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Am I going insane? She was totally in the wrong to kiss Tristan. She should’ve never been in that situation to begin with. Yes she was young and he’s a whore but that’s besides the point. Someone with morals would’ve stayed the hell away from him. They’re all rich and famous but their sense of morality seems to be so much lower than everyone else’s. I don’t know why people act like Jordyn is the innocent one in all this. I think she invited all of her old friends to show them how much better her life is than theirs. If my best friend got with my sisters whatever i’d never speak to them again. I know they share men so maybe Kylie sees it as okay? I don’t envy any of their lives, I’d hate to live within their morality system, seems so miserable and disloyal.

I have to be in contact with my ex because we share two children together. When we were together he didn’t want me to drive or get a job. Since we broke up i’ve gotten a fantastic job with a great boss. However my ex keeps messing me around, saying he’ll take the kids to school but then leaving it to the last minute to say he won’t be doing so - making me late to work. My boss says let him think he’s screwing up my job but that she’ll allow me to start later and work later. He’s dragging me down even when i’m no longer with him. I feel he uses the fact he has a car and I don’t over me. He doesn’t have a job and pretty much hasn’t since we’ve been together. If I try to set a boundary with him he threatens suicide, he’s done this many times. I contact his mother and the police to do a wellness check, in the hopes this will give a wake up call as I know he’s doing it just to manipulate me… He somehow watches what I get up to on social media, by looking at friends posts and messages me saying I look beautiful, wish he was with me etc but when I was with him he’d never ever come with me as a plus one anywhere and mess me around with that as well. What should I do?

I’m 5ft2 and my weight stays put at 8 stone. I have to essentially not eat anything to lose one pound in a month. I look small but not toned. I actually look like I weigh more than I do as i’m flabby. Even when I weight train and do cardio at the gym, nothing improves! I stop and whatever tiny gains I got, disappear in a week!!!

I’ve just kind of realised this is it for life now?! I have to work so hard just to get the tiniest bit of tone.

When I first started dating my boyfriend 6 months ago I asked if he’s still in contact with any exes or. He said no, he might wish some happy birthday etc. I asked if he has a gotten with any of his female friends and he said no. I was very upfront as it’s a dealbreaker for me, i’ve been cheated on twice by people with their exes. I’m friendly with one ex, we have mutual friends so run into each other at parties etc but I would never private message him or meet up one on one etc he married and I get on with his wife, although she probably wouldn’t have ended up liking me if I didn’t have these boundaries.

Anyway out of NOWHERE, an hour after I found out my auntie has cancer, he decides to tell me that he did in fact sleep with his female best friend, the one he’d been encouraging me to become friends with, just before we got together. In all honesty I found it kind of funny as I couldn’t imagine them together at all. I also like her. However what set alarm bells for me is that he lied about it! I asked him if I could have some space for the weekend to think things through. I realised that in the future he might hide and lie about other things, for his own benefit, not mine. So he can have his cake and eat it too.

Anyway over the course of the weekend, he decides to come clean and tells me he’s actually slept with another one of his friends (one that regularly hangs out with us, like every weekend!) and another (a girl that’s very needy and they go one on one “dates” with, that was very frosty with me when I met her.)

I’m kind of flabbergasted! I feel like i’m overreacting and he says he can’t believe i’m contemplating breaking up over this. He says it was just sex etc and that all his friends would get with each other on nights out…

It makes me feel really uncomfortable but he’s saying i’m just being insecure. He’s implying I don’t want him to have female friends, to which I pointed out i’m okay with him being friends with all his other female friends… I also feel embarrassed that he was introducing me to all these girls and encouraging me to be friends with them, like take me under their wing almost… feels so strange! It doesn’t help I don’t like two of them

My ex of 6 years abruptly broke up with me out of nowhere on a random Friday evening. Everything was normal, one second he was downstairs laughing at the TV, the next he’s asking for a chat but “nothing serious” he then proceeds to tell me for the first time that he’s having reservations about buying a house with me, can I give him a few days to think about things. I say it sounds like he wants to break up with me and then he jumps on it as a suggestion “okay! I think it’s for the best.” I’m in a state of complete shock, he basically scoops me up and drives me all the way to my parents, drives off, doesn’t even wait for me to get in the front door. It’s 10pm at night. We’re all completely shocked. I think he’s had a mental breakdown or cheated on me. I get a message saying if it’s true, he’s already going around announcing to mutual friends we’ve broken up…

