u/Northern_Nomad3178

House we live in was meant to be temporary when we moved to this city, but it has been 2 years.

Current house is a four Plex and we share the yard with four other families. It is also a 3 bedroom.

It was a big transition when we moved to his house after my divorce because we were in a four bedroom 3000 square-foot house the kids each had their own rooms plus a giant playroom plus a rec room, in addition to the kitchen, living room room, etc.
We also don’t have a dishwasher, which means the kids end up doing a lot of washing the dishes.

A house recently became available closer to my work, but would mean that my younger kids would need to change schools, and because we have the other families to help with yard maintenance and such there would be more put on us.

Also the before, and after school program at the school my kids currently go to is very expensive. This other schools before and after school program is run by the Boys & Girls Club and is free. Which would wash the increase in rent for the next couple of years.

My younger kids like their school and did not want to switch schools and my oldest daughter just really didn’t want to move. Packing boxes, moving furniture, etc. is a lot of work and I’m kind of on her side with that.

When I told him my aunt this, she was shocked that I would even ask my kids. She told me that I’m the parent and that I have to make the decision that’s best for us. And if that’s moving, then we move whether or not they like it.

Edit: we did not move.

My kid is not going to college next year. My kid has a full time job making double minimum wage in their chosen career. My kid is going to work for 2-3 years then revisit the idea of college. Yes in order to move up they will require some sort of post, secondary education, but working full-time for a few years is a valid option, and we should be just as proud of those kids as the ones going to College. And those kids should be celebrated just as much at the graduation ceremony and awards banquets as the kids going to college.

Update: Spoke to the core teacher and found out that his room teacher is asking him if he wants his “quiet time” during recess.

My son is supposed to be getting two brakes at school one in the morning and one in the afternoon.
The reason we did this is because recess isn’t a break for him, it’s actually more stressful because he’s trying to mask in order to fit in with the other kids and make”friends”

The problem is that his teacher is not giving him the brakes. She said that all he has to do is ask, but he’s 9 and not asking. At our last meeting, it was agreed that he would get a break whether or not he asked.

Is this an unreasonable request that he gets 10 minutes every morning and every afternoon to go to the sensory room, and the teacher sent him, without him asking?

We also have two weeks left of school.

My son is Gr4 my daughter is Gr2.

New neighbours, a blended family, moved in this winter, Their daughter is in Gr1 and lives there full time and they have a son Gr3 who is only there sometimes.

Every day when we get home from work and daycare the girl comes to ask if my daughter can come out to play. When we don’t have activities, I sent my kids outside to play. Lately she’s been openly saying that she does not want to play with my son, and is saying that she doesn’t like him.

It gets a little more complicated because we live in a 4-Plex with a shared yard. The yard is somewhat separated, and because the house is on a triangle lot. I have the biggest section. Followed by the neighbour in front of me and then the new neighbour. In my section of yard, I have a trampoline.

My son is ADHD and he has an engineer brain so he’s not into sports and is not very social.

I’ve talked to the parents a few times in passing, but don’t really know them that well.

I’m not sure how to handle this situation because not wanting to play with a kid is fine, but to say that to someone’s face is mean.
And she’s taking my kids toys out to play with but then saying she doesn’t want to play with my son.

I don’t really care if the kids that live in the 4-Plex play with my kids toys. To me if they leave them out it’s fair game, they play with the other kids toys and the trampoline is always there so I can’t keep them off it. I’ve had no issues with the other neighbours kids. They just play nice.

But if this kid is gonna be like that, I don’t want her on my trampoline and I don’t want her playing with my kids’ toys, I also don’t want my daughter playing with her.

I have spoken to my daughter about it, but that leads into another complicated situation because she is a social butterfly and her brother is not. We had issues because he will use her like a security blanket at recess, and there were big issues last summer at camp.

My son is Gr4 my daughter is Gr2.

New neighbours, a blended family, moved in this winter, Their daughter is in Gr1 and lives there full time and they have a son Gr3 who is only there sometimes.

Every day when we get home from work and daycare the girl comes to ask if my daughter can come out to play. When we don’t have activities, I sent my kids outside to play. Lately she’s been openly saying that she does not want to play with my son, and is saying that she doesn’t like him.

It gets a little more complicated because we live in a 4-Plex with a shared yard. The yard is somewhat separated, and because the house is on a triangle lot. I have the biggest section. Followed by the neighbour in front of me and then the new neighbour. In my section of yard, I have a trampoline.

My son is ADHD and he has an engineer brain so he’s not into sports and is not very social.

I’ve talked to the parents a few times in passing, but don’t really know them that well.

I’m not sure how to handle this situation because not wanting to play with a kid is fine, but to say that to someone’s face is mean.
And she’s taking my kids toys out to play with but then saying she doesn’t want to play with my son.

I don’t really care if the kids that live in the 4-Plex play with my kids toys. To me if they leave them out it’s fair game, they play with the other kids toys and the trampoline is always there so I can’t keep them off it. I’ve had no issues with the other neighbours kids. They just play nice.

But if this kid is gonna be like that, I don’t want her on my trampoline and I don’t want her playing with my kids’ toys, I also don’t want my daughter playing with her.

I have spoken to my daughter about it, but that leads into another complicated situation because she is a social butterfly and her brother is not. We had issues because he will use her like a security blanket at recess, and there were big issues last summer at camp.