u/No_Friend_2938

I pray weekly over us and our relationship. We’ve been dealing with difficulty surrounding his insecurity and inability to trust and while I have been trying to remain patient it is now to the point where nearly everything is interpreted as a personal slight which creates consistent issues. I empathize but it feels like his inner turmoil is spilling outward and flooding every area of our relationship.

I recently prayed for “new experiences” that bring me closer to the vision God has for my being/life. I genuinely meant new friendships, opportunities, responsibilities etc. This was a prayer for alignment I have spoken over him many times. But he was deeply bothered by this, calling me wicked and stating this revealed the “truth of my character.” Am I wrong for thinking he is being unreasonable here?

Im struggling with feeling like patience and empathy are required to love someone well, but also feeling like continuing to validate his emotions is holding him back

My partner has been a bit touchy lately due to some financial troubles I believe. He‘s going through a career shift and I think he has complicated feelings around it so he is highly sensitive and often will catch an attitude for small things like me not agreeing to do something with him enthusiastically enough, me sitting too far from him when I’m working from home, once I got startled when he touched the back of my arm bc I didn’t hear him coming and he said it was a ”microaggresssion.“ It all comes back to him feeling unwanted/unloved.  I try to be patient and hold space for those feelings as I don’t want to promote any sort of toxic ideas such as ”man up.”

However, for the last few months I’ve been going through issues of my own. my two favorite uncles who I am very close to are going through health issues (major life altering stroke and stage 4 cancer) and I’ve been navigating my grief while also supporting my parents. He rarely has asked about this if ever. I asked him if he could call me bc I was having a rough day which he did and while I was opening up and in tears he kept cutting me off to make lil puns and rhymes about what I was saying. He says he was doing this to “cheer me up.” Personally, I think it’s important to express gratitude for someone’s effort even if it’s a lil less than what you need, that’s how I was raised. So I called before bed to thank him for making the time. 

But I became frustrated the following days in a conversation and mentioned that I didn’t like that he was cutting me off why I was trying to vent. He now says this invalidates any gratitude I previously expressed and that I need to apologize  to him for “causing drama” because he is “exceptional.”

ATP, I think I’m just kinda disgusted by his constant emotional needs and simultaneous inability to consider mine. He’s like a very large, mean baby to me. AITA for refusing to apologize?

My partner and I are in a long distance relationship. I tend to get together with my friends once every weekend. Sometimes more. We generally do stuff like make dinner, go to the beach, thrifting, etc. He says that a woman in a committed relationship shouldn't spend that much time outside of her home. According to him the action itself is not inappropriate but the frequency in which I do it is.

He also doesn't like when I post certain photos. I posted a picture of myself wearing a tank top and he said it made him uncomfortable. Another photo where I was wearing a sundress and there was maybe an centimeter of skin visible on my chest area and he told me this is “ I should've known it was not okay.”

I understand that there is some adjustments are fair in a relationship. I even to some extent get that some things are “too revealing” and I never want to dismiss the feelings or concerns of the people that I love. But I feel like this is a bit insane