The following weeks I kind of feel completely surreal. He doesn’t contact me or anything to see how i’m doing. One of his friends messages me to see if im okay and I say no, it was a shock. He then messages me to say he knows he owes me a bigger explanation but he’s not ready…

I feel like i’m in a reality TV show, that he’s going to jump out and say it’s all an experiment. I don’t know who this person is that’s replaced the man i’ve slept next to and spoken to for the last 6 years…

Everytime I try to wrap my head around it, my head literally feels like it’s split in two and vibrating like a metronome. I’m worried i’m losing my mind.

Yes this might seem like a stupid question but i’m curious! With GLP-1s do you lose so much weight because you’re eating much smaller portions?

I’ve noticed that people on them lose so much weight so quickly and they seem to pick at meals like it’s a snack instead of eat 3 square meals a day.

At the end of the day, are they just eating a lot lot less?

I’ve been with my boyfriend for 6 years. The weekend before last we went on holiday together, he thanked me for a wonderful time. We’ve been house hunting to buy a place together for about 6 months. He’s been just as involved as I have.

Last Friday, after work we went to a house viewing. My parents came to look as well just out of interest of the area we’re looking at. On the way home my boyfriend asked if I could cook dinner tonight as he’s tired. I said of course. He asked if I wanted to go out that weekend for his friends birthday I say yes.

As i’m upstairs cleaning, I can hear him downstairs laughing at the TV. He then comes up and asks for a quick chat but don’t worry it’s nothing serious. He then proceeds to tell me he’s not sure if buying a house together is what he really wants and if i’ll give him a few days to think about breaking up.

I’m completely blindsided. This is the first time he’s ever expressed any misgivings about a.) buying a house together and b.) wanting to break up.

A few weekends ago he went out with friends and got hammered. He posted an instagram selfie that seemed very out of character. I asked him at the time about it and he laughed it off saying “oh are you worried i’m acting single” and I say no it’s just so… out of character!?

Anyway back to the current situation. I ask him if he’s cheated on me and is too afraid to come clean so wants to break up. He says no. I ask how long has he been having these thoughts and he says I don’t know, days..?

So I say so you’ve suddenly had these thoughts after 6 years and want to immediately act on them instead of talk things out with me… I say it sounds like he wants to actually break up.

He then kind of jumps on this and says okay! If you say so, I think it’s for the best.

I’m completely shaken. As in frozen on the spot, still stood up from when he entered the room. He then is like i’ll take you to be with your parents and kind of rushes me out of the door! He’s calmly going around the house locking up the doors.

I burst out crying, he dumps me off at my parents house and doesn’t even wait for them to answer the door before driving off. It’s 9pm at night. They’re like what the hell is wrong, think I must be pregnant. I explain what happened and they’re completely mystified. As am I.

At first I’m extremely worried for him and think he’s had some kind of breakdown. To go from one extreme to the next in a matter of hours, with no emotion. He cried when he first told me but it felt very fake and he quickly snapped out of it.

I then get a message from a close friend asking if it’s true, have we broken up. I ring her and say I don’t know, what has he said. She said he messaged her amongst another friend that we’ve broken up but not to worry things won’t be akward in the friendship group. She’s so mad he’s just dumped this info on her out of nowhere. She immediately goes to my defence.

By the way there’s no chance he likes her like that, she’s just the only person that messaged me. He messaged pretty much all our mutual friends it seems within an hour of dumping me! Whilst i’m still in shock he’s gone around announcing it.

He doesn’t speak to me at all. His mum messages me the next day saying I deserve better than a one sided relationship, she wishes me the best and it’s not how she wish our story had gone… So she essentially confirms it and not him.

Edit to say he’s not said anything to me since apart form a very unemotional and robotic response to me asking when I can come move my stuff out. He speaks to me like i’m a colleague.

