital but left an iMessage to her saying that I hoped she was okay and so on.

She texts me that day after to say that she is going to take me to court, that I’m an abuser and says other nasty things and that we are done but I feel it’s just another break up or something and get back together thing but I really know if that’s the case anymore, so much has happened that I haven’t said about here too this is only the tip of the iceberg of that day and the days surrounding it and I’m far from innocent in our relationship I’ve made wrongs and mistakes in the past but nothing like threats, violence or anything like that just stupid petty things apart from cheating on her.

I just want some advice or someone to talk to about this feel free the message me because I just don’t know what to do and feel so confused, depressed, worried and in limbo. We’re both responsible adults but this whole situation is just so much and I’d like to say she isn’t just this horrible person she is usually quite sweet and caring but since we got back together after she slept with someone else it feels different and her attitude towards me feels different but maybe I’m just thinking that up.

It’s been about a week nearly now since then and I haven’t heard from anyone. I’m sorry if my grammar is horrible and like I said if anyone has had similar things happen I’d like to hear from them, honestly never felt lower or more confused about what’s happening with my life right now.

We’re both around 30 and she has two kids which ain’t mine

I’m going to do my best to explain all this in a short away as I can

Okay for me M and my partner F have had a really difficult time together recently, without too much detail which I can answer more if you ask about any of the issue I bring up.

My partner quite a while back ‘cheated’ on me 3 days after we was apparently broke up which happens everything we fight she’s dump me and take me back again and again so it just seemed like a normal break up and get back together situation but she slept with someone else, she was dealing with being an alcoholic at the time and still is.

I begged her not to do and she did, we got back together right away and she apologised but I never really could put it behind me, she then got extremely ill from drinking and had to be hospitalised and I cared for her and helped out and seen her at every chance but our issues wasn’t really talked about by either of us I guess.

After this I ain’t sure how long I then cheated on her online with two people by sending nudes to each other because well idk there no excuse really but I did feel certain ways because of what happened beforehand and I kept it from her, she found out and took me back and makes me give me location and is extremely controlling of knowing what I’m doing and where I’m at at all times saying I’m doing things behind her back and making up situations that didn’t happen.

She started drinking again and she is violent no when she drinks and has hit and and so on, it got very serious to where I could of been seriously injured recently and she’s broke all contact now with me. She also said she was going to kill one of our pets and ran towards it screaming and when down to grab it with her arm screaming she’s going to do it so I grabbed her arm and moved her away as best I could without being aggressive and she now is telling her family I’m a abuser.

I tried my best to get her help at the time while that was going on, I even rung her ex who she has kids with to come up to try calm her because she’s acting irrational, violent towards me and trying to drink herself to death but he wouldn’t help so I leave it and just give space.

Her sister rings me off her phone screaming that she tried to kill herself and hangs up. They won’t answer there phones or get in contact with me, I walked to the hospital to see if they checked her in and they did thankfully and left it at that and didn’t try to make contact.

She texts me after I text her a day later to see if she’s okay and she just keeps saying we’re done but I feel it’s just another break up and get back together and don’t know what to do anymore, so much has happened that I haven’t said about here too, I’m far from innocent in our relationship.

I just want some advice or someone to talk to about this better because I just don’t know what to do and feel so confused and in limbo. We’re both responsible adults but this whole situation is just so much.

I’m sorry if my grammar is horrible I’m going to head to work and will reply in a few hours, if anyone has had similar things happen I’d like to hear from them, honestly never felt lower and need someone to talk too about this