u/No_Effort_1024

I'll try and make this short.. A guy I have history with, (we dated before lockdown) reconnected with me about a month ago. As it originally ended because of lockdown, there are a lot of unresolved feelings, familiarity, and a connection between us. When we started speaking again, these feelings I had for him came rushing back. We spoke everyday for over a month, he remembered details of my life, we reminded each other of times we spent together, and he engaged in conversation asking me questions and getting to know me at this stage in my life.

We arranged a date, he actually suggested we meet up again, and it was really nice a familiar, we got on like no time had passed. During and after the date, he mentioned that we needed to arrange another one. We decided we would do something a couple of weeks later, as we were both busy before then, but we didn't have a set plan.

Before the weekend when we were meant to meet again, he completely withdrew. I didn't understand as the conversation before then seemed to be the same, his responses were still warm and engaged. I left it a few days, and contacted him to ask if he was okay. He was deeply apologetic, and explained that he'd handled the situation immaturely and he should have just told me that he wasn't over his ex yet or ready to move on yet.

This upset me. As it's not just a guy I've had 1 date with, it's a guy I've known and thought about for years, it's someone I have feelings for. I appreciate that he was honest with me, and he obviously withdrew because he was conflicted by the situation and didn't know how to handle it. I do believe he has feelings for me, and he had every intention to see where this goes this time, because otherwise he wouldn't have continued to engage and see me. I just think that the idea of the second date probably made him realise that he wasn't as ready as he thought. It just hurts so much. And I hope when he has healed he can find his way back

I'll try and make this short. I know people are gonna say there is no such thing, and I admit I didn't fully believe it until I met this person.

6 years ago I started dated this guy who lives an hour away from me. We had this instant connection, this chemistry I had never felt with anyone else, this mutual attraction, and a genuine care for one another. He put so much effort into our dates, and to be honest I fell for him quickly. Then lockdown down hit, and we could no longer see each other but we continued talking everyday for months. Then he unfortunately lost his sibling and he really struggled mentally with the loss, and withdrew. Things ended because he was struggling, and lockdown didn't help the situation, but for a whole maybe a year or so, we continued to check in with eachother, so we've always cared and had support for one another.

A couple of years later, he reached out to me randomly asking if we could meet for a drink as he was coming to my town. At the time, I was seeing someone which turned into a long term relationship, so I turned down the invitation but I always wondered what if.

I don't know if I'm a bad person for saying this, but even when I was in a relationship, I had never forgotten about this man. I thought about him often, and hoped one day we would cross paths again.

Fast forward to over a month ago, and he dropped me a message. I had not long got out of the same relationship, which ended up being emotionally abusive, so I know I had some healing to do, but because it was him, I didn't want to jeopardise another chance with him. We talked every single day, he remembered details of my life, we reminisced about our shared past, the connection was instant. We had a date and it was really nice, he travelled the hour to see me and he paid, I offered but he insisted. We arranged another date around our schedules, however it didn't happen. Prior to the second date he disappeared which I thought was strange and out of the blue, because he showed no signs he would ghost and given our history I thought he would respect me enough not to do that. I knew his grandad was very unwell, and my first thought was something might have happened. I gave him space for a few days and asked him if he was okay. He was very warm and apologetic, and explained that he went away for work to distract him from everything. He also said that he didn't think he was over his ex yet and ready to move on. And he was very immature about how he handled it and he really didn't want to mess me about and he was very sorry for how he handled it. The conversation ended with care and respect and we told eachother to look after ourselves.

I can't lie I was incredibly upset but upon reflection I think neither of us are in the right space to start something new at this time as we both have some healing to do. I do believe we are in each other's orbit, we have come together several times in our lives but it hasn't seemed to be the right time. My interpretation is that he wanted to give us another chance, see what happens but when it started to feel more real he realised he wasn't ready. I'm hoping that one day when we are healed and in a good place we will find our way back to each other.

I'll try and make this short. I know people are gonna say there is no such thing, and I admit I didn't fully believe it until I met this person.

6 years ago I started dated this guy who lives an hour away from me. We had this instant connection, this chemistry I had never felt with anyone else, this mutual attraction, and a genuine care for one another. He put so much effort into our dates, and to be honest I fell for him quickly. Then lockdown hit, and we could no longer see each other but we continued talking everyday for months. Then he unfortunately lost his sibling and he really struggled mentally with the loss, and withdrew. Things ended because he was struggling, and lockdown didn't help the situation, but for a whole maybe a year or so, we continued to check in with eachother, so we've always cared and had support for one another.

A couple of years later, he reached out to me randomly asking if we could meet for a drink as he was coming to my town. At the time, I was seeing someone which turned into a long term relationship, so I turned down the invitation. But I always wondered what if.

I don't know if I'm a bad person for saying this, but even when I was in a relationship, I had never forgotten about this man. I thought about him often, and hoped one day we would cross paths again.

