u/No_Apartment_4675

I feel like a mother of a teenager asking this. So when my puppy was a baby, i used to kiss him on his forehead alot, it would get him to stop teething or being aggressive. I never really stopped doing that since. Hes like a year old now and idk how he really feels about my kisses. He gives me a side eye every time I kiss him, sometimes hell lick my arm back as a response but most of the times he seems unbothered or annoyed

Recently i came across someone whom i suspect is either an XSXP or ISTJ

They have this habit of assuming intentions or predicting situations with a singular outcome in mind. But this outcome seems more biased/paranoid when they put it into words. Keep in mind that they are wrong like 9/10 times but they have immense conviction when they make such assumption. Like for example they will accuse someone of doing something they could have no knowledge of and if the other person denies, they will shove that accusation down their throats and feel a sense of power from "seeing through them" even if they are dead wrong.

They simultaneously catastrophize things going wrong, they have rigid opinions,adhering to stereotypes whenever they make decisions and are constantly looking for advice. A weaponized aggressive inferiority complex is the best terminology i can think of. They are hyper paranoid and often shoot the first arrow if they sense movement. Like in social situations they will attack people with sharp insults if they believe that the person has ill intentions against them or does not respect them.

They also believe that they are intelligent, often claiming themselves as the most intelligent individual but constrained by some environmental factor or an incident of the past. They keep mentioning that their "sense organs are not functioning properly" which makes me think of Se inferior lol. They also believe they understand the emotions of other people.

I see a lot of Ni in vulnerable positions, like tertiary or inferior, but i also see Ne inferior. They keep repeating the idea of "planning for the future" like a mantra, but are more reckless with time.

They have strong 4 tendencies and are probably an ESI/SEE in socionics, but their myers type is confusing

I recently came to the realization that most of the relationships i have with the people of this world were initially built on grounds of a "counselor-client" dynamic. Almost everyone I know and have known looked at me as someone capable of resolving their issues. This includes most of my friends, classmates and even people i never expected to befriend in the first place.

I dont consider myself an emotionally mature individual, neither am I the most "approachable" person out there, people close to me describe my personality as stoic, aloof and mysterious but still i have fostered multiple relationships where someone completely unknown to me, would approach me on their own or through a friend and a few days later i would be in their dms resolving their personal issues.I dont find this burdensome at all, but I am a bit estranged that this is how I have unconsciously operated throughout my social life. That being said this idea helped me realize why I fell out with certain people.

A common pattern with most people i have doorslammed is that they would get vulnerable with me at first, we would have a really good few months, but after a while when I would behave normally like my usual avoidant self, they would project their insecurities on me,which would lead to nasty behaviour from their end.

An example i can provide, is a friend of mine whom i bonded with by helping them get through their childhood issues. We were really close until he got to witness how I was with other people and that triggered something in him. All of a sudden he started accusing me of being fake,manipulative and hypocritical and hence we had a fallout.

The conclusion, I have arrived at is that it is very difficult to remain casual friends with someone you are extremely emotionally vulnerable with, especially if that someone(me) is an emotionally immature teenager themselves.

My question perhaps, is that can we maintain a casual friendship while simultaneously delving into a realm of vulnerability, which could risk possible resentment or is it better to only operate on one dynamic alone?

I apologize if my wording is a bit dense, i had some trouble vocalizing this.

It is evident that the dominant function matures first and foremost in early childhood but can we propose a case for how the inferior function might manifest simultaneously in this period. I am strictly speaking of how it may present itself, in regards to all its vulnerability/immaturity at the time.

It is evident that most of these descriptions overlap with explanations that go beyond typology, but i am trying to keep it within that domain alone.

For example, Inferior Fe children, might be apathetic or uncaring of how they speak or act with the people/kids around them. Coming off as rude or combatative.

Inferior Si might manifest as a disregard for conventionality or a "normal" growth. Carelessness/constantly putting oneself in situations that entice bodily danger.Kids who flood their sinks when parents aren't around or eat sand and ragebait dogs.

Inferior Ti might manifest as either preferring to rely on others for intellectual input/guidance or constantly ignoring their own. Kids who are unassertive when it comes to following their own reasoning for decision making.

Inferior Se might manifest as struggling with physical activity. Someone who's easily overstimulated or uncomfortable with excessive sensory activity, prefers quietude over crowds and chaotic environments in general.

I see how most of these descriptions could be drawn from the definitions of the dominant function itself, but still what do you guys think? Could we consider these "traits" as "indicators" to estimate what type someone might mature into?