u/No-Lemon-8207

Hi everyone!

So I've been struggling with my leg hair for quite some time now. Every time I shave my legs (usually at night time), they're already prickly by the morning. As soon as the hair starts growing back it is very painful and itchy.

My hair is very thick, wirey and I am prone to ingrowns. My leg hair also grows in multiple different directions. E.g my shins and outer leg hair grows downwards, but on the inside of my calf the hair grows sideways, which makes hair removal a lot trickier.

At the moment, I shave 3 times a week with disposable mens 5 blade razors, and I always exfoliate before shaving and moisturise after my shower. I also replace my razor every week. However none of this has solved or helped my problem.

I have tried multiple different razors, none helped the discomfort. I've tried veet sensetive wax strips which just made my hair follicles extremely red and irritated and itchy, and barely even removed any hair. I've been told hot wax could be a good option but it isn't particularly safe to do yourself at home unless you're a trained professional, and I'm a baddie on a very tight budget right now so I can't really afford to get my legs professionally waxed regularly.

Help me out here girls please, I just want to have smooth legs for longer than one night, and I'm really tired of the pain and itchiness from when my hair grows back. Any suggestions? Thank you :))

My (21F) boyfriend (23M) of 1 year unfortunately lost his father around 3 months ago. From the moment I received the news, I made it known to him that I was here for him and would support him in any way I can.

However the grieving process has understandably also exacerbated all of my boyfriend's other worries. He has always been open with me about his insecurities, and I've done my best to reassure him throughout our relationship. He's had pretty nasty experiences with his exes so I completely understand why he needs this extra support.

He's always been somewhat clingy, but not in a way that bothered me. For example: being very tactile, wanting to see me on the weekends, texting and calling me every day, etc.

But in the last few weeks he has become a lot more clingy. For example: texting me a lot more often, calling me 8-10 times a day, asking to see me every day and guilt-tripping me when I say I'm busy, and he has shown up at my house unannounced a few times.

And there have been a couple instances where he has invited me over, and I've said yes, then he's called me multiple times to ask how long I will be while I'm getting ready. If I'm taking a while to get ready, he'll say, "if you don't want to come you don't have to", because he thinks I'm purposely delaying it when in reality I'm just showering or packing my bag.

He also keeps convincing himself that I'm not attracted to him and that I'm actually attracted to women just because I saw a woman's makeup/outfit and said it was pretty. I kind of understand why he sees that as strange though since men don't compliment eachother half as much as women do, but at the same time if he said that his male friend's outfit looked good I wouldn't see that as a threat.

In addition to this, he has become increasingly worried whenever I have plans without him. I go to concerts with my mum quite often, and the last one we attended was around 3 weeks after my boyfriend's father's passing. He had multiple talks with me before the concert about how he was worried that I would get hit on or that I would see someone I was attracted to. He said he wasn't going to stop me from going to the concert, but he wasn't fully comfortable with it either. He has also expressed similar concern for two upcoming concerts I'm going to with my mum next month, which has made me kind of dread them as they get closer.

A few days ago we had a talk about how he doesn't want to suffocate me, and so he suggested that he let me take the reins. He said he wasn't going to ask to see me anymore, and instead he was going to allow me to choose when to see eachother. We both agreed on it and I really appreciated his consideration.

However he hasn't stopped asking to see me all the time. He's still constantly calling/texting, still asking when we can next see eachother, etc.

I feel like I am pulling away from my boyfriend and wanting to see him less as a result of his clinginess, but I feel like I'm being an asshole because he's grieving and I told him I would always be there for him. I can't be angry at him for wanting to see me more when he's just lost a parent, but I'm getting quite overwhelmed.

I'm not sure how to go about this. I don't want to tell him I need space because it will set off his anxiety and he'll convince himself that I want to leave him, but if I don't ask for space then I'm not going to get what I need. I feel selfish for even wanting space in the first place.

Any advice is very much appreciated.

TL;DR my boyfriend lost his dad, he's become more clingy, and I need space but have no idea how to ask for it.

Edit: I've spoken to him about trying grief therapy and how I think it would be beneficial for both of us on the whole. He was quite upset to hear my point of view but he said he's going to have a think about therapy. I hope he goes through with it