Fast forward to over a month ago, and he dropped me a message. I had not long got out of the same relationship, which ended up being emotionally abusive, so I know I had some healing to do, but because it was him, I didn't want to jeopardise another chance with him. We talked every single day, he remembered details of my life, we reminisced about our shared past, the same connection was instant. We had a date and it was really nice, he travelled the hour to see me and he paid for the date, I offered but he insisted. We arranged another date around our schedules for a couple of weeks later, however it didn't happen. Prior to the second date he disappeared which I thought was strange and out of character, because he showed no signs he would ghost and given our history I thought he would respect me enough not to do that. I knew his grandad was very unwell, and my first thought was something might have happened. I gave him space for a few days and asked him if he was okay. He was very warm and apologetic, and explained that he went away for work to distract him from everything. He also said that he didn't think he was over his ex yet and ready to move on. And he was very immature about how he handled it and he really didn't want to mess me about and he was very sorry. The conversation ended with care and respect and we told eachother to look after yourself.

I can't lie I was incredibly upset but upon reflection I think neither of us are in the right space to start something new at this time as we both have some healing to do. I do believe we are in each other's orbit, we have come together several times in our lives but it hasn't seemed to be the right time. My interpretation is that he wanted to give us another chance, see what happens but when it started to feel more real he realised he wasn't ready. I'm hoping that one day when we are healed and in a good place we will find our way back to each other.

Over a month ago I reconnected with a guy I had a few dates with years ago. Long story short, it end because of lockdown and he lives in another town. He reached out over a month ago, and we've been texting everyday since. We even met up, 3 weeks ago and agreed that we needed to arrange something else. Because of our schedules, we agreed we would arrange something this upcoming weekend, however a set plan hasn't been made. This was discussed days before he disappeared, and it was him who suggested it.

I haven't heard from him since Sunday. And after re-reading our messages wondering what went wrong, I don't understand why he'd disappear. He's always engaged in conversation, asks me questions, remembers things about my life, seems genuinely interested. The last message he sent asked me a question about my day, so it was obvious I was going to respond. I answered his question, and asked him 2 more, that message remains unopened. I will mention that he is not a huge texter, he was the same years ago, but he's never ghosted or disappeared for days at a time. Given our history, I'd like to think he'd respect me enough not to ghost.

Earlier in the week, I have seen that he had been tagged in 2 stories by someone he works with, the location was the same location I know his company is based (away from where he lives). For a few days, I understood that maybe that's why he hasn't messaged, because he must be away for work. But as the week went on, and still no contact, I'm starting to worry he's ghosting me. It seems very out of character for him, and that's why I'm so confused and don't know what to do about it. And I'm very disappointed that we agreed on this weekend to see each other and it's now Friday, and still nothing.

Over a month ago I reconnected with a guy I had a few dates with years ago. Long story short, it end because of lockdown and he lives in another town. He reached out over a month ago, and we've been texting everyday since. We even met up, 3 weeks ago and agreed that we needed to arrange something else. Because of our schedules, we agreed we would arrange something this upcoming weekend, however a set plan hasn't been made. This was discussed days before he disappeared, and it was him who suggested it.

I haven't heard from him since Sunday. And after re-reading our messages wondering what went wrong, I don't understand why he'd disappear. He's always engaged in conversation, asks me questions, remembers things about my life, seems genuinely interested. The last message he sent asked me a question about my day, so it was obvious I was going to respond. I answered his question, and asked him 2 more, that message remains unopened. I will mention that he is not a huge texter, he was the same years ago, but he's never ghosted or disappeared for days at a time. Given our history, I'd like to think he'd respect me enough not to ghost.

Earlier in the week, I have seen that he had been tagged in 2 stories by someone he works with, the location was the same location I know his company is based (away from where he lives). For a few days, I understood that maybe that's why he hasn't messaged, because he must be away for work. But as the week went on, and still no contact, I'm starting to worry he's ghosting me. It seems very out of character for him, and that's why I'm so confused and don't know what to do about it. And I'm very disappointed that we agreed on this weekend to see each other and it's now Friday, and still nothing.

I had a first date with a guy over a week ago. Long story short, we already know each other, we went on a few dates before lockdown, and we drifted because of lockdown, we live in different towns.

We got back in contact a few weeks ago, been talking every day since. He is not a big texter, but every text he is engaged, asks me questions, and remembers details of my life.

Our date was nice, we got on well, shared memories of previous dates, have banter, but he didn't kiss me, and the night ended with an awkward hug so I wasn't sure if it went well. He paid for the date, even though I offered, he insisted. He mentioned doing something properly next time, as the first date was quite rushed, as he was busy the next day. He's said that we need to do something properly twice, at the end of the date and the day after. However no plans have been made.

I initiated the first date, so I feel like I don't want to give him another nudge for a second date, as I feel like the ball is in his court. Contact is still fairly regular, he'll message everyday, asking if me questions, but there have been longer gaps between replies recently, not sure if it's because he's busy. Messages are often quite playful, but I wouldn't say flirty.

I really would like to see him again, but I'm not entirely sure where I stand, as he's not made plans. I just don't want this to be a waste of time, if I'm messaging him everyday and he has not intention of meeting up again