Another of his friend messaged me to ask if i’m okay and to say to be honest no i’m not i’m completely shocked. He then messages me straight after saying he knows he owes me a bigger explanation but right now he doesn’t want to or something along those lines!

Settle a debate for me. My girlfriend runs a card selling business, she sends things 2nd class Royal Mail as that’s the cheapest shipping option for customers. However people often expect their order to arrive next day delivery, file false chargebacks within days, demand refunds. Bad thing is because this shipping option is without tracking we have no proof they’re lying.

I want her to change her shipping to tracked, which would increase shipping costs for the customer. She says most people will be unwilling to pay more in shipping than the item.

So my question is this, how much would YOU expect to pay in shipping for a card?

me:
cap sun
libra rising
aries moon
cap venus
taurus mars
cap mercury

him:
sag sun
sag moon
cap venus
taurus mars
cap mercury

he doesn’t know what time of day he was born, also the rest of our placements like lilith and jupiter are the same

Last year my friend set me up with one of her fiancés best friends. He was (still is?) going through a divorce but they’d been seperated over a year. The marriage only lasted 2 months and then she left him. Needless to say this all sounded to me like a bunch of drama I didn’t want to get caught up in. However after months of him asking me and my friend encouraging me to date him, I finally went.

We actually got on really well! However about 3 months in he got a letter from his exes solicitor, said he needed some space to process how he was going to deal with it. I said cool, here to support etc but tbh it kind of spooked me. He then said the following day he feels loads better.

We normally would see each other every weekend. The weekend rolls around and I ask if we’re going to see each other. He makes a load of vague excuses. I say it seems like he’s distancing himself and if he’s losing interest that’s okay but just say. He then bites my head off and is like so just because i’m busy you’re getting a vibe! I’m not doing this every time i’m busy.

I feel quite shocked by his reaction and it doesn’t reassure me at all. I try to communicate with him but he just goes quiet. I then send another message and he ignores me. Then we get into a bit of an argument.

A week goes by and I reach out to apologise. I’m mindful of the fact we have to see each other at this destination wedding, so I want to keep things civil. I say i’m here to have a chat to clear the air. However I think he sees this as me trying to get back with him. He says “right now i’m not open to simply jumping back in to where we left off, as you say things should be easy in the beginning.” I say cool, that’s understandable and keep it short n sweet.

He doesn’t reply and then watched my instagram stories for the next few weeks. I eventually remove him as a follower some months down the line…

I’m kind of nervous how he’s going to be at the wedding. It’s making me a bit anxious. It’s a small wedding in the middle of nowhere abroad and the wedding is at the villa. It’s in close quarters.

Based on how he acted when I tried to extend an olive branch I find odd. I don’t know why he wasn’t thinking ahead.

Guy i’m dating seperated from him wife over a year ago and is currently going through a divorce. Mutual friend set us up after he kept asking after me, they convinced me to go on a date with him. Told me he sees the divorce as a normal break up.

All that to say, the last 2 months have been great. We get on better than I thought. Then he got a letter from her solicitor. He said he needed some time to process how he was going to handle it, not to take the space personally, he didn’t want me to see this side of him.

I was a bit taken aback, I think the reality of him going through a divorce kind of hit me. I was supportive, said I understood. Next morning he claims he’s now all good…

However as the week progresses he begins to act a bit distant. We’ve made plans to see each other everytime we’ve parted ways. This time he says nothing. Weekend is coming up so I ask if we’re going to see each other at some point.

At first he’s like sorry i’m busy i’m doing xyz. If it were me turning down plans i’d say i’m busy but i’m free next week and would like to see you etc. Yet he doesn’t… so I said i’m getting the vibe he’s maybe losing interest (big mistake I know but i’m trying to be vulnerable and communicate instead of jump to conclusions and runaway.)

He then bites my head off! And says oh so because i’m busy you get the vibe i’m losing interest, i’m not doing this everytime i’m busy…

I think this is honestly quite a rude reaction, I feel like it’s fair enough for me to check in early on in dating if someone is still happy with how things are going… Is that just not common sense!?