u/NovelResolution8593

My alcoholic son is deep into his addiction. Today was the first time I’ve seen him in a few weeks. He just came back from the hospital and psych ward. He fell down his stairs and knocked over his tv. He called 911 and they took him to the er and then sent him to the psych ward after his X-rays were good. I stopped by to make sure he is still alive. He was passed out drunk in bed. His apt needs to be condemned. The psych ward is mad that I refuse to let him live with me. I just hate this crap so much.

Messy apartment

I really, really want to clean my adult son’s apartment because it’s a nasty mess. Like food is in the floor and has been for weeks. The smell is awful and he is laying on a nasty mattress. He got fired and the only source of money is his credit card which I know he doesn’t have the money to pay for it. He just got back from rehab about a month ago and immediately went back to drinking. I have cleaned his place 3 different times in the past few years but I have to stop. I feel like the worst mother ever. I want to save him but he’s a grown man (27) and I can’t keep getting hurt by him. He lies and manipulates me. Please tell me it’s okay to let him live like this. I’m sick over it. I just want him to feel better.

I stopped by to see how my son is doing. His apartment is trashed with food in the floor. It’s covered in vomit and garbage. I found him upstairs asleep on a bed covered in vomit without a sheet. I woke him up and told him he has to stop drinking. I tried to get him to take a shower but he just got in the shower with his clothes on and got soaked and got out and went back to bed. He then asked me to go buy him something to eat and to help him clean his apartment. I told him he has to help me but he said he’s too drunk and can’t walk around. I did buy him some food but I honestly think if I clean his apartment, he will continue to drink. I did pour out the rest of his alcohol. His clothes have been laying in the floor for the last 6 months even though he’s got a washer and dryer in his apartment. I had to leave because I can’t keep enabling him. His rent is in two days and I refuse to pay it. He will be getting evicted soon. Am I right to not help him? I’m so torn. I honestly want to just go no contact since he refuses to help himself. I love him but he’s slowly killing me. Please help me.

Update: I stopped by after work to check on him today and he was so drunk, he could barely talk and stand. He was furious at me for pouring out his alcohol. I told him he is officially on his own and I came home. I wish he would stop drinking but I don’t deserve this anymore. I’m done. Wish me luck that I don’t get weak and stay strong. Thanks for all the advice. I really do appreciate everyone helping me out with this. Thank you 😊

My son(27) just got back from rehab and immediately started drinking. He has been fired and will be evicted soon. His apartment is trashed and he is just drinking and passing out and so on. I think I am finally done seeing him like that. I am currently sick and I believe it’s because he has been worrying me so much. I love him but I can’t handle the headache anymore.

Well he finally showed up to my house and told me he hasn’t eaten since Tuesday but he has been drinking. We just got back from rehab on Monday. He was still wearing the same clothes he had been wearing in rehab. I have strep but I still cooked for him. He got mad because I made him go back home. His apartment looks like a drug house and he said he isn’t capable of cleaning it. He’s a 27 year old man. He even brought clothes because he thought I would let him stay here. I gathered up some food and kicked him out. I feel like the worst parent ever. Did I do the right thing? He has a job but won’t go to work. He’s almost out of money. I know he will be back tomorrow expecting to lay around and eat. I’m too sick to fool with him right now. I started crying and he hugged me and said sorry for being a pos.

Return from rehab

I just found out that my son only called me from rehab because his therapist made him. But she expects me to help him clean his apartment, it looks like a drug den, and support him in staying sober. I want to help him. I’m actually paying for his trip home but I am not really feeling like helping someone who doesn’t even want to speak to me. I wish she didn’t even call me because not I am pissed off and this is my only day off for the next seven days. Why can’t he just straighten up and stop depending on me so much. I’m about ready to cut him off completely.

I just found out that my son only called me from rehab because his therapist made him. But she expects me to help him clean his apartment, it looks like a drug den, and support him in staying sober. I want to help him. I’m actually paying for his trip home but I am not really feeling like helping someone who doesn’t even want to speak to me. I wish she didn’t even call me because not I am pissed off and this is my only day off for the next seven days. Why can’t he just straighten up and stop depending on me so much. I’m about ready to cut him off completely.

My 27 year old son is coming home from rehab Monday. I am really excited about seeing him but I am really nervous about his sobriety. His apt looks like a drug house because he stopped cleaning it months ago. I did buy him cleaning supplies but I left the mess because he needs to be held accountable for his actions. Im worried it will trigger him when he gets home. His therapist at rehab wants me to help him clean it so we can bond. I want to help him but this is his 3rd trip to rehab. Can someone please help me figure out what to do? Thank you 😊

My son is currently in rehab but will not contact me until he needs something. I’m sick of being treated like this. He will be expecting me to drive over 4 plus hours one way to pick him up. I’m tired of being used, what can I do????