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Hi all, Im hoping someone can jog my memory! I would have searched the sub but I literally cant remember the NAME of this website. It is an ART WEBSITE. I am not promoting or asking for promos. Im not asking for homework adv. I just need to find this art site!

It had a name that might not have been english, but the site was in English. There were a lot of beg inner artists there and pretty varied subjects & styles (so not anime focused or furry focused etc) Here's what I remember:

The name was SOMETHING like "Vinni" or "vidi" or "nibby" or "qinni" ??? Like very short, had i or y vowels (obviously googling these got nothing)

They would do themed contests! Maybe like every monthly or every few months

They had a system kind of like dA, with a way to favorite other people's posts and follow other artists,

posts were only single images no video or text support

As far as i know, no app! Decent mobile website.

Its been a couple years since I logged in, and unfortunately I cleaned out my emails so I cant even find old notifs. If anyone has an idea of what site this was, please let me know! It was such a nice little art community & I miss it...

And no I dont mean like different schools of creativity or art. I mean, disciplining your creative urges. As in, I'm a working adult with my own space for art, occasionally enough income to branch out and try different media, and basically just barely enough free time spent at home that I could work on whatever I want, (almost) whenever I want. I have basically hoarded every type of art supply imaginable from stained glass supplies to sewing supplies to a rainbow of paint markers and pencils to watercolors to embossing and stationery to linocut supplies... you get the idea.

But my issue is... now there's TOO MUCH freedom. There's too many options to choose from! I work 40hrs/week at a very demanding job (physically and... emotionally, lets say) so Im constantly struggling to even have the energy or motivation to create anything. When I finally do have a couple days off in a row, and I have so many ideas, I end up just not starting anything, or just moving between things "in progress" because I can't stay in one place, I need to feel like I'm "productive" and not wasting the day or the creative juices.

It is like Im paralyzed by indecision, and I will literally be at my desk in my studio, podcast at the ready, trying to pick a project or a sketch... just sitting there. Or I'll get out some supplies and just not feel it, and I'll start something else with something different, but Im not really making progress on any one of them. If I can't snap out of it after an hour I give up and start scrolling. Then I spend the whole day on my phone and feel horrible about it of course.

My question to other artists with limited schedules and lots of different media that you work with: HOW do you keep yourself focused on one project in one medium, from moving all over the place from one medium to the next, or hopping between projects so frequently you never finish anything? And having such a messy desk from constantly starting and stopping different things ...

(Unsure if this should have lifestyle or goals/motivation flair so I picked the one I liked the color of more)

I will fix spell/format errors later, its midnight whoops. There are plenty...

I've had the kompakt since February or January I think. I wrote one review about 4 weeks/ 1 month in. The biggest reason I switched to this phone, after trying the Barbie Phone in 2025, is because I knew had to kick my smartphone or watch my relationship and my ental health wither away, but I needed a feature-phone. I also was not about to THROW OUT my $700 galaxy phone or the galaxy tablet my partner gifted me a few years ago. So, I knew Id still have access to the smart screens whenever Im at home.

An additional detaik that made seitching easy: My use-case is different from most people, because I am 100% and very fortunately in between the "I absolutely need smart apps, NFC payments, constant location tracking, and a 4K camera or Ill DIE" crowd and the "I want my phone to just be a flip phone." crowd. I truly need a phone that has limited ability to even run social media at all, I never used tap-pay even on my smartphone and want limited Google shit—but I still need a few key features for my job and everyday use.

The apps I use daily on my Kompakt are: SMS, Alarm, Weather, AntennaPod, calculator, settings, camera, phone, gallery. That's really it. In order of how frequently I use it, too. Even some of those I don't use every day. I use the stock messaging app, ever since they added group texting. I am able to send decently visible pictures, in frouo text, and that is the inly for-work feature my phone needs.

So, with that said, I obviously still use my smartphone. The key thing is, with mudita being my daily driver, I actually do use ut a lot LESS than I used to. Some days I don't pick it up at all. I made a hard rule that I only take it out of the house if Im going somewhere Ill only use it for pictures, OR at my job since I normally work weekends and it's unbearable. If I'm just running errands, going to an appointment, going to the park, or working monday-thursday, I leave the smartphone at home. That is one definite, traceable habit i wanted from it, and i have stuck with it.

Festures I need, that the flip phone didnt quite have:
Hotspot (barbie phone has it, but you have to use a web shortcut to access it, so extra steos)
Bluetooth (nokia WTH!!)
Sending images to group text
The qwerty keyboard, ofc
A DECENT camera (barbie phone just barely missed this mark)
A slightly advanced calculator app

So, really not a lot more is needed! But unfortunately for me, it is needed. Plus as much as I love the barbie phone's ultra-fem maximalism, i am hughly attracted to the sleek simplicity of e-ink, tiny slab phones such as the kompakt and LP. The kompakt literally being compact enough for my small hands, and honestly a bit less likely to attract homophobic comments like the barbie phone was, is a huge plus.

