I've saved some money up, and would appreciate advice on how reliable this car is, it has 208,000 miles on hand, is an automatic, seems to drive quite well and has a clean title in hand. It has some mods like tints and the wheels and some minor things in the interior with carplay also installed. is it worth it? Thanks!
I'm 20 years old, I really want a nice sports sedan or car for my first car, but I don't know if this this car is worth it or not, if it's reliable or how the management with it is. I like how it looks and it looks really cool. Could I get some advice on this?
The car itself has 95,000 miles and has a clean title. Wants 7k in cash.
I know this might sound corny but I’m literally at a point where I don’t know if I can handle this anymore.
Something my mom said has been on my mind. My parents have had a broken marriage most of my life. It's bad. They’re silently divorced but we all live together and haven't spoken since January 17th. They have a habit of not speaking for a while then randomly speaking again, typical all my life. Me and my siblings always convey messages between them, even in public, which was weird. I always got jealous of seeing happy families together lol. No major physical fights between them since 2015, accomplishment I guess. I’m a 20 year old dude in university, and if I had the money and if it wasn't forbidden in my Islam, I’d cut them off, I’d run away and never come back. I actually did run away at 15 but came back the same night, wasn’t built for that.
Last fall, my dad tried to marry someone overseas. My mom found out months later and told all of us, even my middle school sibling, who I didn’t think should have been told. I didn’t really care because it's been obvious they hate each other since I was a kid.
Last week, my mom brought up the cheating when we had a conversation about something else and topic of my dad came in and she asked, ”don’t you feel for your mother, how bad she must feel after your dad cheated.” Honestly, I didn’t care. I told her to complain to him, not me. She went on a rant about how she sacrificed her life and stayed in a miserable marriage for us, and called me ungrateful, she could have married another man or lived single, etc. I feel bad because she was abused as a kid and neglected by my dad, but I can't do anything about it. I'll admit I’ve done nothing to make them proud during my childhood or now.
Recently, my dad told me to pass a message to my mom of him going to Hajj. I told him to do it, and he just said ”f**k you .” It stung because he’s obnoxious and loud, but usually stoic. I hate how we act like this is a normal family. I did it for years, but I can’t handle it anymore.
My mom practically “lives for her kids“ now which makes me feel even guilty potentially doing something. Am I over blowing this, is this just normal drama in our cultures? I feel like this isn‘t how Muslim families should be.
How can I navigate all this without feeling guilty about hurting them? I feel like they’ve always annoyed me I don’t really wanna hurt their feelings but like I can’t do this anymore.
Something my mom said has been on my mind. My parents have had a broken marriage most of my life. It's bad. They’re silently divorced but we all live together and haven't spoken since January 17th. They have a habit of not speaking for a while then randomly speaking again, typical all my life. Me and my siblings always convey messages between them, even in public, which was weird. I always got jealous of seeing happy families together lol. No major physical fights between them since 2015, accomplishment I guess. I’m a dude in university, and if I had the money and it wasn't forbidden in my religion/culture, I’d run away and never come back. I actually did run away at 15 but came back the same night.
Last fall, my dad tried to marry someone overseas. My mom found out months later and told all of us, even my middle school sibling, who I didn’t think should have been told. I didn’t really care because it's been obvious they hate each other since I was a kid.
Last week, my mom brought up the cheating when we had a conversation about something else and topic of my dad came in and she asked, ”don’t you feel for your mother, how bad she must feel after your dad cheated.” Honestly, I didn’t give a shit. I told her to complain to him, not me. She went on a rant about how she sacrificed her life and stayed in a miserable marriage for us, and called me ungrateful, she could have married another man or lived single, etc. I feel bad because she was abused as a kid and neglected by my dad, but I can't do anything about it. I'll admit I’ve done nothing to make them proud during my childhood or now.
Recently, my dad told me to pass a message to my mom. I told him to do it, and he just said ”fuck you.” It stung because he’s obnoxious and loud, but usually stoic. I hate how we act like this is a normal family. I did it for years, but I can’t handle it anymore.
My mom practically “lives for her kids“ now which makes me feel even guilty potentially doing something.
TLDR: I (20M) grew up in a home where my parents have been emotionally separated for years, rarely speaking except through me and my siblings. They've involved us in their marriage our whole lives, and I'm exhausted from being caught in the middle. Recently, my mom tried to make me feel responsible for her suffering after my dad's attempted affair, while my dad got angry when I refused to pass messages between them. I care about them, especially knowing my mom's difficult past, but I can't keep acting as their mediator. How can I set boundaries and protect my own well-being without feeling guilty about hurting them? Am I overblowing this and it’s just pretty normal?