u/Normal-Hope258

I ordered a Nicole + Felicia gown from Kleinfeld a couple weeks ago, and I ordered it with a custom length since the pattern of the skirt makes it extremely difficult to hem (extra $800).

I also don’t want it hemmed, because the patterning of the skirt is intricate and varies from top to bottom and any cut would be obvious and visible because the pattern would no longer match up.

I ordered my dress at Kleinfeld, and when they took my measurements, they added an inch to the length measurement which they said was typical. I asked them not to do that, because I’d rather wear shorter heels than risk the skirt being too long. For context, my fiancé is extremely tall and so I’m wearing extremely tall heels (6.5 inches). I literally would not be able to find heels any taller than the ones I’m wearing or else I’d be less worried and just switch to taller shoes.

At this point I’m losing sleep over this. I don’t want to have spent hundreds of dollars on a custom length just to end up still having to hem it, which genuinely would ruin the skirt and cost over $1k because of the work that would need to be done. Do I call the store? Is it normal for dresses to be slightly longer than measured? I figure that they know what they’re doing but the added inch in worrying me

Destination wedding in Jaipur next year, live in San Francisco. Looking for locations for a very short honeymoon (4 days) that are at some point between India and SF, to save travel time. Starting March 1 2027.

Looking for a spa / relaxation vibe. I’m especially interested in “all inclusive” places with unlimited spa treatments (I know that isn’t common).

Also planning a large multi-month 1 year anniversary trip, so no Thailand.

Budget $10k ish not including flights

I’m only having one bridesmaid, my MOH, so I’ve left her attire mostly up to her. She will be sitting in the front row rather than standing, so I’m not super picky about what she wears.

I want to avoid getting a super specific color or style, since I hear that a lot of bridesmaids dresses are rarely reworn— I would rather get her a really nice black tie dress that she could rewear to other weddings or events. She wouldn’t otherwise be able to afford a gown for herself, so I want it to be a nice gift that she will truly get some use out of.

But she’s struggling because I haven’t pointed her in a specific direction, and I’m struggling to narrow down since I I don’t really have any preferences. Budget is $400, can stretch a little for something truly amazing. I’ve purchased two other outfits already for other wedding events for her, which is why the budget for this dress is a little lower.

Does anyone have any suggestions on where to look or the type of dress that may fit this? We looked at Macy’s and the selection was disappointing. Want something that will fit a number of occasions. My one ask is that it’s not black (cultural reasons for my wedding).

I am close family friends with a family that has two sibling weddings close together late (around Oct 1st and Dec 1st) this year. One will be in the South of France and the other is an Indian wedding in South India. Unfortunately I cannot afford to attend both, and I need to pick. I am close to the parents and they are having a tough time gauging who will come to what, and I'm trying to help them out a bit too, but I genuinely don't know what decision most people would make in this scenario. The cost is not a blocker for most of the guests, but regardless, it is still a commitment of money and time. All of the "younger" guests don't have kids, and most of the "older" guests are retired. I'd say about half of the older guests that still work work for the Father of the grooms, so PTO is a bit more flexible there.

Wedding 1 (India) is a Friday night - Monday morning, and they are paying for accommodations / all meals / travel to/from the airport. All events onsite at a resort about an hour from the city so not much opportunity to explore. I'd have to take 2-3 days off of work, and the flights are \\\~$1200-$1800. Travel is obviously long.

Wedding 2 (France) is a Saturday wedding and brunch the next day, they are paying for a shuttle between the hotel and the venue. Both events are at the venue but hotel is in the city so could explore a bit outside of events. Flights are \\\~$900-$1100, hotels $150-$200 a night, and I'd be on my own for meals outside of the wedding. Technically I could fly after work Friday and after brunch Sunday and take no time off of work, but it would be tiring.

I assume most guests will be in the same situation... what would you rather attend? Will send a gift to whatever I don't attend.

my fiance and his brother are getting married next year. not going to go into it but his brother and brother’s fiance decided to get engaged on a whim after my fiance and I started talking about it, booked our date when we started discussing the dates we thinking of, asked MIL for our whole guest list, copied our destination, added a second church ceremony when they found out we were having a catholic ceremony, etc etc etc. not one original thought. there’s more to this where brother’s fiance is a bully to me but his family is too non confrontational to care. we’ve been trying our best to keep them on an information diet but that’s hard because MIL knows about both and is a blabbermouth.

meanwhile since we had to pick a new date MIL wanted us to wait a whole extra year, and more. we ended up settling on a date 2 months before them, almost exactly one year from out engagement, which MIL complained about until we put our foot down. both families are contributing so they have input.

most recent in the saga is our guests contact information. we spent HOURS collecting address info from our guests, took extra long because we have so many guests in so many different countries. we sent out our save the dates last week and people have started receiving them. upon hearing this, his brother and fiance decided they need to send save the dates (email) right now too, and have been pestering my fiance to send them all of our guests’ info. my fiance suggested that they wait a week so our guests aren’t simultaneously receiving save the dates for two weddings in the same family and getting confused. they agreed to this but then ran to his mom and now MIL is yelling at us to send her the info immediately. I gave up and sent it over but I’m pissed. I feel like I’m doing all this work alone and now MIL is continuing to help them just steal my work and ideas.

meanwhile she hasn’t helped plan anything at all for us but is deeply invested in their event.

hi! I’m not a usual Hyatt customer but we are getting married at a Hyatt property and have bought out the entire place for a weekend.

we are spending quite a bit but the hotel only offers 50k points earned regardless of spend.

is there a chance of gaining status or any other perks because of our spend and not because of the points? I would ask the hotel directly but they’re extremely unprofessional and difficult to deal with. is this something I could go through corporate for?

can someone help me understand the difference in wedding pricing in India? for example, I see some posts on here (saw one today) where it is said that 10L is an okay budget for a 700-800 person wedding with 2 events. yet I am struggling to find vendors in my budget for a 3cr+ budget wedding with under 200 guests. I just don’t understand the gap in pricing. theoretically I should be able to pay more for these vendors and get what I want.

Is there a secret tier of vendors im not seeing?! this is a huge amount of money for me and my family and while we can afford it I really want to get our money’s worth. can someone suggest florists (our decor is almost entirely florals) that are reliable and well priced? Ideally in delhi or rajasthan!

thank you!!!

our planner has had a number of weddings published in vogue, and recently told us we match the profile of such a wedding, and that we’d have a “good chance” of being published. what are your opinions on being published? I’ve been kind of ambivalent about it so far, so I’m conflicted on my feelings about it. on one hand it feels kind of performative, but on the other hand seems like a really cool opportunity

I’m desperate at this point. I genuinely cannot find a single person with basic professionalism. already booked my venue (a mistake) and have no way to back out.

I’m struggling to find a wedding planner that fits my requirements.

- has done Christian weddings

- has done South Indian weddings

- has worked in Jaipur / rajastan

- responsive, organized, and trustworthy

- good floral design sense (or allows us to hire our own decorator)

- can work with large-ish budget (80L, not including venue, food, or stay) to get us the best value and not just throw money at stuff

- ideally has published work

we just had a terrible experience with KKings events trying to extort us for more money because we said we needed a day to decide.

please let me know if you have experiences with these companies!