u/NoHospital3911

It was black for a month after break up
Deep down I don’t want him to move on

I’m fine for one day and the next day i feel so painful. I’m so alone here, and I put myself in this position. I miss him. How can anyone get past this thought?

Congrats to me! And whoever’s out there doing the same you got this ❤️

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I dont know if i got lovebombed or not at the start, but there was a while where my ex was confident about choosing me, reassuring me, taking the risk, and siad "he'll make sure we have a future"

but after a while, he's giving: he's not sure abt us, what is the cost thats gonna take him to be with me, is the risk too much? things change and i need to ask us to find a middle ground, he's scared of the compromise i'm asking him to make. if his parents say otherwise on the matter and is he gonna stand up to them? probably not.

in the end i just feel ive never been firmly chosen, was under scrutiny in fights, its never if he loves me so much he scared to see me leave, instead it feels like he needs to see if it worths invest that much in me

Title. Read my story even.

Been breaking NC, Hoping something’s gonna happen. But I guess not.
Day 2 of fully block my dumpee. For my sake.
In the meantime, journaling, seeing therapist. This pattern won’t happen again.

Dumpers reached out but got turned down. I really wanna fix the issues but I can’t do this alone. How to detach and move on?

got blocked and unblocked on some socials, and on some convo i got instant reply from my ex. has this happened to anyone and how would you interpret and move on?

We explored so much and now I don’t know where to put this part of me anymore. once my body was so appreciated, wanted and accepted by this man. How does one move on from this?

Hey babe, congrats to the first month of not to be in each others life.

He’d say I made the right choice ending things. Oh well, someone has to be the bad guy. Don’t think in my situation I should reach out again even in the future.

I’m the dumper and I’ve asked for second chance, ofc he said no. I’m seeing therapist for this cuz I genuinely question my own ability to love people and think there is a pattern in me.
I’d msg him with some admin stuff and he’d reply instantly almost, but he never reach out first or ask further.
That’s it I guess!

Right after the decision was made I felt horrible, I felt I’ve been keeping scores and bad at communicating and unable to love. Asked for a second chance but ofc he said no. So I’ve started to go to therapy to see what’s wrong with me.
Kinda in no contact, I’d msg him some admin stuff, nothing emotional just calm, and he’d replied instantly like within 5 min. But he won’t initiate or ask further questions.
I guess I’m just a random to him now, for if I really love him I wouldn’t hurt him