u/Negative_Ladder_431

This is going to be a bit of a heavy post so please bear with me. My wife and I met where I’m currently stationed and her family is right down the road from us. I have an OTS selection currently and I’m hoping to get a class date for January, I will have 10 years left until I retire after I commission. Additionally, my wife and I have 2 kids (2.5 and 3 weeks).

Time for the heavy stuff: her dad was diagnosed with stage 4 with a timeline of max 5 years (but statistics point towards more a year-18 months, even with aggressive treatment). She was already on the fence of leaving with me on orders, but with this, she understandably said she isn’t leaving her family and she’s begging me to separate and not leave her either. And a major part of me feels the need to do just that. I have 2 years left on my contract and I’d be done at almost 13 years.

From the very beginning, I knew I wanted to commission and do a full 20, but suddenly, it doesn’t feel as important anymore. The thing I’ve worked and strived for years and years for and I finally got… just to give it up? I’m scared. I don’t know what to do. I’ve already reached out to a reserve recruiter to try and commission on that side (which with my scores, it’s an almost guaranteed UPT slot where we’re at), but is it really a guarantee? Is it worth the chance and giving up my current slot, starting over if I got out with nothing to do with the military? I have 3 mouths to feed. I can’t do security forces anymore. I am at a loss of what to do. I love my wife more than anything, but the insecurity of the outside world, taking a pay cut, etc. is there. I don’t know.

I’m looking at getting my first CCW.

I’m stuck between the G43X and the Hellcat Pro. I’m having a hard time deciding because they’re both great weapon systems. I have a a Glock 17, so I enjoy Glocks. But the look of the hellcat looks so good and I like the higher mag capacity.

Just needs to guidance this. Thanks!

I’m a SSgt who got selected for the 26OTS01 board and am currently waiting for a class date. Earlier, I was told I’m likely being issued an LOR from OPs (S3) level for something my airman did. Long story short, she backed into a pole with me in the vehicle, but before she backed into it, I stopped her from hitting the pole the first time, instructed another airman to spot, and before they could get out, the driver stated they “didn’t need a spotter” and backed up and into the pole. All stories from all witnesses say this.

I was told that since I am the NCO, I will be getting at most an LOR (the last vehicle accident we had was 3 weeks ago, and the lead, who also wasn’t driving, received an LOR).

What are the consequences regarding OTS if I actually do receive an LOR? I wholeheartedly plan on fighting it regardless.

My wife and I are expecting our second child. She and I met at my current duty station, and her family is here. I got selected to go to OTS and I plan on going shortly after my paternity leave ends. However, my wife is almost completely against moving with me after OTS because she doesn’t want to leave her family and because it’s “unfair to them and our child to separate them”. I’ve tried bargaining with her by trying to get a duty station as close to home as possible, but it just isn’t enough. I’m at a complete loss as to what to do. I’ve offered just going alone, and she also says that is selfish because I’m choosing my career over our children and I just don’t know what to do anymore. The career I got selected for doesn’t necessarily do deployments, so I’ll be home every single day regardless. I keep telling her that she married me and chose this life and I’ve made it clear I’m not separating well before we got married and she still chose to marry me and this life. It’s starting to take a toll on me. Any advice is appreciated.

I’m planning on buying a set of pre-facelift wheels today from marketplace because i cracked one of mine hitting a pothole yesterday. I plan on keeping an additional one as a full spare. Would anyone be interested in purchasing the other 2? They come with PS4S with about 80% tread remaining. Would sell for $400/each or best offer. Currently located in Utah, but will be back in AZ next week. I don’t have pictures yet given I don’t have the wheels yet, just a feeler post.

My 2023 N needs a new wheel thanks to a Utah pot hole. Any recommendations on where to find one? I leave Utah on Friday. Or at least I’m supposed to.