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I live in the bay area and am very much ready to leave. I know california and the bay are exceptional, the weather is perfect year round, the produce, the politics, the job opportunities are great. however, i cant deal with the insane amount of wealth we are surrounded by anymore.

my husband and i are not in tech, but we have what should be decent salaries, yet it still feels like we are hustling for nothing. $2 million has become the norm for a home in Oakland, where we live. its like money has zero value here, but of course it does because even if you make $500k joint income it is still not enough to feel afloat, and we are renters, which i hate to admit i am becoming embarassed about since everyone around me owns a home.

Weve lived in Seattle, DC and NYC before. The lack of sun in seattle was challenging for my mental health. we both loved DC and NYC, but it would be nearly as expensive or more, so why not just stay in the bay. I lived in Milwaukee pre husband, the winters were rough, but maybe its different when you have a family?

we need a city/town that is racially diverse, my husband is a POC, a decent latino population would be ideal, politically leans blue, decent schools (we have a toddler), and nearish an international airport (we travel to visit family outside of the country twice a year).

Minneapolis and Chicago are on my mind. Are there other cities/towns i should consider that dont require you to have stock options from your employer to afford to buy a house or over $500k joint income to feel like you can afford life, including childcare for a toddler?

Edit: we cannot even afford a $1 million home. Excuse me for not saying that. Clearly if $500k isnt a comfortable life for us there are things life requires us to pay that others may not, parents, student loans, childcare.

Over the weekend it was creeping in, I noticed the slightest of changes in my mood. Today I woke up and everyone and everything is pissing me off. I’m in rage mode, I’m so near telling my husband BYE. I know the this is pmdd but why do I want to blame him. Everything he does and says makes me want to explode.

I started working with a pmdd coach two weeks ago. I started a new med for pmdd two weeks ago. I was feeling hopeful. Well that hope has dissipated. Maybe next month will be a different story.

last week i realized, because of reddit and not a doctor, what a surprise, that i likely have PME not PMDD, and i am at a loss.

i have tried so many medications and birth controls, and alternative therapies, including ketamine and tms. none of it works long term. im currently on setraline and slynd, it worked for the first 12 months. now, as of january, its no longer effective. im already at the max dosing of setraline so im assuming i cant increase during luteal, though i havent tried.

i am currently waiting on insurance to approve lupron (shocker, insurance has already denied GnRH antagonists and Zoladex). im on the verge of walking out on my 3 year old and husband. my PMDD symptoms this month have continued through and beyond my period. joy.

this is a rant. i just need to get this off my chest as my body is so overwhelmed with stress i feel like im going to implode.

my father died July 2025 from a long, 10 year miserable journey with alzheimers. my father was the primary source of income and my mom was a stay at home mother, with no knowledge or access to finances. to get straight to it, my dad made a lot of money and was terribly stupid with it.

during his last years, it became known that he had an insane amount of irs debt and refinanced the house they have had for almost 40 years without my moms knowledge, more than once. my mom started working with an attorney at the tax defense network and got on a payment plan with the irs. she has done her best to stay on top of it all, while not working, taking care of my dying father, and now grieving her 45 years of marriage.

this attorney told my mom there was nothing to be done, they were in a holding pattern wiht the irs. after a few months of no communication from the attorney and my mom not being able to get a hold of the attorney, she finds out last week the IRS seized all of her money and put a lien/levy on her accounts and house. the only source of income she has is social security.

she contacts tax defense network and they tell her oh that attorney resigned, youve been assigned a new attorney. i am an attorney, i get it, people leave, but NOTIFY YOUR CLIENTS. this firm has zero sense of urgency. this new attorney has no idea what she has picked up and of course its not her fault, but wth. my mom has already paid the flat fee for their services, which have led her into a dire situation and my siblings and i cannot afford to pay my moms mortgage and her other bills. of course this all happens the last week of june when all bills are due july 1.

so many feelings, so many things out of my control, and all i can see is my dad in his grave with a peace sign and shouting "peace motherf-ers." he would never, but thats how upset i am.

im so fed up with the US giving no sh*ts about their citizens, how expensive it is to die in dignity, how insane it is that the IRS literally puts people out on the streets when they are not supposed to take your only source of income, im tired of it all.

Yesterday, June 28, around 130pm my mom lost a diamond with emeralds bracelet. This is very special to her as my dad gifted it to her and he passed last year.

We parked on shoreline drive in front of the car wash then walked to the beach through the nearest entrance. Please if you come across a bracelet with diamonds and emeralds message me!

I just finished my 6th ketamine intramuscular session. Session 4 and 5 weren’t great i had what I found to be intrusive suicidal thoughts during session 5. Then the doctor increased my dose for session 6 and the trip was better. the dr. thinks I just happen to be one of those people that needs a stronger dose.

Frustrating since I’ve already paid over $1,500 to find out I need a higher dose for it to be effective. I’ve had the slightest improvement the day after but nothing lasting.

Has anyone experienced this, being told they would benefit from a few more sessions after session 6 at a higher dosage and it actually worked?