So, after 6 months ish? Here is what I have observed from using the kompakt as my daily driver:

Switching has helped me:
Be a tiny bit more patient, not having instant gratification programmed into every waking second
Be more present with my partner
Have notably less eyestrain (i can actually feel the difference when my Galaxy-screentime is heavier vs when i leave it at home all day)
Be less dependent on my mobile banking and more aware of how much money i actualky have (it's really not THAT hard to keep track of spending, or just go ti the ATM to move money around. or literally just wait until i get home! )
Reduce my online shopping (I dont clothing shop in stores, so less scrolling = less chances to buy)
want to impulsive-selfie less often, look at and obsess over my face a lot less
Makes me want to un-plug more, for example i hide the instagram app on my galaxy now even if i cant tear myself away from it entirely, i grealty reduce my usage
Also made me realize i can just?? Put inkOS on my galaxy to?? And now even on my galaxy my home screen is way less cluttered and im not tempted by a sea of apps
Be less dependent on having a screen to grab when im bored or want to avoid eye contact

Some things it hasnt helped with

^ I still am not very social, and not looking at my phone in public allows me to ignore people more organically lol
I do notice more how totally glued everyone is to their phones. It doesn't really make me feel better about myself, tool be honest! It makes me feel sad and kind of scared for our society, not that i wasnt before, just.. it's kind of in a different way now.?
Thats all!

The only things I think could possibly imorove, are:
Maybe a slightly more robust calculator app. I really only think adding "history"
The ability to mute only certain SMS/text threads. I have two work group chats that drive me insane lol. Would be nice to turn just those off!

So anyway, I love this phone. I really hope to find a matte screen protector for it soon and maybe someone with a shop will 3D print some cases. I like the sage green case from the official store, but i HATE the silicone. And id love a white case to matche the phone. I want to have this as my main phone forever. I LOVE that it has both bluetooth and a headphone jack!!! I love my aux prot!!! I want to cut down on my galaxy usage even more and only use my smartohone a couple times a week. If that.

Also, using it in bright sunlight to check a quick text on my way into work or pause my podcast, using the dual color flashlights, AND the offline+ switch are all things I expected to just like the novelty of... but are actually features I use almost every day! Very satisfying to just hit the offline+ switch in a movie theater. while everyone else fumbles with their tablet-phones to find DND mode or put it on vibrate lol. And when the work group text is just non-stop buzzing about bullshit and emoji-reacting 1000 times... just one click, and it stops...

I know that most people could just "use their smartphone less" but we all know phone addiction is real, and has lasting effects. The mudita really had made a positive impact in my life, i just need to keep the effects going and rippling ohtward. I still use my tech, it's just limited to my art- home time. I would recommend this phone to anyone who wants to literally just leave their smart device at home most days but needs a PHONE just in case. A simplistic, beautiful little phone that's (literally) easy on the eyes, too.

So the title is a tiny bit reductive. My wife (25NB) and I are both trans, they are non binary and I'm (26M) a trans man. (Wife uses they/she pronouns) We've always had a pretty unconventional but fairly active sex life. We're both pre/non-op. They have erectile function and are okay with that kind of stimulation, although its usually not the main focus, they want more general touching. I don't have vaginal function 8 years on T, it's closed up tight (whole different issue). So, unconventional.

So, I've told her in the past I don't really feel comfortable wearing a strap and they were mostly understanding. I KNOW, as a trans guy we're supposed to get the biggest hit of gender euphoria from wearing a strap-on, but the idea of wearing a fake dick has always made me feel uncomfortable, it makes me feel the weirdest dysphoria like I'm wearing a costume. I don't know why I just can't get the feeling to go away. If I could get bottom surgery overnight and have an actual dick I wouldn't feel uncomfortable at all, I dream about having a real one and fucking my wife the way they really want. But they have said a couple times they dream about me in a strap-on. It doesnt come up a lot, but it just bugs me.

My wife hasn't really pushed the issue (We've been together about 6 years) but recently they've upped their dose of E, so they've lost a bit more erectile function, which isn't an issue because like I said our sex life has always been a bit unconventional and not super focused on there. But I could tell they were getting bored a while ago, and we weren't super active the last few months. Their sex drive has been up the past few days, and to my surprise they've been saying certain things during sex that are actually more focused on fucking me. (TBC this comes up a lot too, I have no problem with it, we both like the idea even though I can't do PIV stuff). I tentatively brought up that I had been thinking about buying some plugs, since I'm not opposed to anal stim myself, I just haven't done it in years.

Well the day after I said that, she jumped at the chance to buy a plug kit, but for herself. They texted me at work saying it wouldn't be for immediate use, but later that night during sex they said that they had already used it, imagining it was me fucking them from behind, saying I could just grind against her ass while she has a plug in. It immediately turned me off and made me not want to finish (we did). I know it was just them wanting to "talk sexy" right before we finished but I couldn't shake that awful dysphoric feeling. In the past they've referred to it as me "pegging" them, which makes me feel even more like they just want me as a woman wearing a fake dick.

I know they will probably want me to get a strap soon, or our sex life will just slow to a stop because they'll be more interested in using the toys to get off when I'm not home. Realistically I know that happens with a lot of transfems, as you lose function eventually you only want to do anal stim. I didn't think it would bother me but now I keep thinking they'd be happier with a "real man" who can give them what they really want. Am I just being too sensitive? Like, just man up and do it? Or WIBTA for not wanting to...? I hate that such an emotional aspect of my dysphoria is getting in the way of our sex life.